Helped Dd with homework, teacher questioning her

We cross posted. Yes, I think its good you hit it head-on. I find it a bit creepy when teachers slide round grilling children about things instead of just fronting it with the parents.

If you feel it isn't blowing over, I'd be inclined to make the approach directly to her to air the whole issue.

I'd just tell the truth - that DD was getting anxious about it, and, as she still wasn't well health-wise, you didn't want her getting overtired completing the colouring, so focused her on the more useful tasks.

I'd then say DD was probably scared Mummy would be in trouble if she said you did it (since it was your idea and you did it) - which is probably what DD is feeling and why I think it is pretty mean and small of the teacher to press the issue.

But it's only colouring she is asking about?

I think she knows you did it op, and now is trying to catch your dd out for lying.

DD is in a tricky spot, because she either has to keep lying or say that she lied; probably the latter is best.

I do think it is naughty and petty of the teacher though. I might feel differently if it were maths or similar and she wanted to to know what dd had genuinely caught up with. I think it's probably been pretty obvious you thought the colouring wasn't worth DD getting in a flip over so you you just did it yourself. The teacher is getting a bit of a power trip over flushing that out. (I guess, in fairness, she doesn't want her authority undermined). But really it's not such a big deal. I do sometimes find some teachers can be very used to intimidating children and are a little inclined to try to use similar techniques where parents are concerned!

The other kids did this work in school by the sound of it, so the teacher knows whether they got the mark they did without help, or whether they got it with help. This will be a good indication of whether she needs to cover that topic again if they don't really know it or not because they really know it. With your daughter she doesn't know and is trying to work out what she knows and doesn't know.

This is crazy.

And I say that as a former teacher.

She's bat shit, pursuing your poor 7 year old as to whether you helped with a bit of colouring in.

Crazy times.

Tell the teacher that your child did the proper work whilst you did the irrelevant colouring in

Just email the teacher to discuss. She may seem scary but probably isn't and may just be trying to work out why your daughter's work is different to usual. I think a quick email to check in is the best advice. Although I teach a very different age group, I find it helpful to understand students' circumstances from parents. I can only assume it is all the more important at primary.

you would think teachers would have better things to do at the end of term.

7 year olds don’t need to catch up on work after a couple of days off sick, especially this close to the end of a long term.
Just send a quick email, teacher is being passive aggressive, surprised she’s got time to bother with this, but she’s upsetting your daughter.

What on earth was the purpose of sending 'catch-up' colouring home? And goodness knows why you felt that it was important enough to colour it in. It would be obvious that an adult had coloured this sheet. DD needs to know that it is important to.tell the truth. It is your job to teach her that OP.

No, she's not being scary. It's her job as an educator to understand if a child in her class needs support. An anomaly in homework could mean an issue is being masked or covered up that the teacher or school should be helping with.

Colouring in isn't valuable homework anyway, how ridiculous. Have her concentrate on the content and if no time/energy to colour in, then she's still done the main task required.

Weird comment. Some primary school teachers ARE scary. My DC had one who used to shout at the children all the time. And she used to force the Muslim children to bow their heads and put their hands together during the Christian prayers (church school).

Colouring as homework seems pretty stupid
I think most homework is a waste of time in primary bar spellings and refresher of maths
Stick dd on bbc bitesize games and let her chill and recover
I wouldn't say anything to the teacher and just going forward tell dd she doesn't need to be doing colouring as homework
If the teacher is being pass aggressive tp DD and has a problem with you having coloured the sheet she can phone or email you 🤷‍♀️

Why is a 7 year old given nightly homework?! Is this private school. Unless it's a bit of reading and spelling I think this is totally unreasonable. A child who's off sick a few days doesn't need to be given work to catch up on. I would have politely told the teacher my child is bright she's not been well and doesnt need this extra pressure. In many countries kids are only just starting school at 7. It's madness to stress her out if she's been unwell. Tell the teacher yes I helped her colour what is the problem?! Poor child's been unwell she's totally out of order.