Wearing pyjamas around the house?

Where did you get paranoia from?

Many people would find it rude if someone just turned up at their door expecting to be let in.

I would.

But then I don't answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone or anything. I know MN can't seem to wrap their head around that but I know plenty of people who don't.

And not because they're paranoid or anxious but because why would they?

I don’t lounge around downstairs in the same thing I’m going to sleep in which I think it what ‘anti PJ’ folks assume is happening.
I’d be cold in PJs downstairs but I can usually be found wearing a version of cosy trackies and jumper/hoodie when at home which is basically the same thing

Yep. Pack of biscuits or bottle in hand as appropriate to the time of day. Love it.

Thanks and yes, I think friends dropping by is great.

I didn't mean to imply that you personally were. This comes up on Mnet all the time. Not answering the door if not expecting anyone kind of thing. I've never lived like that, not would I want to. I do live in a very safe place though and would always advocate for vulnerable people to put safety measures in place.
If a mate doesn't answer the door, I ring them. If sick -offer help. In bath, leave. Having sex? Leave. It's not a big thing.
These are close friends btw not people I hardly know.

What the hell is your friend on about!?
PJs all day some days. I do have a shower and clean my teeth and that but some long lazy weekends the pjs stay on all day.

I have been known to change into “day pyjamas”. I’m still relaxed but feeling refreshed, Your friend sounds like the kind of person who relaxes in jeans and a bra. Weirdo.

I have loose trousers I wear at home but with normal jumpers/ shirts. Maybe in my head these 'pj's' are traditional type pyjamas and in fact they're not.

This is a good point. My PJs dont look like traditional PJs they look more like lounge wear/slim joggers so they wouldn't actually be much different to loose trousers really

It's nobody's business what you wear in your own home.

If I come home and I'm not going back out I will often put pyjama bottoms on. I wouldn't get up and stay in the same pyjamas I've slept in though, and I always have a shower/ bath.

If you want to do that in your own home you can. It's totally up to you.

Personally, I find it a bit off, so your friend isn't the only person who thinks this. I read all these threads about people in 'pj's' all day long and can't really get my head round it. It makes me think of people in hospital. Even on old people's homes they get the residents dressed in the morning.

I have loose trousers I wear at home but with normal jumpers/ shirts. Maybe in my head these 'pj's' are traditional type pyjamas and in fact they're not.

Totally normal! I would always get changed for the day, even if staying at home (although I'd never stay home all day unless really ill). I like doing kids bedtime in my PJs, it makes me feel more relaxed

I think it’s nice that you have people who just pop over for cuppa and chat. It’s just not something my friends and I do. I do think it depends on the community you live in. My mu constantly has people dropping in unexpectedly.

YANBU- go to any clothing website and there is whole section for loungewear and all of them look like various versions of PJs or yoga pants etc

If this wasnt common and popular it wouldnt exist.

Personally, I cant imagine why anyone would choose to wear jeans or smart trousers when just watching tv at home or pottering about. It seems bizarre to me.

I wouldn’t as I like an early shower and fresh day clothes on until bed time.

But each to their own. 👍

Who said I was paranoid?

I’m quite happy to have people over but IMO it’s rude to turn up without an invite and expect to be hosted - what if you’re sick, or in the bath, or in the middle of decorating, or having sex?

It’s just polite to send a text to make sure you’re welcome.

My PJs go on after my evening bath/shower, I wear smart casual five days per week for work so it's quite nice to wear something comfy before bed but I would feel a bit odd cooking in my PJs. In the weekend I get dressed mid morning after a leisurely breakfast, by that point I want to get ready for the day.

Only my in laws randomly drop by and it wouldn't phase me if they saw me in my jammies.

The friend has told the OP she is weird!

I'm always in my pj's by 7pm so I can sit, relax and watch tv. In the mornings I get up, feed the cats then get dressed, I'm always out and about during the day so will always get dressed.

Summer is different because I tend to go out later in the evening when it's light.

Honestly, my friends just turn up, as I do to them. Kettle on. Really not considered rude. If people come to see you, that's lovely. I don't understand the Mumsnet paranoia about random visitors at all.

Whereas many people would find that incredibly rude - if someone turned up at my door unannounced I would assume someone had died 🫣

Thanks
I have friends who randomly drop by. They wouldn't mind PJ's but they would think I might be unwell if I were wearing them during the day.
Prefer to meet delivery drivers fully dressed although I don't suppose they care.
Would never, ever go to the shops in pyjamas but I'm older and probably old fashioned.
Another factor is that mobile phone reception where I live is dodgy. I might message someone to see if they're in but the message might reach them after I do.

Yes, they just turn up. When l say “close friends”, they are “close” in 2 ways. They are also close in terms of distance. Always welcome.

If l’m not in, that’s a chance they take. They have to take me as they find me though, although that won’t be in PJs; don’t have any.

My friends don’t randomly come over, they would message first and ask if we were in. IF that did happen they wouldn’t give a sh*t if I was in pjs, they’ve seen me look worse 😂..

Delivery drivers- I’m wearing shirt type pjs not a negligee so I don’t care about this.

But, no I haven’t reached the point of popping to the shops in my pjs. If I needed to go out I’d have to get dressed.

This doesn’t happen often, I rarely get a day where I’m not going out for some reason, but when it does I love it.

I’m on mat leave and my baby isn’t here yet. What are proper clothes?