Feeling really let down...

Hopefully you're now at your mum's being looked after. Can you stay the night and let him have some time to reflect on what a knob he's been.

From what you've said, he's not a complete moron, so hopefully him thinking you're not coming back at all might give him some pause for thought. If you were my daughter, adult and all, you wouldn't be going home until I'd also given him a few choice words about not valuing my daughter and future grandchild. That's not really my personality, but I wouldn't stand for seeing you being treated like this. Then, I'd be making my equally passive DH go and give him a similar speech. Time for your DH to grow up. And I truly get it, it's not the gift itself, it's making the effort that counts.

I hope he wakes up and I wish you well with the rest of your pregnancy. It sounds like this is a special and long awaited baby. Wishing you a smooth delivery and wishing your baby a long, happy and healthy life.

I would be tempted to change the wifi password on my way out 😄

OP, please leave. Move in with your mother temporarily if you can. He’s a useless partner and he will be a useless father too.

Oh OP what an absolute ass he is being! Pleaseeee leave him home with his PC and go to your mums ❤️

Not only that but putting the blame on the OP. It’s absolutely ridiculous!

OP just go to your Mums. I'm glad she's there for you and angry with him on your behalf. Leave his sorry arse to it.

Congrats on the pregnancy 💐Concentrate on yourself and your baby.

Take the presents you bought him, and go to your mums. The presents can be returned and the money put towards a solicitor. He will not get any better than what you have now. It’s all downhill from now on. I speak from experience …

They've been trying for a baby for ten years. If he didn't want one surely he could have indicated that sooner

She's 30 weeks pregnant. Not uncommon for women to feel a tad hormonal and maybe cry a bit more than usual at this stage of pregnancy

@Hiptothisjive for lords sake a women isnt a nag.
Its a gift yes but shes a person. You're a bloke or a handmaiden.

He sounds horrible. I'm so sorry.

Has he changed since your pregnancy, OP? You said he’s been an arsehole “lately”. You do hear of men seeing pregnancy as a trap for their partner and that’s when the abuse starts. It’s just a long time for you to have been in a normal and considerate relationship (if that’s what you had) to suddenly turning nasty upon pregnancy. The other trigger may have been your weight loss and him feeling insecure over this. He sounds like a horrible person.

I decided that 2026 is going to be the year nobody takes me for granted or shits on me for bending over backwards for them OP. You should too.

Where on earth are you getting constant nagging from? So much that you had to use the exact phrase twice in one post?

@SpookyTeacup well then I’m sure he won’t mind that you ‘got him nothing’ ie take all his presents back for refunds, get something you want or need (those pjs) and give yourself the best present of all - get rid of that ‘man’.

Well that’s good for you. I’m glad it wouldn’t bother you. If they had said they weren’t going to get gifts then that’s fine, but it’s the fact she asked for it, and then despite the fact it hadn’t arrived he didn’t bother to seek out a replacement then laughed at her. That is cruel, and this man is about to be a father.

Go to your mums. Leave him to it. I'm not married nor do I have kids and I only have two of a family. We don't spend a fortune on one another although I've spent more this year than normally. I would call myself pretty disorganised when it comes to present buying (I'm at uni and up to my eyes in essays, one due yesterday ).

But I manage it every year even if I'm having to buy extra bits on Christmas eve

It's his reaction to how upset you are that's the worst in all of this

I’d be more disappointed that I’d decided to have a child with someone who doesn’t really know me.

He’s a prick.

For now go to your mums and stay there for a few days.

Then I’d rethink your marriage

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It wouldn't bother me but each to their own

OP, if you really care about this miracle baby, get out of this toxic abusive relationship with an arsehole.
Your baby deserves better than this loser.

I have to say I agree with this. He has shown you that he doesn't love you.....he really doesn't give a shit about you and is treating you with utter contempt. Get out of the house and go to your mum's immediately if you haven't already.

He will not be a good dad. It's plain as day.

I'm sorry OP. I am worried for you and your precious, much wanted baby. Could he become violent? I think others have given excellent advice. Protect yourself and your baby and leave. This is clearly about more than a Xmas present, he appears to actively despise you. I don't think it's going to get better, only worse. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel, your lovely baby, but I think you need to leave x

Really? She’s heavily pregnant and got nothing off her husband who just laughed at her at every juncture. She asked for comfy pj bottoms weeks ago and he couldn’t even be bothered to nip to M&S to get a pair.

Id say she was under reacting, as I would have walked out on him and gone back to my parents!!