Feeling really let down...

Pack a bag and go get spoiled at your mum’s. On the way out, I’d get a pair of scissors and chop all the cords to the PC and take the mouse. What an absolute tosser. I would have chopped up/smashed his presents too, no way would he get any pleasure from them.

Please do!

And you need to put a stop to him buying himself presents (lingerie) and pretending they're for you.

Why have you gone through IVF with a selfish gamer ?

Wow what a pure excuse for a man. Don't let him get away with this selfish shit as it'll set the tone for the next however many years in front of your child too.

Your miracle baby deserves a mum who feels spoiled and loved.

Fuck him off, and go to your mums alone. And hit the sales online. Chelsea Peers have an online sale and they are the best around.

I would go to your mums and stay there and see if he notices if you don’t come back. What exactly is he bringing to this relationship? He can’t even get what you ask for? Shit partners often make shit dads, sorry op.

Power cuts can be arranged... 😈

This. I’m afraid I’d also consider going to your mum’s permanently until you can set yourself up alone. This would be my last Christmas with this man-child.

My DH struggled when our children were young - he didn’t really get them, but he got me what every I asked for/needed. As they grew up, learned to communicate he grew into his dad role, so I know it doesn’t always come naturally to men - but finding parenting a bit tough isn’t an excuse to avoid it at all. And it’s no excuse for being a shit partner. OP you deserve better.

Good for your mum, go to hers right now. This is the moment you decide if you keep seething sadly in your living room with nothing, or take charge of your future. Please find some anger and save yourself and your baby from this miserable setup.

Go to your mums and be cared for and leave this bullying waster.

Oh OP I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I really thought he would surprise you with something. Go and enjoy your time with your mum, hopefully it makes you feel a bit better.

Go to your mum's and stay there for a few nights. Think about yourself and your baby, not him. Let your mum pamper you.

I’m so sorry he’s been such a shit OP. All the very best for you and your precious baby and the future

Go to your mothers OP. Don't sit on your own hoping he's going to make it up to you in some way.

Go to your mums OP where you will feel loved and appreciated. There's no excuse for his behaviour. I hope there's a power cut today so he can't play on his precious PC! Look after number one ( and baby too).

Go to your mums my lovely. Cuddle up with a blanket and hopefully a nice dinner.
Deal with him tomorrow and he needs a wake up call for certain or he's gonna lose the best thing he's ever had.
Hope your baby gets some chocolate soon x

Hope you never gave him his gifts….

You are not being unreasonable at all @SpookyTeacup - if he knew you at all, he would know it’s important to you.

He had time to pop to the shops - not sure about you but perfume, chocolates, nice make up - all
of these easy to buy things are always welcomed by me. Comfy jammies or a cosy dressing gown from M&S. So simple and easy.

Im sorry he did this to you - its wonderful that you are pregnant - I hope that he treats you and the baby better than this.

He’s so horrible when you are at your most vulnerable! I think because he now thinks that he’s got you as you are pregnant. That you’ll put up with anything now to keep the family together. He’s showing his true colours now. I hope you didn’t give him any gifts! Sexy lingerie isn’t a gift for you it’s for him! What an arse!

Yeah I agree that is abusive and I hope he rang the police like we would advise a woman to do.

He got you nothing for Xmas?
Not even a box of chocolates or cheap calendar???

I am not a materialistic person but buying a small token gift to show appreciation to the person you love is hardly a difficult task.

My teen has just given me a gift bag with wrapped presents and a card that she’s used her little amount of pocket money to save up and buy for me because she wanted to show me her appreciation.
Your grown adult partner with a FT job couldn’t even do the same - that’s shocking!

I hate to say this (it may have already been mentioned) but sometimes men show their true colours when their DP gets pregnant/has a baby and unfortunately I don’t think this will get any better.
I think it’s jealousy because your attention would have been on him and now it’s having to be shared on something else.

I would seriously reconsider this relationship.
Not just for the lack of presents but the attitude towards you too.

To lock someone out of their home for not buying you a gift sounds abusive. That's vile behaviour. No wonder he made sure not to let that happen again.

I wish you all the best with your new baby.

he sounds very unpleasant.

maybe a Christmas present to yourself would be to ltb and live happily ever after, just you and your baby

Oh that's so crap. My DH many years ago gave me total crap one year - a sewing basket and a gallon of car shampoo. I was seething, clearly last minute crap from Woolworths. I ended up exploding in the evening after seething all day (and having his parents and their dogs who pissed inside the house for the day) and actually locked him out and went to bed. He never did that again.

This is vile behaviour. And sounds intentional. Be careful, op. He doesn't sound like a man I'd want around my baby

He’s done the bare minimum and still F-ed that up. I like to be independent but in pregnancy I think you should be treated like a queen. You’re growing a human from scratch FFS! If you have the option to get to your parents, do it. It’s not an overreaction but if you regret it slightly at a later date you always can just blame it on hormones. Also suspect you’re so upset because the lack of gift is the thin end of the wedge.