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Husband has lost the plot and accused me of an affair!

27 replies

GingerGill · 08/01/2026 20:23

I am so fucking angry - talk me down!

in November went and got an armpit and bikini as I was going to a work event and wearing a posh dress - wanted to feel and look nice! Black tie event. Mainly went to get armpits done (I’m quite lean and shaving the hollow isn’t easy with one hand! But decided to get my bikini line done at the same
time. Husband though this was
suspicious as I don’t normally get my bikini line done except for holidays. I told him he was being ridiculous and left it there but I was offended.

This morning he accused me of doing my bikini line myself and said that was weird given everyone would be out the house today….. and I’d asked
him some timings about his comings and goings (for valid reasons). He made the same comment re: suggesting I was having an affair.

i told him that was twice now and there’d be a problem if it was said a third time.

Just now he insinuated it again saying ‘all roads lead to Rome’ and I lost it with him and said I wanted him to leave.

For clarity, I never have and never would cheat on him. Together 25 years and a good life with young adult kids.

I am furious! Help me understand what on earth he’s up to!?

OP posts:
Tresd · 08/01/2026 20:26

He’s most likely projecting his past and/or present behaviour onto you. He’s the one who’s had or is having an affair

bombastix · 08/01/2026 20:24

I’d say it was more likely the other way around