Feeling really let down...

I am sorry op. That is crap. He couldn’t be bothered enough to pick up a pair of pjs. It does sound like what he ordered for you is coming from China. I hope you have a lovely day with your Mum.

Go be with your Mum. Get rid of this tosser

You poor darling. I am alone with cats today and have more love and affection. Return the gits presents having taken photos “ this is what you could have had”, go to your mums and plan a new year maybe losing what I guess is maybe eighty kilos of dead weight? (Other sizes of useless husbands are no doubt available).

This.

You take care of yourself and let your mum take care of you too. Switch off your phone and ignore the twat for a couple of days at least.

If I could give you a nice present right now you’d be wearing those PJs already.xx

Go to your mums, don’t give him any gifts. You sound amazing to have got through 10 years of infertility and losing 8 stone. He on the other hand sounds like a waste of space and cruel to boot.

Aw he's not nice is he?

Anyway, hard as it might be, try not to let his crap overshadow your day. Like you say, plan yourself a nice gift on Boxing day and fuck him off today.

Bit concerned that you think he'd buy you sexy lingerie after you've asked him not to. That's persistent of him. I wouldn't like that.

Pack yourself a bag and go to your Mum's. Don't spend another minute with someone who is determined to make you feel shit. It's bad enough that he's fucked up on the present - but to then double down and be so unpleasant to you when you're upset is just cruel.

Take a couple of days at your Mum's and have a careful think about whether this is a man you want to continue a relationship with. He sounds very selfish and unfeeling.

Op why are you with him? Is this the sort of dad you want for your baby?

Oh OP. Has he done this at Christmas before? Sadly pregnancy can make a man reveal his true colours, and no gifts + an escalating pattern of being horrid to you is a big red flag. He should be literally worshipping the ground you walk on and supporting you every step of the way at the moment. Be mindful of this, and maybe have a plan in place to not be with him....just in case

LTB and build a nice life for you and your girl. This will only get worse when the is here OP and you don’t have to deal with it. Merry Christmas, sending so much love xx

This! My partner is a single dad and doesn't need guidance on what to buy his child. He's also a chef and got all the dinner ingredients without guidance. It's amazing what some men are allowed to get away with.

Good grief - a pair of PJs. Can be picked up in most supermarkets. Nothing complicated, fancy or trivial or greedy. That’s really mean of him.

I agree with you. Some people are so terribly unkind.

OP, he does sound like an absolute shit. I hope you manage to find some joy and love today and that you and your beautiful new baby make 2026 a better year, ideally without your (D)H.

That's nice for you but what it adds to this thread I dont know. The OP is being shown that her inconsiderate partner doesn't care and has kind of gone out of his way to show his contempt. I can't stand these grown adult women who have to piss on others' chips because they don't care about gifts. Many (normal) people do. And it would not have been hard to pop to sainsburys, get a nice pair of snuggly PJs and a chocolate bar ffs. Gift giving is a love language. There is a joy in it. OP I am so sorry your partner is being such a shit.

For fucks sake....

Yet ANOTHER man who can't cope with the idea that his wife having a baby means it isnt all about him anymore.

Now is the time to start planning @SpookyTeacup because this is the thin end of the wedge. Within a couple of months of the birth he will be whining about being "neglected" (ie, not getting as much sex as he wants) and leaving literally everything to you because you are on ML and its therefore your job.

I am so sorry, but ask me how I know.......

Whilst I agree in general, in this case It's not just about presents though, there is more going on before christmas and will do so afterwards .

I think you've missed the point. It's not really about the present. Imagine calling her a little baby on Christmas morning when she is sat with nothing DESPITE BEING GIVEN EVEN MORE CHANCES TO RECTIFY THE SITUATION. I hate him for you OP you poor girl. You aren't being a baby. He is a horrible man.

Yeah how needy of you to hope your partner would give you one whole present. A whole ONE. So needy. 🤨

You really need to reconsider this marriage long term for more reasons than one.
It's wonderful you are pregnant but after so long of waitting maybe his behaviour is changing because it is now reality and life is going to change so much for both of you.
He's possibly worried /scared or thinking he won't be #1 priority in your life anymore, nor should he be. I'd be concerned with his attitude that you will end up with all the baby care once the novelty wears off.
Want to be wrong, but I get a bad vibe about this, teasing you in a nasty way about your present or lack of, calling you a big baby when you're upset, and probably buying lingerie for you , who does that when their partner is heavily pregnant and self conscious of how she looks?
The gaming thing would bother me too, it's okay but how often will baby need a feed or nappy change when he's in the middle of an 'important' part and can't leave the game on pause?
Just a few things I'd be concerned about it you were my d telling me about this.

Leave him. Get to yours mums now.

I don’t think so and such a shitty thing to say to someone feeling very unloved.

Try not to let it spoil your day but I’m sorry you’re upset. Did you give him a present? I hope not!

Red flags on this one op. Keep vigilant. Sounds like hes starting to change now your pregnant. Stay safe. Im sorry to say, from what youve written about his effort/computer gaming, hes not going to step up once baby is here. You most likely will be doing this by yourself. His attitude already stinks. Does he work/do his share of household chores etc?

He sounds utterly useless and nasty to boot. He should be spoiling you rotten not calling you names. Return something of his and buy some lovely PJs and have a good think about your future with this pig.

I’m sorry but you do sound a bit needy. Any adult that is in the slightest bit bothered about presents needs to take a long hard look at themselves.

I genuinely couldn’t care less whether I ever got a present as an adult.