Relative asking for money

Well you say she's asking you to lend her money then she's saying how much can you GIVE me. I'd say sorry I have to sae up for holidays and I now have no money to lend or give anyone. Maybe get a bank loan? Years ago my grandmother had a letter addressed to Aunty Connie. A distant relative asking for money and didn't even know my nans surname. She told her any money she has she needs to live on and pay bills. Sorry I'd 100% say no havnt got any spare money.

Are you even certain it’s her - sounds really scammy

This and all of this. I’d actually tell them that their behaviour is very odd too, since clearly they have no shame in the fact that this is far from normal.

Not sure why anyone would second guess this?

Dude, I won't even lend/give money to people I DO know, (apart from my DC,) like fuck am I giving any money to some fucker I don't know, even if we do share a tiny string of DNA.

YWBU to block this person. But message them first, and say you have no spare money........

Tell her that unlike her you do not own your own home outright, have land or farms to sell in order to release money to give to distant relatives.
Tell her to consider which farm she might sell to release cash if she needs it.

No.

Then block them.

these are adults by capitulating you are enabling an unhealthy relationship dynamic
you will not be helping resolve the situation
tell them to seek financial advice from CAB and make sure they have exhausted their options before you consider helping make sure that you are not enabling them to be more financially dependent on other people rather than sorting out their finances for the long term

I'm assuming that they are tapping you up for a few quid because they've made the assumption that you are 'rich' or 'have money'? Do they live in a country that is perhaps considered less affluent? These people might be related to you, but they are strangers. You don't know them. You wouldn't give money to a bloke you've met a couple of times down your local pub, so why would you to them??!! I'd block them, and not give it another thought.

Perhaps it's hard to understand the background without knowing the culture, but I think a straightforward 'Sorry I can't lend you anything' would do the trick.

Well done!

The relative is absolutely bonkers for asking for that amount of money!

shaking down relatives for cash is never acceptable!

As well as refusing her request and blocking her number (and her brother's no. too) I would also block their numbers on your parents phones.....chances are they'll be the next in line for this contact.

They've run out of closer relatives to ask so you're next in their sights. CFs.

Block and move on

Would you give some money to anyone else of whom you've met just twice? I bet the answer is no!

what a shameless pair they are, bet he will start asking for money too but as you will hopefully block the pair of them you will never find out. I would be annoyed that someone had shared my phone number without my permission too. As you say OP, it is all weird and more than a bit off

This reminded me of an Indian friend I met travelling. I was going over to see her a few years after meeting and asked if there was anything I could bring. She asked for 3 iPhones and 4 iPads for her family. 😂🫣

I think they seem to think we spend our time in the UK counting our endless cash and drowning in money.... which is obviously so far from reality.

You should have asked her for £5k as you need to cover your flights to her country from your recent trip... 😁

They perceive you as relatively affluent in UK and a soft touch. Have you responded at all? If not ignore as if you never received it. If so a simple, no, then block. They will only come back for more and have already exhausted other family members.

This.

They are also baffled by her asking 'how much would I be willing to give her'.

The answer is nothing.

If she needs money she can ask immediate relatives. If they wont help theres a reason. Or she can approach her bank, again if they wont loan her money... theres a reason

Just don't. It does not matter if they are a close relative or not. My dh lent 10K out of our savings to his sister, with my blessings. It was supposed to be for a couple of months. Then genuinely awful things happened to her and 5 years down the line we still have not been repaid. I am now doubting it will ever be repaid. To us it is a huge amount, and I know I agreed (enthusiastically agreed) to lend the money, but the result is that I now hate his sister, his parents and I am afraid I am beginning to hate him too.

Who did they ask you to borrow money from, or do you mean they asked you to loan them some money?.

I may be assuming or missing something but if it is the cultural norm where they live, to ask for cash from relatives that are perceived to have more wealth, then there’s little point in even replying . I would block them to be honest, unless you feel they would enhance your life in any way . Nope, didn’t think so.

Sounds possible that someone has hacked her phone, and they are pretending to be her. Either way, I wouldn't send money.