My son is 24 years old; has dropped out of uni 2ce; with a large student loan now. He does not ask for advice on how to move forward and does not share his information.
My pension does not cover my costs, my son lives in my home rent free, paying no bills and feels this is his due as I am his mother and he has no income.
He has been told he does not qualify for JSA, as he does not have enough NI credits;
He does not want to apply enough care in my home for hygiene and protecting items in my home. (A 3-bed house). He has refused to accept my rules for my home.
I live on the state pension having spent a huge amount of my income on private education for my son from the age of 2 years to 15 years.
The only options I see I have, are to sell my home or rent it out and move away, but the latter is a scary option as I like to be alone and love the corner in buckinghamshire where I have chosen to plant myself, even before I became his mother. (As a single parent.)
I just want to be away from my son. I have given him verbal notice to leave over 12 months ago, and have put this in writing 2 weeks back now. He doesn't believe I can enforce this.
I really do not want to spend the rest of my life, servicing him, forcing him to meet my level of hygiene or cleaning up after him.
I feel I am being coercively controlled by my son to fund his cost of living.
Further, I am really not living the life I had planned. I am 66 years old. I just want to be free to live the rest of my life as I had planned in my own home alone and not having to meet a confrontation to force a 24 year old man to meet my requests and standards for my home.
Isn't 24 years of age old enough to live independently? -Surely there is government support to help him to get on his feet.
I'd love to hear your views.