Not comfortable with MIL’s friend using our children’s pictures for gifts m

I think the OP has valid concerns. Have you heard of AI?

The company may offer a reduced price if uploaded photos can be used in their own advertising - I wouldn't want that.

What exactly do you think is likely to happen of a company sees photos of your children?

Ironically adult sites are much more regulated. Have a read of some recent cases of consumer photography misuse, FTC, Shutterfly, Prisma. It is incredibly naive to think that any data that is processed is not vulnerable. It’s also a really weird request from the friend, if she was a close friend to the mil she would have her own photos of the children. Honestly OP, I would just ignore the request or suggest another gift recommendation if you feel the need to respond.

It is definitely weird and you did right by saying no. Congrats on being the sensible parent standing up for their kids!

Precious and paranoid.

You are paranoid about your children’s photos and is suspect that the mother in law has put the friend up to asking your husband for photos as a guise for a gift because she wants photos of her grandchildren.

Its a weird request. Id reply saying that calendars of family members is something you like to do yourselves and how about making a calendar of friends or special places.

Nip this in the bud now. Send her a message that you’re making a calendar to give to Mil and do so! Plenty of websites and easy to do.

I think you're being a bit precious about this. Your husband knows the woman and is fine with it, why don't you trust his judgement? And thinking it's weird that someone else is looking at private family moments - come on, it's probably pictures of your kids in a park or their birthday or something, hardly a big secret.

I wouldn't get worked up about this. My only reservation would whether this is something the recipient would want. Is it even a gift MIL would enjoy?

don’t you ever get your photos printed?

Yeah that's a weird gift and I'd say no too. I'd be ok with it if it were my MIL's best friend as she's practically a sister to her (and my DH's godmother), if they were going to be one or two photos.... but it's very weird for someone who's never met the kids to want to make them into a calendar. Definitely a parent to grandparent gift (or grandparent to parent)

Very strange attitude. She doesn’t need to have met the kids to know they mean a great deal to her friend, and want to support that with a cute little gift.

Friends can be as close, or closer than, family.

Because she doesn't know these children at all. She has never even met these children. The sort of gift that she wants to give OP's MIL, is the sort of gift that a close family member who is also related to these children would give.

Surely she knows OP's MIL well enough to be able to choose a different gift that OP's MIL would really like.

It's also making work for OP who will need to find and select suitable photos and then send them to this woman.

It doesn’t clear it up.

What difference does it make that she didn’t take the photos herself?

Even the task of going through and finding 12 decent photos of the kids and sending them on would take time! (Or maybe I just take rubbish photos!). I’d say ‘this is something we like to do ourselves’ and leave it at that. I wouldn’t worry about actually doing it- if next year she says ‘you didn’t do one though’ I’d be firmer in my response. It may be a lovely idea, but they’re your kids and if it makes you feel uncomfortable then it’s not really that lovely!

It's weird because, as many other posters have pointed out, she has never even met these children and so doesn't have any photos of them that she's taken herself. Hope that helps clear it up.

A friend of a person with grandchildren is wanting to turn photos of the grandchildren into a present for them

Why is that weird?

Please just say no. What an odd request. This is way too personal for you to ever feel comfortable. Why on earth would anyone want to make a calendar of children they have never met , photos they didn’t take and give this as a gift. The whole thing is weird. Say no.

Is she! If she has never met the kids or OP?

It's a strange gift for give if it is just of the kids, and she has never met them/ taken the pictures.

I am going to be generous and say she either gives a similar gift to her family/ her family give her a similar gift. But I would politely decline like the OP.

You have an extremely odd way of looking at this. Nobody wants to do anything with your kids photos except make them into a calendar. Nobody is going to do anything dodgy with AI. It’s up to you to say no - but really you’re massively overreacting to a very reasonable request here

I agree with you OP. I think this is a stranger asking for photos of your kids, and that is a bit weird. I would just say no.

That is fucking weird. Just say no on repeat.