Helped Dd with homework, teacher questioning her

DD lied twice, that’s the issue.

Presumably this work is going in her school books hence the teacher checking it really is her 'colouring'. If it is a different standard to what she usually produces then it's no wonder the teacher is double checking - if it is much better than what else is in her book the teacher might be asked to explain why the work that day was so different to everything else in the book and whether it is the correct child's. Maybe the teacher needs to just make a note on the page to say work completed at home due to absence and was supported by the parent.

This is why my children's school do not send work home when children have been off ill as they don't know who has really done the work and are unable to know what the child's true level of understanding is.

She doesn't want to get in trouble. She is stuck between an overbearing teacher and protecting her mum.

The teacher is being a bit much. Loads of children get help with their homework. If the teacher wants to assess children's progress they need to use class work especially for the older ones who use so much AI. Children are totally capable of getting it to write things fo to them in any style they want, sprinkling in an appropriate amount of spelling and punctuation errors.

Your DD lied to the teacher , twice. I'm more concerned that you're not bothered by that

You sound incredibly boring, and rude.

It came across as mocking within the context and tone of your post.

I rather suspect OP did a bit more than colouring too. But faced with an overwhelmed, anxious ND kiddo, I see why some parents do ride to the rescue. Hopefully, OP has learned from this that it causes more issues than it fixes.

I'm autistic and I didn't know what that phrase meant until someone explained it to me. OP may have been a bit short sighted about the potential consequences about doing bits of her kid's homework and encouraging her daughter to tell a white lie to the teacher, but not knowing that phrase is no reason to mock her. Her first language may not be English. She may be ND herself, as many of us are who have ND kids, and we only cotton on when the kids are diagnosed.

I've done exactly the same and dd was in secondary. She did the majority and I did a bit of colouring in on a picture she had to draw. It wasn't art homework just a thought map and they had to fill a page with tiny drawings. She knows how to colour in but just got overwhelmed with the amount needed. I'd be concerned about the teacher's attitude in your case. It's a bit of colouring in, you're not doing anything that is going to impact her learning. I'd follow up with a quick chat that dd panicked about you helping and is a bit intimidated by her so could she please let you deal with the mild lie but also question why she is so concerned you helped an overwhelmed recovering 7 year old.

Based on the competition entries to art competitions in dd's primary a lot of parents do a lot more than help with the colouring in. Of course there may just have been a lot of young geniuses in dd's primary... 🤔

I was once given the third degree by a teacher on a Friday afternoon and ended up admitting to help I categorically was not given just to make the questioning stop. My mum buttonholed the teacher on Monday morning and tore rashers off her.

Send a note to the teacher saying if she has any questions about the homework to please address them to you and to stop bothering your anxious ND child.

Whether you helped or didn't, this teacher needs to drop the matter. She clearly thinks she has a bone to pick, and all her efforts so far smack of harassment of a person well below her in the school pecking order whom she has backed into a corner.

The issue is repeated lying and dishonesty, not colouring in.

Yes, but it's possible she forgot she'd already asked.

It really annoys me how teachers go on this way putting pressure on such young children. Then in the next breath they wonder why kids are too anxious to attend school.

Primary school homework is often homework for parents though as they need some kind of support to complete the task. DD1 was extremely academic at school and went to superselective grammar but getting her to do homework at primary school.was painful and she used to get very upset about it. Whereas DD2 did her homework like a lamb at primary school but got totally overwhelmed by srcondary school from the start and ended up doing online school.

Dd was worried she would get into trouble at school so I helped her by colouring the sheet for her.

Did you help her with it or did you do it for her?

Maybe your colouring wasn't up to scratch 😉😀

Some people are just on the defensive all the time, usually if they are unhappy, feel stunted or something else.
teachers are not saints, they are as infallible as the rest of us, some of them are bullies, some are just not very good at their job.
I come into limited contact with primary school classes, teachers and support staff through my work and some of the interactions I’ve seen are not great, others are great, most are nothing to write home about.
I would forget it about for now any just keep an eye out.
Term ends on Friday for mine, cannot bloody wait to have the pressure off and for them to decompress for abit.

Sorry cross posted and saw that you did email, what you sent sounds fine and makes her know you’ve got her card marked without being ott.
hopefully that’s the end of it and your family and teacher can all have a nice break.

She’s being passive aggressive trying to get your daughter to admit she fibbed about doing it herself, when it doesn’t matter.
The first question asked was wrong, I’m assuming your colouring skills are a lot better than a 7 year old so it would be obvious dd didn’t do it, teacher has seen it as a cheat/ attack when any normal person would have asked did your family help you with this? In a positive way,
which would have elicited a positive response from your daughter.
send the email and next time if your daughter is sick again, don’t do any of the extra work just email saying rest and family time are more important which they obviously are.
If she’s got a problem she can come to you instead if harrassing a small child.
Seems like you can’t win anyway. Don’t help your kids with homework it’s neglect, do help and it’s cheating.