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In wanting DH to go to bed early

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TicklishHedgehog · 16/01/2026 15:13

DH generally only gets in from work at gone 7. He stays up super late, often only goes to bed at around 2 in the morning.

The problem is he’s then exhausted the next morning and we have two young children. So when they wake up it’s me who goes to them as DH is unconscious. For years now I’ve got up with them in the morning and I don’t mind in the week but never having a break from it gets me down

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LiveLaughGoblin · 16/01/2026 15:37

Insist he does his fair share and if he’s tired because he’s been scrolling on his phone til 2am that’s his problem. Not sure why you are putting up with this crap.

TicklishHedgehog · 16/01/2026 15:36

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 16/01/2026 15:31

How old are the children? For them to be young and this also to be going on years?

One is six and one is two

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sharkyroy · 16/01/2026 15:33

YANBU, but, you have allowed this to happen, for years. Why are you posting about it now? Are you thinking of discussing it with him?

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 16/01/2026 15:31

How old are the children? For them to be young and this also to be going on years?

rubyslippers · 16/01/2026 15:30

well how does he get up for work? Or is this only the weekends where he doesn’t wake

TicklishHedgehog · 16/01/2026 15:22

I think he does work sometimes (he doesn’t game) he sometimes watches tv or just scrolls on his phone

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rubyslippers · 16/01/2026 15:18

How does he get himself up for work but not for his kids
what is he doing until 2 am - working or gaming?