MOH for sister and newborn not allowed in wedding venue

Your sister sounds like an asshole.
Id drop out and tell her thats why

I hope if she ever has a baby she’ll realise how incredibly unreasonable she is being and be suitably embarrassed and apologetic. Tell her either the baby is in the same hotel or you will not be able to attend the wedding. No third option.

My DD completely refused bottles, and I was absolutely unable to pump.

Your baby could end up being severely unwell as a result of your sisters selfish behaviour.

Just tell her it’s probably best you withdraw graciously now, as it obviously isn’t going to work.

Yeah, I also wouldn’t be attending that wedding. Not wanting your baby in the building at all is so bizarre and completely unreasonable.

Your sister is being awful. I cannot imagine anyone let alone my sister saying I cannot have my newborn baby in the same hotel that’s ludicrous I’ve never heard of such nonsense.

Christ, who needs enemies when you have family like this.

You know that your sister is being completely unreasonable. Don't you?

If I were your mother I'd be knocking your heads together and telling her, in particular, that you can't sideline a small baby in this way just because you're getting married.

Wow is your sister always this awfully self centred and ridicilous? She has a lot of growing up to do.

Tell her that you are going to have to withdraw from both being a MOH and potentially even as a guest given she cannot accommodate your more than reasonable suggestion.

She's being wildly unreasonable. You can't leave a baby that young. I would just send your apologies.

Excluding newborns means excluding breastfeeding mothers.

Sister is being so preposterous I'm struggling to believe this is real. If it actually is then the only response is to laugh at her and pull out.

Weddings these days seem to basically be about treating the bride like an A list celebrity for the day rather than celebrating a marriage. It's actually pitifully sad that her sense esteem is so delicate that she views a newborn niece/nephew as competition.

She doesn’t want your child in the same building.

You tell her to get the fuck over herself, wish her well, don’t go the wedding and tell everyone why.

Your sister sounds awful. What sane person worries about a baby “stealing the limelight”? Just tell her now that you can no longer be MOH. Do NOT apologise.

It would be a hard no from me. The baby will, rightly, be your priority. I get not wanting a baby in the ceremony, but not on the premises is insane

Decline now. Being separated from your tiny baby will feel like torture. your sister is being unbelievably self centred. Maybe your mother can tell her to behave.

If you're breastfeeding you can't be 20 minutes (40 mins round trip) away from your newborn let alone 1-2 days.

I would be telling her in no uncertain terms what a demanding nightmare she is and that you'll not have any part in her day. Do not allow her to pull the strings and make you feel uncomfortable away from newborn or you'll resent that and her unreasonable behaviour for years to come.

Your sister is awful. Her niece/nephew being on the premises far away from the celebrations will somehow steal her thunder? Is your sister even old enough to be getting married with that attitude? Fine not to want someone - of any age - wailing at the back when you're taking your vows - but you've come up with a perfectly reasonable plan and she is a being a self-centred princess. You've tried to compromise - she won't - she I just wouldn't go.

Your sister is being a bit of a bridezilla about this, I wouldn't want to be separated from my very tiny baby, especially while still establishing breast feeding so I would give my apologies now.

Tell her you can no longer attend.
you have fought to have a baby.
you will be very vulnerable and potentially unwell after baby is born.

certainly tired and on edge
you don’t need this nonsense in your life
sack off the wedding and focus on your baby and motherhood

it is what it is.
if she is being as daft as this you don’t want this bridezilla ruining your new motherhood bubble.
and. Should not have to either.
she will have to find a new MoH. Such a shame. But she thinks so little of you she cannot think of anyone but herself.

selfish cow. She is.

be strong OP. And tell her. Baby comes. Or I don’t come to the wedding at all. Let alone as your MoH.
what an entitled bitch she is. Even more so given your journey to motherhood.

best of luck OP.

She doesn’t get to decide who stays in the hotel and who doesn’t, she doesn’t fucking own it. I wouldn’t have even asked. What is it with people getting married and thinking they can make decisions for others

I would decline all together.

Your solution of MIL upstairs in the hotel in a room is honestly an excellent one. If she can't accept that then I think you'll have to say that you can't be MOH and you'll come to part of the day (pick which part) but you can't come to the whole thing. There's zero way you'll feel like going to a wedding anyway !

No, it’s 100% not ok to be apart from the baby at that age for that reason. Why would you still be considering attending that wedding? Nethermind making your husband stay home, neither of you go

Anyone who thinks a newborn baby will take the attention away from them is being ridiculous. You tell your sister that you can't be away from a newborn for more than a couple of hours so you will be stepping down from MOH.

Your sister's selfish bridezilla behaviour is pathetically childish, narcissistic and very disappointing.

And congratulations. I hope all goes well for you 💐