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Irritated by my sister in law since she started Wegovy?

191 replies

YourRealTurtle · 11/01/2026 18:00

Since going on it she has become utterly smug!!

Every meal is a lecture about portions, willpower and how easy it is if you just decide to be disciplined. She brings it up constantly and watches everyone else eat with a tiny smile. She posts mirror selfies and captions about finally respecting her body. If anyone mentions side effects or cost she waves it away and says excuses are a mindset.

The thing is I am genuinely pleased she feels healthier. I really am. I just cannot cope with the sanctimony. Family dinners are exhausting and I dread comments about my plate. When I gently asked her to stop she said I should be inspired not threatened. I'm not overweight and have never struggled with my weight.

AIBU to think this is insufferable and want some boundaries or should I just swallow it and nod along? I really want to tell her this can't continue and she needs to calm down and stop with the horrid attitude.

OP posts:
Amonthinthecountry · 12/01/2026 04:42

Brightlittlecanary · 11/01/2026 22:05

Did you need to come off? I’m staying in a low maintenance dose, many many are.

I went up a dose and I was really unwell for week. At that point, it would have made sense to go back to a lower dose but I just couldn’t face it anymore. Sounds really sensible what you have done.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/01/2026 01:28

Beepedy beepedy beep beep…. TARA UPDATE!!!

Every time she mentions it.

I’m juvenile like that, though.

unageing · 11/01/2026 23:46

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 22:20

Wow. The comments on here are wild. All the snarky ideas and how to insult SIL, waiting for the last laugh when they/she puts back on the weight.

They are responses to a particular situation as described by OP. Many posters who have replied are or were on WLI and agree the SIL is a twat. If you find any comment that is not extolling how "wonderful" WLI are to be so triggering that you have to post repeatedly about how upset you are and how spiteful everyone else is, it would probably be better to confine yourself to the WLI board.

fashionqueen0123 · 11/01/2026 23:18

YourRealTurtle · 11/01/2026 18:38

That's interesting. It's only been three months for her so early days. Honestly I think she is just on a high because the weight is falling off with little effort from her. Not sure how she'll adapt when she goes off the drugs and the appetite comes back. I've heard that can be a really intense adjustment.

Just say ‘if it’s all about will power I’m guessing you’re not using the jabs anymore then? I’m assuming they’re for people who don’t have any’

DeftWasp · 11/01/2026 23:16

YourRealTurtle · 11/01/2026 18:07

I think I'll have to. She was absolutely insufferable during Sunday lunch - I felt the eyes on me as I reached for a second serving of roasted potatoes!!

You can feel smug that eventually its likely to end badly.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 22:55

PinkArt · 11/01/2026 22:46

Quite. I'm not sure why I read threads like this as they're upsetting, but I think it's because I want to know what people think about people like me but don't say to our faces. And they're gleefully waiting to 'rub it in our faces' if we stop taking the medication and regain the weight we've lost.
The SIL is obviously behaving like a tit but people are wishing a return to obesity, and all that means for her health, on her.

Yes, you’re probably right but pay no attention as it is just spiteful. I think it’s a wonderful way for people to take control of their life. I’d bet that many won’t put back on the weight as the behaviour changes, you’ll be fitter, plus you can always maintain, it won’t be long before it is cheaper, it’s already been manufactured in tablet form.

Blueblell · 11/01/2026 22:48

I would just wait for the novelty to wear off!

PinkArt · 11/01/2026 22:46

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 22:20

Wow. The comments on here are wild. All the snarky ideas and how to insult SIL, waiting for the last laugh when they/she puts back on the weight.

Quite. I'm not sure why I read threads like this as they're upsetting, but I think it's because I want to know what people think about people like me but don't say to our faces. And they're gleefully waiting to 'rub it in our faces' if we stop taking the medication and regain the weight we've lost.
The SIL is obviously behaving like a tit but people are wishing a return to obesity, and all that means for her health, on her.

WhateverMate · 11/01/2026 22:25

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 22:20

Wow. The comments on here are wild. All the snarky ideas and how to insult SIL, waiting for the last laugh when they/she puts back on the weight.

To be fair, the SIL is acting like a total cunt.

So I guess that's why the replies are in the same vein.

GinaGstring · 11/01/2026 22:24

Popadomorbread · 11/01/2026 18:25

Just tell her you don’t have to be disciplined like her as you’ve never had a weight problem like she has. Thanks.

Saying this as a very fat person by the way. She’s a twat.

Yes, and tell her that with a healthy BMI of xy you’ll never qualify for Wegovy because you’d become dangerously thin. Blame your good metabolism for your ability to eat loads without putting on any weight.

From a former fat lady who also took Mounjaro and it’s NOTHING to do with willpower, it’s all about the active ingredient x

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 22:20

Steeleydan · 11/01/2026 22:06

Sit back and wait till she comes off it, youll have the last laugh,she'll pile it back on!!

Wow. The comments on here are wild. All the snarky ideas and how to insult SIL, waiting for the last laugh when they/she puts back on the weight.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 11/01/2026 22:14

Steeleydan · 11/01/2026 22:06

Sit back and wait till she comes off it, youll have the last laugh,she'll pile it back on!!

This, or she’ll be on it forever. It’s no achievement.

Icanflyhigh · 11/01/2026 22:10

Samanabanana · 11/01/2026 18:25

If this was my sister in law I'd lose a stone naturally just to spite her but I'm pretty like that Grin

This!!

Erm, actually this is exactly what I did!!

She was desperate to weigh less than me and was so smug announcing she was now at her lowest weight in 40 years of 11st 12!!

She was mightily pissed off when I got on the scales and weighed in at 10st 10!! 😂😂

Steeleydan · 11/01/2026 22:06

YourRealTurtle · 11/01/2026 18:16

She focuses on everyone's eating! It's almost like since starting the injections she's hyper focused on food. Probably because she is not eating very much!

Sit back and wait till she comes off it, youll have the last laugh,she'll pile it back on!!

Brightlittlecanary · 11/01/2026 22:05

Amonthinthecountry · 11/01/2026 21:20

Yeah, that’ll be the real test. I lost a couple of stone on Mounjaro and after it had worn off I would have quite happily eaten my entire family I was so hungry.

Did you need to come off? I’m staying in a low maintenance dose, many many are.

Brightlittlecanary · 11/01/2026 22:04

Tuesdayschild50 · 11/01/2026 21:48

She isn't losing weight through healthy eating smaller portions or more exercise .
She is taking medication which completely stops her wanting to eat.
It's the medication not her willpower or change in eating habits.when she has to stop the injections she will want to eat how she used to.
Tell her the above and no longer share mealtimes with her I can't be doing with the attitude of these people .
They need to REMEMBER they haven't lost weight through normal everyday healthy changes its medication that stops food cravings.
Plus lots look awful as the fat drains from there faces they look haggard.

Good grief, were you venting there, you don’t really think the meds stop people wanting to eat completely, surely not. And of all the before and afters I’ve seen they all look fab.

Squirrelchops1 · 11/01/2026 22:03

AutumnLover1989 · 11/01/2026 21:37

I personally think people on wli don't deserve to be sanctimonious. I'd have far more respect for someone who's lost weight by putting hard work in and not just taken a jab 🙄

I take WLI AND put in a huge amount of effort! Ive over hauled my diet and lift heavy in the gym anything from 4 to 6 days a week!

Miniaturemom · 11/01/2026 22:01

Inspired not threatened omg I’d be raging 🤦‍♀️

Tuesdayschild50 · 11/01/2026 21:48

She isn't losing weight through healthy eating smaller portions or more exercise .
She is taking medication which completely stops her wanting to eat.
It's the medication not her willpower or change in eating habits.when she has to stop the injections she will want to eat how she used to.
Tell her the above and no longer share mealtimes with her I can't be doing with the attitude of these people .
They need to REMEMBER they haven't lost weight through normal everyday healthy changes its medication that stops food cravings.
Plus lots look awful as the fat drains from there faces they look haggard.

WhateverMate · 11/01/2026 21:39

SBGM247 · 11/01/2026 21:09

Let her. Let people have their moment. You can be busy for awhile and not have to listen to it.

Bollocks to that.

Lecturing people about their eating habits and the food on their plates, is not 'having her moment'.

It's being a sanctimonious dick.

Thecows · 11/01/2026 21:37

Merryoldgoat · 11/01/2026 18:32

You could go ‘full cunt’ and say ‘mate - I’m not the one using medication to eat normally - I don’t think you’re in a position to judge anyone’s eating’ and finish your pudding with relish.

Brilliant! 🤣

AutumnLover1989 · 11/01/2026 21:37

I personally think people on wli don't deserve to be sanctimonious. I'd have far more respect for someone who's lost weight by putting hard work in and not just taken a jab 🙄

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 21:32

AutumnLover1989 · 11/01/2026 21:27

True though.

Not necessarily, if SIL can afford maintenance jabs she’ll be fine.
Stuffing your face is an addictive habit, changing the way you eat daily will eventually reset the mood, if not, maintenance jabs are an option.

AutumnLover1989 · 11/01/2026 21:27

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/01/2026 19:07

Mean.

True though.

Squirrelchops1 · 11/01/2026 21:24

JacknDiane · 11/01/2026 20:21

I can't imagine not having food to cheer me up, or look forward too.

I guess it's just a different mindset to get used to.

It is a different mindset however as someone who is an emotional eater...any emotion...it's been nice to shut that off.
I do still look forward to some food but it's sated pretty quickly once I start eating said food now.

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