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Why do none of my in-laws wash their hands

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mintandcoral · 30/12/2025 21:47

Need a rant to be honest. Actually sick of their lack of hygiene.

They’ve only arrived today and it’s making my skin crawl. I’ve gone to bed for an early night and I’ve just heard my fil going to the toilet, not flush or wash his hands. A few minutes later, mil comes up. She flushes at least but also, very definitely, does not wash her hands! The toilet is a small toilet along our upstairs landing (separate from a bathroom) and you can hear the tap being turned on very clearly.

We had chicken wraps for dinner, all putting their fingers in the sodding salad. Fil currently has a cold.

Debating whether to say something to my husband but there’s a huge backstory whereby he feels like I’m constantly criticising them, so probably best to keep my mouth shut. I might just passive aggressively repeatedly remind the kids to wash their hands tomorrow.

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Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 13:39

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:30

If im putting dishes away iv just spent 5 minutes with my hands in soapy water washing them

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Seriously, it sounds your hands are more in water than out and that a few extra washes after wees is not going to do any more harm.
Even if you’re generally well, consider people who might visit and be subject to your contamination.
I suppose your rebuttal will be that you’re practically a hermit and no one is at risk.

StarlightLady · 31/12/2025 13:39

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 10:08

I am thinking maybe I dreamt that too, because it’s too disgusting to be true - twiglet finger 🤮🤮🤮

As someone who always washes her hands after a wee, l don’t see anything wrong or abhorrent about that providing she washes her hands afterwards.

Sharpzebra · 31/12/2025 13:38

Eew that's disgusting to not wash hands after going to the toilet

Catsandbikes · 31/12/2025 13:38

Lourdes12 · 30/12/2025 22:33

Same here. I only wash my hands in my own home after a poo

This is disgusting.

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:37

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:35

So the shit is now all over your dishes?

Wtf 😳 fairy liquid kills bacteria thats why you use it to clean dishes. Actually stop and think about what you're saying and ask yourself if you are being a little bit hysterical

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:37

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:35

Why are you touching urine and touching your vagina when going for a wee

There is absolutely nothing wrong with touching your vagina! There is something wrong with not washing your hands after you do.

Catsandbikes · 31/12/2025 13:36

youalright · 30/12/2025 22:11

I only wash my hands after a wee in public places not in my own home

WHAT???

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:35

WarmGreyHare · 31/12/2025 13:32

Do you wipe? Do you enjoy transferring urine particles and general vaginal bacteria to every surface you touch in your house? Do you touch the toilet lid to open it?
Washing your hands after using the toilet is the very most basic level of good hygiene.

Why are you touching urine and touching your vagina when going for a wee

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:35

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:30

If im putting dishes away iv just spent 5 minutes with my hands in soapy water washing them

Edited

So the shit is now all over your dishes?

Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 13:34

Ahhh, you never have anything drying in the dish rack..

A drink from fridge?

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:33

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:20

I thought it was clear, I’m not going to elaborate. Try reading it again ?

It wasn't clear as you are saying its impossible for anyone to wash dishes as the water needs to be to hot to put hands in. How do you think people without dishwashers manage we don't just throw cups and plates after we have used them

WarmGreyHare · 31/12/2025 13:32

youalright · 30/12/2025 22:18

Why is it?

Do you wipe? Do you enjoy transferring urine particles and general vaginal bacteria to every surface you touch in your house? Do you touch the toilet lid to open it?
Washing your hands after using the toilet is the very most basic level of good hygiene.

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:30

Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 13:12

Let’s try again - a drink from the fridge? Putting away the lovely clean plates that have been drying in the dish rack?

If im putting dishes away iv just spent 5 minutes with my hands in soapy water washing them

fishfingerbutty · 31/12/2025 13:21

I’d have had to stop them from putting their hands in the salad and to use servers.
Some PPs here are dirty dogs.

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:20

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:07

What are you talking about

I thought it was clear, I’m not going to elaborate. Try reading it again ?

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:17

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:09

I couldn't even tell you the last time I've even had a cold i don't think ive ever had flu maybe once in my life. I don't think ive had a sickness bug since being a child. I've only ever thrown up as an adult from alcohol or pregnancy.

My dad was similar. He never got sick, genuinely. He’d state it like a badge of honour that he never got sick because he never washed his hands (we’re talking ‘The Twits’ levels of hygiene here), he ate raw meat, and food way past its use by date.

And while there may be some truth that exposure to filth had built up his immunity, it didn’t change the fact that everything in his house would’ve been covered in poo, pee, snot, semen and my step mother’s vaginal secretions. Not somewhere I’d choose to have a cup of tea, thank you!

Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 13:12

Let’s try again - a drink from the fridge? Putting away the lovely clean plates that have been drying in the dish rack?

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:10

Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 12:56

A drink from the fridge? Emptying the dishwasher and putting away the lovely clean plates?

I don't have a dishwasher hence why I spend half my life with my hands in soapy water

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:09

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:00

So if you’re repeatedly washing your hands throughout the day why do you stubbornly refuse after you’ve used the toilet? It’s nonsensical.

C.Diff survives for months on hard surfaces. Colds/flu will be a day or two.

I couldn't even tell you the last time I've even had a cold i don't think ive ever had flu maybe once in my life. I don't think ive had a sickness bug since being a child. I've only ever thrown up as an adult from alcohol or pregnancy.

youalright · 31/12/2025 13:07

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:01

@youalright if you can put your hands in the dish washing water then it isn’t hot enough I would say

ETA to clean dishes thoroughly I mean and washing up water shouldn’t really be used for a dual purpose

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What are you talking about

FlyingApple · 31/12/2025 13:05

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:00

@FlyingApple share a toothbrush ??? that is truly horrific

Yes but don't worry, I don't think it gets much use by either of them!

Maggiethecat · 31/12/2025 13:01

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:00

So if you’re repeatedly washing your hands throughout the day why do you stubbornly refuse after you’ve used the toilet? It’s nonsensical.

C.Diff survives for months on hard surfaces. Colds/flu will be a day or two.

Apparently it’s unnecessary

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:01

@youalright if you can put your hands in the dish washing water then it isn’t hot enough I would say

ETA to clean dishes thoroughly I mean and washing up water shouldn’t really be used for a dual purpose

CalzoneOnLegs · 31/12/2025 13:00

@FlyingApple share a toothbrush ??? that is truly horrific

Nevermind17 · 31/12/2025 13:00

youalright · 31/12/2025 12:44

But this isn't how germs work how long do you think germs survive on surfaces. I also clean my home daily. The fact that we never get ill says it all to me. I bet I've already washed my hands more then you have today. Including 2 lots of dishes

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So if you’re repeatedly washing your hands throughout the day why do you stubbornly refuse after you’ve used the toilet? It’s nonsensical.

C.Diff survives for months on hard surfaces. Colds/flu will be a day or two.