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Helped Dd with homework, teacher questioning her

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Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:09

Just wanted others perspective on this as feeling a bit uncomfortable

Dd, who is 7, was off ill recently for a few days with a virus. When she returned, the teacher gave her some work she had missed to catch up on, dd had this plus nightly homework.
At the weekend, she was trying to complete the rest of it for school, is still not 100% but tried really hard and then started to get frustrated and upset and wasn’t able to do more. Worth noting that Dd is v bright, but is Nd and sometimes easily overwhelmed.
Dd was worried she would get into trouble at school so I helped her by colouring the sheet for her.

Dd came home on the first day she handed in her homework folder with all the sheets in and said the teacher asked her if she had done this sheet herself, Dd said yes. I said to her she should have said I helped her with it, it’s ok. I thought that was that and forgot about it.
Today Dd came home and said that the teacher had asked her again if she did it by herself and Dd said yes and the teacher then asked if she was sure she did.

Dd is now very anxious, I said i’d send in a note saying I helped you with it as she wasn’t feeling well and was a bit overwhelmed. She doesn’t want me to though as thinks the teacher will be cross with her.

Any thoughts on this? Shall I send the teacher a quick email?

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3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:22

l so I helped her by colouring the sheet for her.

the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree it would seem

Keroppi · 17/12/2025 21:20

Was it just colouring or did you do actual work?

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:19

Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:16

The teacher is quite scary really 😬 I don’t want to create any issues for Dd

Huh? the teacher isn’t scary.

Drop her a short email putting her in the picture 🤷‍♀️

MsSquiz · 17/12/2025 21:19

Is it something your dd is struggling with, so the teacher is essentially asking of you helped because she is clearly having trouble with it?

personally I wouldn’t have made her do it all to catch up if she still wasn’t 100% but I’d email the teacher to let her know the situation

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:18

Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:15

Does it seem odd that the teacher questioned her twice, one day after the other?

Not in the slightest
she correctly thought your daughter was fibbing

Waterbaby41 · 17/12/2025 21:18

Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:15

Does it seem odd that the teacher questioned her twice, one day after the other?

It's probably very obviously not all her work.

Moonnstarz · 17/12/2025 21:18

Maybe the teacher is checking the consistency of the work done at home with what she does in school. Maybe she was giving her the chance to say she had help at home if she was concerned that today she didn't seem to understand it.
Send an email to explain.

Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:16

The teacher is quite scary really 😬 I don’t want to create any issues for Dd

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Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:15

Does it seem odd that the teacher questioned her twice, one day after the other?

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Snoopyschristmasclassic · 17/12/2025 21:13

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:12

You shouldn’t have asked her whether or
not you should contactt the teacher. She is 7. And anxious!

email. Job done

I didn’t really ask, I said i’d put a little note in her bag explaining and dd said she didn’t want to

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3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:12

You shouldn’t have asked her whether or
not you should contactt the teacher. She is 7. And anxious!

email. Job done

3gumstonight · 17/12/2025 21:11

Quick email to confirm dd very anxious and got herself in a twist, but yes you did help.

and that will be the end of the matter

Musicaltheatremum · 17/12/2025 21:11

I'd let the teacher know. I imagine she wants to know how much help she had to see if it needs going over again. Reassure your daughter she won't be in trouble.