Grandparents not so involved

My parents were/are not good grandparents.
I am attempting to do much better.

My DC only have one close GP (my mum), she's always wanted to know them and she's made an effort with them right from their babyhood to adulthood.

MIL on the other hand, loved the baby stage, then was clueless after that so didn't bother.

FIL remarried and his idea of making an effort with his GC was to take the piss out of them. Needless to say they dont like him nor his horrible wife who won't allow him to spend any time with his GC anyway. Miserable old bitch.

My dad was great my mam not hugely interested in them. Hard say op all families different. They didnt babysit though. I know they dont have to.. mine grown now. We used babysitters or my sisters

My grandparents were very involved and I have special memories of table games and walks with grandad and cooking with granny and regular trips for Sunday tea etc and am very involved with my own grandchildren. My children’s dad had zero involvement with any of his family growing up (aunts, uncles, grandparents even though they lived in the same town). He isn’t very involved with our grandchildren and visits occasionally when invited for lunch (probably doesn’t really like children!).
I think it depends on many factors.

My parents and inlaws were local to us and we took the children to visit both sets of grandparents most weekends as we wanted the children to have a good relationship with their grandparents. DC are adults now and PIL are no longer with us, my parents have a few health issues now. I’m glad we did it the way we did.

This is exactly same situation for me! And the ones that cba are the ones that were always asking when they were going to get a grandchild even though they knew we were going through fertility treatment. I have very little time for them .

Agree completely. If you pay your parents a duty visit every month or so, never have any real desire to spend time with them or share days out/holidays etc after you leave home, then they will inevitably carry on with their own lives. You can't then expect that to all change when you want them around for your DC sake.
I see my GC almost every day. Do childcare, babysitting, like a spare parent when needed. But it's a natural result of remaining very close with my own adult children and their partners, and wanting to support them as well as have a relationship with my GC.

Both sets live 5 mins away.
One is extremely involved, cannot see the kids enough. Absolutely besotted with them.
Other set see then special occasions mainly - kids do not like them 😕

How often did you see them before having kids? And how often did you see your own grandparents when you were a child?

i think it probably depends on the relationship you had with parents/in-laws before children/grandchildren. Other factors can also have an impact: how close you live, if you all work full time.