Wearing pyjamas around the house?

Your friend is weird, of course, but you could get some "lounge wear" which is comfy day wear for inside, then she can't say you're wearing nightwear.

Well your friend would be absolutely shocked with me, sometimes I come downstairs in nothing but a dressing gown, danglies swinging around freely underneath.

Amazing, living my dream. Good for you!

Yep, I'm a romance/women's fiction author, traditionally published. Good luck with the book!

I only own one pair of pjs and that’s literally just because I was staying away once with friends and sharing a room. Never ever wear them. Having said that, people wearing them around the house is a perfectly usual thing.

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It's not something I do, but it's not wrong either.

I used to keep my pyjamas on when I did the big Saturday morning clean, then get showered and dressed afterwards. But I dont do that anymore and prefer to be dressed first thing.

I remember a tipsy conversation many years ago debating with friends about whether you should wash your tea towels in the same load as your underwear and how many of us either did, or found it abhorrent!

It's a light hearted post. And don't you ever have random conversations like these with friends?You're missing out, it's fun!

Circumstances alter cases, don't they? I live in a little village where many people know each other and mobiles don't work well. My front door isn't locked in daylight hours unless I'm out. My ExDp used to send presents I wasn't expecting, ditto flowers. My neighbours sometimes call round. If I lived where you do, I'd probably do the same and be very wary of answering the door to unexpected callers.

We all have pre-pyjamas in this house- usually tracksuit bottoms/ scruffy but comfy T-shirts and hoodies that we could nip out in to move the car/ grab some milk if needs be but is definitely not Sunday best!

What you wear in the comfort of your own home surely is private and up to you.

Your friend sounds massively judgemental

Fair enough - I guess I just don’t see the issue with going people a ten minute “heads up” so they can either make themselves presentable or save you the awkwardness of turning up when they’re clearly busy or not interested in socialising.

I guess we’re all different though - DH’s family all happily “pop in” on each other but it would drive me mad - I like my peace and quiet 😂

Just don’t understand the query or why it’s thought this would be odd?

PJ’s are my standard. I now wfh the majority of the time and pj’s are my ‘work uniform’. I have a top on hand in case I need to be on camera for a meeting, then I do a quick switch and switch back the minute the meeting is finished. I then put on another fresh pair of pj’s for bed so I can start the cycle again😁.

If I need to go to the shops of a day, I change into regular clothes and then change back the minute I get back in the door as I find pj’s more comfy. If I have to duck to get something of an evening I just stay in pj’s as I am beyond giving a fuck. I do wear ‘proper’ clothes if going out for dinner or the theatre though.

I feel grotty in pjs when I’m up and about so will always get dressed when I’m up and only put them on when I’m going to bed.

If I have a bath in the evening I”ll put them on but I’m not really a bath fan.

I also have bouts of insomnia and have found that I need to keep clear sleep/awake boundaries - pjs = sleep and my brain goes a bit haywire if I don’t get dressed/put pjs on too early.

Last Sunday I kept my Pyjamas on all day, did housework and prepped a roast dinner. As the roasties went in the oven (at 4pm), I went and had a bath and put clean ones on. We even had dinner on a tray. It was bliss after a very busy Saturday of two Choir performances followed by a late night Christmas party. Plus, there’s things like this I never discuss with people anyways.

I didn’t use the word “paranoid”, l merely explained what l personally did. At no time did l criticise anyone else for what they did.

Because none of my friends would ever just turn up. In the world of mobile phones there's no need to.

And someone broken down? A) not my problem and what would they be expecting me to do to help anyway? B) I live on the second floor so there'd be 10 flats to go to before getting to mine on the buzzer system.

Flowers? I don’t know anyone who would send me anything without first telling me to expect something and if I'm expecting a delivery, I answer the door.

So I don't see why I would answer the door if not expecting someone or something. It's 99.9% guaranteed to be someone or something I don't want - JWs, scammers, political candidates.

I didn’t suggest anyone should do what they are not comfortable with! I merely stated what l did. Where did l say that others should do the same as me?

I have a wide circle of very close friends.

But none of us just turn up at each other's houses without checking its convenient first. Seems basic courtesy to me.

None of us are "paranoid" and we all have active, healthy social lives.

Juts because people are different to you doesn't mean they are paranoid and friendless which is what some people are implying here

Which is fine.

You do you.

But it's also fine that other people and think and do differently.

But the default on MN seems to be like you did, not accept differences and assume people who don't welcome people just turning up at their door as weird, paranoid or not living in a 'friendship house' or somehow not having friends.

If im in the house im in lounge clothes. If i know im going out, ill get dressed but nope, lounge wear or pj's

I wear pjs so often my dog gets excited when I put my bra on because she thinks we’re going for a walk

I certainly don’t consider it rude if someone pops round to say hello. Friends don’t need appointment to visit.

Cup of coffee or glass of wine provided too, depending on time of day. It’s a friendship house.

Because it might be a friend? Someone who's broken down? A bunch of flowers? Why would you not answer the door? Interested.

I wear very comfortable loungewear around the house and then change into pjs or tshirt before bed.

I can’t understand how you can cook, clean and sleep in the same clothes so maybe your friend meant the same. Its not about pjs it’s about change. DH sometimes uses one of his pjs as a loungewear but he won’t sleep in it he will changes into another before bed.