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Is husband right that I need psychological help? (Won’t eat outside of home)

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Melessah · 04/12/2025 15:44

When I was 19 I had a very traumatic experience. I found half a mouse in a ready meal I had bought from a supermarket. It was in a curry. I created a post on twitter and a couple of papers actually picked up the story.

if was obviously very upsetting. I was a university student at the time living off ready meals. After that experience I refused to eat from restaurants, takeaways or supermarkets. I won’t even eat crisps. Everything I eat needs to be 100% “safe”.

Everything I eat is home cooked. I would never buy a ready meal again. I don’t even buy bread from a supermarket. I eat potatoes as my main carb. I eat a lot of eggs (from my mum’s chickens).

Husband obviously knew what he was signing up for when he married me. I do not see myself ever letting my guard down.

Anyway, we were on holiday and he really lost his cool with me. I was eating fruit and boiled eggs and he told me I need help. And that he was getting tired by my the restrictions I place on myself and therefore him.

I have spoken to a psychologist but it didn’t help. I don’t want to be like this. Who is the one that is being unreasonable

OP posts:
FMc208 · 04/12/2025 15:47

Unfortunately your traumatic experience has triggered an eating disorder so yes, while understandable, I would say you need professional help.

RampantIvy · 04/12/2025 15:47

Sorry, but I think you are being unreasonable.

Not being able to eat out while on holiday would spoil the holiday for me. I'm sure that there will be "safe foods" that you could eat.

Orangemintcream · 04/12/2025 15:46

Well you’ve said it yourself - you don’t want to live like this. So for that alone the answer is yes.

Tiswa · 04/12/2025 15:45

Yes I think professional help and get the proper one would help here living like this must be tough surely you want to change and move on from the traumatic experience

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