MOH for sister and newborn not allowed in wedding venue

Hi o.p I wondered how things have been? X

Same here

a tad dramatic baby need changing and feeding not clinical life support

Your new baby will be relying on you for his survival and no one else can provide that very important love and care other than yourself.

What your sister is expecting from you is completely outragious, you will have a new born to take care of and she wants to seperate you from your new born to make the day about her and this is more than horrendous.

She is mindless and selfish and for this reason, you need to put your baby first due to her attempting to seperate you from your new born at such a critical time. Your babys' survival depends on you, your baby will want you and no one else.

Your sister is cruel and mindless and should be ashamed of herself.

Exactly.
"I’ll update on what ends up happening for anyone who is curious xx"
(OP, in January). The wedding was in May. They never come back.

@Elliee0810
What's the latest OP?

Thinking of you.

I wouldn't attend. She's entitled to have a child free wedding but she will so have to face it that she cannot come between you and your newborn. Your parents should step in.

Wow I can’t believe how selfish your sister is. You’ve done the right thing. No way can a tiny baby be left!! What is she thinking. You and your hubby will also be exhausted and your own body will be in recovery.

@Elliee0810

What happened in the end?

Your sister sounds like a horrible, self-obsessed, Bridezilla nightmare, sorry. (Not sorry.).

I was only too happy for my elder sister to bring her baby to our wedding.

Hardly - it’s a few months old & the actual event was recent. Asking for an update isn’t unusual! Hope you’re ok Op & your sister saw sense in the end.

After the first few most weddings had a baby or two there. I met a niece for the first time at another sibling's wedding I flew back for. Except for really close family most people will leave the baby well alone. Most parents will sit at the back and pop out if the baby cries. I hope she grows up, but don't question yourself.

Zombie thread. How annoying.

Just say the arrangement wont work and your stepping down.

Hi op, hope all went well with your pregnancy and your baby’s birth. Just being nosey and wondered what happened with your sister’s wedding?

Most venues are booked out years in advance so if you want to get married in a particular place you won't have much choice. I think the covid backlog will have made it worse. Also with dresses these days they are made to order so need at least 6 months

I recall being surprised when I discovered that most of the youngsters at my former place of work planned their weddings two years ahead.

When I got married in the '90s, we only planned 6 months ahead. I went shopping for the dress 5 months before - after we had the date and the venue.

In one wedding dress shop, the sales assistant looked pointedly at my stomach and said "Any reason for the rush?"

"I want to get married..."

Once I found out about younger folk planning so far ahead, I understood why she thought it a rush.

My ‘baby’ is 1 and I wouldn’t leave him for 1-2 days. I don’t even like leaving him for a couple of hours still now.
Babes in arms are generally (from my experience) accepted at child free events so it’s odd your sister won’t have her newborn nibling at her wedding. She sounds a bit bridziller though thinking a baby will steal her thunder

My colleague is planning her wedding for 2028, engaged 2025.

I can’t believe this, weddings are about families! Your sister really is a piece of work.

I am an only child. Always wanted siblings.
However I’m very happy I don’t have a sister like you.
It will be such a shame not to attend the wedding, but you & the baby must have priority. It may be difficult recovering this situation.
In life you win some, you lose some. Sadly your sister is a loss. She must be very insecure to think she has to compete with a young baby.

I too went to a friend’s wedding when DD was 4 weeks old. I was the one stressing about it and asked not to be a bridesmaid well in advance as I didn’t want the bride buying my dress and making arrangements for me when I had no idea what state I would be in. I was glad of this as I was still really swollen on the day and stressed out going to a function with her worried about her crying or fussing etc. As we entered the venue, one of the staff came over smiling and asked if we were going to beat their record of youngest guest to one of their weddings. We didn’t as that guest was 6 days old! Our bride was lovely, baby did not steal attention and it was a beautiful day. We didn’t stay as long as everyone else which was understood. I can understand not wanting kids but your solution was great.

I went to a friend’s wedding with my month old baby. Just as a guest. It was lovely and we have a great picture of the bride cuddling the baby. He did get a bit of attention but definitely did not steal the show and I was so pleased to be there. Good memories.

If you're breast feeding your boobs will leak after a few hours and make marks on your outfit. A 6 week old baby is far too tiny to be away from its mum for more than a couple of hours at a time. Banning the baby from the hotel (hidden away) is nuts. It's not about being offended, it's purely about practicality. And you really won't want to abandon your new precious being for a whole day and an evening. You need to have the baby very near by with an adult caring for it so you can pop in and feed/soothe when required without being absent from the wedding event too much. Your sister will need to decide if she wants you there with baby hidden upstairs or if she doesn't want you there at all.

Wait til u have your baby in ur arms, there’s absolutely no way in the world would you be happy to leave them for a few hours let alone 1-2 days!! Ur sister is ridiculously insane to even suggest a different hotel, she seems very selfish; that baby is her nephew or niece and literally can’t show any compassion.
tell ur sister now you can’t be moh either that or put ur foot down on baby needs to be at the hotel with mil