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to ask for my own hotel room on business trip?

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Notmollybutdolly · 03/01/2026 19:01

Hi. Work for a huge corporate company with a conference taking place in a few weeks.
travel will be the day before, by train, and staying over for training the following day travelling back that night.
work expects us to share a room with someone, and 90% sure it’ll be someone I’ve never met before. Even if it was a colleague, I still would refuse.
AIBU to have emailed them to request them to book me a separate room?
I didn’t give an excuse, only because I feel like I don’t need an excuse for my own room?

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Getching99 · 03/01/2026 19:13

Not happened where I work but not unusual. I totally get why some people are uncomfortable with it but I don’t think it’s objectively unreasonable. I doubt they’ll agree to your request.

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Notmollybutdolly · 03/01/2026 19:12

I’m going to tell them if they ask, I have a farting problem 🤣 which isn’t untrue.

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shuffleofftobuffalo · 03/01/2026 19:12

I’d decline to go, it’s a totally unreasonable ask.

NeedAnyHelpWithThatPaperBag · 03/01/2026 19:11

Tell them you have a major snoring problem ;)

Topseyt123 · 03/01/2026 19:11

Of course you are not being unreasonable. I would refuse to go unless given my own room.

Sharing a hotel room with someone else, whether you know them or not, would be a very uncomfortable experience for most people. They would be very unreasonable to force this. Refuse, and if they try to insist then say that you will not be going.

Cupboarddoorknob · 03/01/2026 19:11

Yanbu at all I would not agree to this either

MayaPinion · 03/01/2026 19:11

Nope nope nope. I would not be sharing unless my colleague was my sister, my best friend, or my partner (and ok, my kids). Sharing with a colleague is not acceptable.

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Notmollybutdolly · 03/01/2026 19:10

MiddleAgedDread · 03/01/2026 19:09

Hell no, that is not acceptable! I wouldn’t even share with colleagues I know well.

That’s how I feel! It is all women but still!

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MiddleAgedDread · 03/01/2026 19:09

Hell no, that is not acceptable! I wouldn’t even share with colleagues I know well.

Tutorpuzzle · 03/01/2026 19:08

Good grief. Unless you are 12 years old and on a school trip of course you shouldn’t be sharing. And even the 12 year olds would get a say in who they share with!

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Notmollybutdolly · 03/01/2026 19:07

Mauro711 · 03/01/2026 19:03

Absolutely not unreasonable. I’m surprised companies still do this.

Thanks you! I thought the same. But the communication regarding the trip initially did specifically say on a room sharing basis! Which I already explicitly told my manager I would not be doing.

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Mauro711 · 03/01/2026 19:03

Absolutely not unreasonable. I’m surprised companies still do this.