to ask for my own hotel room on business trip?

Yep, fuck that. Completely unacceptable.

Nooooooooooooo.

Although, my friend's son works at a budget hotel, and they regularly get workmen in from building sites, and just anywhere that is having renovations. They are from out of the area, and they sometimes stay for several weeks. Even 2 or 3 months sometimes. They share 3 to a room. Men in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s. LOL fuck that shit. 😆

I was asked one time (when I used to go to Church,) if I wanted to go on this residential course type thing about well-being and Jesus etc...... I was like 'ummmm........' (I didn't want to go but didn't want to be rude!) It was 5 days long (4 nights.)

She said 'well do let me know by Friday, as I need to know numbers for the food, and if you have any diet restrictions. Also, I need to book the rooms by then. You will very likely be sharing with Pauline and Joan.'

I think I had flu or covid or herpes or something. Couldn't make it. Shame. 😢

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I actually have a conference coming up this month and I explicitly asked the organisers if I were expected to share a room as I would refuse to attend if I were. It would be with a stranger in the same field as me. No way.

I went away on a school residential once and it was expected that me and the other female shared.

she went to the organiser and explained she was uncomfortable with it as she was gay (this is not a lie, I’m married and we were good friends, but really didn’t want to share a room, I’m also autistic) and they immediately issued a second room

Never been asked to share on a work trip and I wouldn’t agree. No-one would want to share with me as I wake up at the crack of dawn.

Not unreasonable to ask / refuse to go. I’m away next week with a colleague that’s also a really good friend and we wouldn’t typically mind sharing but since I’ve had toddler DS I really value a bit of my own space wherever I can get it so we have separate rooms, the company are fine with it either way.

Following as I had this predicament quite recently. I was asked (after a family room had been booked) to share it with a junior member of staff who i had never met before. I was not impressed! Of course all the men had their own rooms. Once this was disclosed to me I gently said to another member of staff what had happened and she spoke to the owner and he gave me my own room, in a hotel 4 miles away from everyone else, it was a dump and I wasn’t granted expenses for taxis etc. I also have quite a severe medical condition that impacts me daily that they are aware off, they didn’t care.

It’s a small company with a big reputation in the local community but my goodness the owner is a nightmare.

Not sure where you stand with this one op, maybe a HR person could help out.!

That’s dreadful. I used to travel with work this was never mentioned. They are already taking all your downtime evenings etc as it is! Bloody cheek.

One company I worked for did the same. It was a massive global corporation that clearly made money by offering employees the legal minimum. I hated this company so wasn’t quiet in my “are they fucking kidding?” “I’ll get a taxi or not go” response within the office. No one said anything to me but management did hear and we did get our own rooms which apparently had never happened before. I would like to think that my outspoken nature made management realise that it was an unreasonable ask and we weren’t kids on holiday. Hopefully you will inspire your management team.

I had exactly this situation, I said I wasn't sharing. Got given a single room

Not a chance in hell. I’d flat out refuse to go. If they can’t afford for everyone to have their own room, they can’t afford the event.

I run a company and would never sanction this.

Every employee is entitled to privacy and downtime. As an employer, we have a duty of care and wellbeing and this would contravene it.

I travelled a lot. This was never suggested. Has the makings of an HR nightmare .
At this point (60s) I don’t share with friends or sisters.
YANBU. You have to be comfortable where you sleep.

I have colleagues who suggest sharing to save money on our expense budgets. I have always refused. You've got to think what happens if you get gastro or just randomly fart in your sleep. Mortifying!

I’ve refused this before. I was good friends with my travel partner at work so I think they expected we’d be okay with it, but they never made any of the pally men share! And just no, I think it’s unprofessional of them to even suggest it.

A useful excuse could be “ I always have a separate room as I snore so badly”

In 20 years of travelling to conferences for loads of different organisations I have literally never known this to be suggested. It's absolutely outrageous.

Tell them you have sleep apnea and try to kill people!

Although actually you should just say its unacceptable.

Don’t even share with my friends on a girl trip. Hate it

I absolutely would not be sharing a bedroom with a colleague under any circumstances ! Fuck that.

Completely unreasonable of them to even suggest it.

Very reasonable request on your part.

I've been going on business trips since the late 80s. I've never even been asked to share a room. They can FRO if they think I'd be sharing with a stranger.

Of course it’s unreasonable!

Of course it's unreasonable. I bet the big cheeses are not sharing rooms.

My work tried that approach once. Did not go down well. They stopped it soon after they tried imposing it on people .