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To feel the Disenfranchised have been Scapegoated.

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Gilead · 26/11/2025 17:28

Just fed up with a society that has become so incredibly selfish. The vilification of disabled people and the drubbing of benefit claimants whilst managing to forget that most of the people on universal credit are working families. Forgetting that most pensioners have worked and saved all their lives, some still paying tax. And let’s not forget those lazy bastards who are putting on an act in order to get a ‘free’ car.
I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. Got called all sorts of names, but, at that point in time people were a lot more understanding of the issues encountered by the disenfranchised.
If you want to come on here and tell me you don’t want to pay extra for someone else to have kids you can’t afford, research it first, look at the (myriad) reasons for this, the figures, the number of women who had extra children during the period. Then think how it would be if you suddenly became disabled, or more severely disabled.
Im off with my carer in a bit. In my Citroen C3 that actually cost me a wee bit more because I had to pay for the wheelchair hoist as well as the (approx) 350 quid every four weeks to cover the lease, and the insurance.

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labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:40

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:18

No, a lot is people who do work but get a top up anyway because they have high rent costs.

Benefits bill was 36 billion in 2020.

It’s now 52 billion.

14 billion in 5 years.

And it’s predicted to be 75 billion by 2030

That is not just the case of adding people with high rent.

But whatever way you slice it, this is unsustainable. And the people who will be hurt the most are those most vulnerable who need welfare.

I don’t want to see the welfare system collapse. I have people close to me who are severely disabled who rely on that as a lifeline.

But that is where we are headed. And it’s a dangerous place to be!

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:26

Kleeneze · 26/11/2025 20:48

I think everyone who watched that question time thought that woman ought to have been working. It was pretty outrageous. But that’s how brazen people have become. It’s like an article the BBC posted a while back about PIP. One of the recipients admitted that she got cash that was supposed to go towards therapy and she just spent it on bills. She didn’t even have the intelligence to PRETEND she was putting the money to the right use. It’s like she didn’t even think she was supposed to spend it on getting better. Just so brazen. And galling.

The lady on question time said she was looking for work. You can also claim PIP and work, as it is not an out of work benefit.

When you are award PIP, you are not told what to spend it on. So the person you read about who is not spending it on therapy is doing nothing wrong. They will have never been told to spend it on therapy, so your little tale does not pass the sniff test.

Many people on PIP do end up using it for food and bills because the cost of living crisis and because UC is not enough to live on.

MyTrivia · 27/11/2025 03:25

Friendlygingercat · 27/11/2025 01:52

If people cannot do salary sacrifice then they are going to change their behaviour. One method is reduce their hours and therefore the amount that goes tinto tax. They will look at how many hours they need to work in order to meet their financial obligations. In many cases swapping from 5 to 4 days a week will leave them little worse off because they will pay less tax. Ive seen the calculations done here on MN. They can then spend more time with their family rather than work for the tax man. Or use the extra time to find some cash in hand work.

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Not everyone is in a position to reduce their hours at work to fiddle their taxes - some people have the sort of jobs that simply won’t allow them to suddenly work part time.

MyTrivia · 27/11/2025 03:21

JHound · 26/11/2025 18:57

It’s not selfish to want a decent standard living.

But it is selfish to be angry at disabled people for your problems when you voted for the Tories for 14 years and voted for Brexit.

Why do most people not realise that we are in this position due to Brexit? The other reason is Covid and furlough payments which were beyond anyone’s control. BTW, you’re a hypocrite if you received furlough payments and are now moaning about others receiving ‘free money from the government’. Let me guess, you’re ‘worth’ more? We know how that train of thought ends up…

Today, I heard a political commentator say that the UK would be 30% richer, had we not left the EU.

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:18

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:13

25% of working aged people are on benefits. 1 in 4. It’s not sustainable. I am more than happy for my tax to go towards supporting parents of disabled children, or disabled/chronically ill people that cannot work. But is that all 11 million in the uk?

No, a lot is people who do work but get a top up anyway because they have high rent costs.

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 03:14

The lady with anxiety on question time... this was actually what she said.

"Erm, as someone who’s applied for PIP and knows how traumatic it can be to go through it, I can guarantee you that nobody is applying just for the money. They are applying because they need it and because they have a problem. Like, I have worked before. I’m struggling at the moment to find a job anyway, but it makes it worse being anxious and I think people need to have a bit more compassion. It is so traumatic going through all this assessment and you wouldn't actually do it unless you had a need"

She is getting brought up a lot on here, and people seem to think she was sat laughing in the audience and bragging about benefits. The above is all she said.

labamba18 · 27/11/2025 03:13

25% of working aged people are on benefits. 1 in 4. It’s not sustainable. I am more than happy for my tax to go towards supporting parents of disabled children, or disabled/chronically ill people that cannot work. But is that all 11 million in the uk?

Trumpisacunt · 27/11/2025 03:06

Kleeneze · 26/11/2025 20:48

I think everyone who watched that question time thought that woman ought to have been working. It was pretty outrageous. But that’s how brazen people have become. It’s like an article the BBC posted a while back about PIP. One of the recipients admitted that she got cash that was supposed to go towards therapy and she just spent it on bills. She didn’t even have the intelligence to PRETEND she was putting the money to the right use. It’s like she didn’t even think she was supposed to spend it on getting better. Just so brazen. And galling.

Pip payments can be spent on anything so I'm not sure why its supposed to be spent on 'therapy' .Just another typical comment from someone who doesnt achieve a clue how the system works and decides to believe the propaganda.

UserFront242 · 27/11/2025 02:56

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 20:28

There was a woman in the question time audience recently who claimed that she gets PIP for anxiety bad enough to prevent her from working but had no problem going on tv and asking questions of politicians and robustly defending herself. I and many others who've struggled with anxiety all our lives see people like her as piss takers, if she can go on tv and debate politicians she can get a job, which btw would help her anxiety.
I know that this is just 1 example but its 1 of many and it's examples like this thats used to disparage everyone on disability benefits.
Yes certain MH conditions and severe asd mean some people cant work but far too many who could work wont even try because it would mean doing a low skilled job or 1 that they deem beneath them. I worked for decades in the hospitality industry and I've seen the entitlement and lack of work ethic grow amongst our younger generations exponentially since the Blair/Brown government's push for university education for all. We no longer teach real life skills or anything of any use anymore other than how to pass tests.
People throw about self diagnosis and shop for a dr who will agree with them instead of listening to the multiple professionals who tell them that they're normal and just going through normal life struggles (yes i know quite a few young people like this) and then theres the parents who decide that their perfectly normal child is asd because they've hit the terrible twos or tiresome 3s, there's posts on here all the time by these parents. Something needs to change in society to fix this and if that means stricter rules around what classes as a disability or how severely someone needs to be impacted to get benefits then so be it. I also believe that we need to split asd diagnoses again to differentiate between my asbergers friends, myself moderate to high functioning asd and my ds whos low functioning (yes I know outdated terminology but its more accurate than a one size fits all label)

I saw that too. She did not "robustly defend herself". She said her piece and that was it.
She also said she had applied for PIP, was not claiming it, and said she was looking for work.
I have seen many people reference this tiny snippet from question time over and over, and they all embellish it to make her look awful.

HelenaWaiting · 27/11/2025 02:52

MrsMurphyIWish · 26/11/2025 19:47

My son is in receipt of DLA, he has an EHCP. DH and I are teachers and we live in a deprived area - we do see see people abusing the system and it 1. angers us as we work full time and can’t devote the time to DS that he needs and 2. We are worried because he will need a welfare state in the future that I don’t think will be there.

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How can you possibly know whether or not the people you "see" are abusing the system?

localbutterfly · 27/11/2025 02:50

I predicted this was the way we were headed on mumsnet in 2010. In 2010, the Conservatives had just taken over government in the UK under David Cameron. Conservatives held the office of PM and ran the government until July 2024, when Labour came in with Keir Starmer as PM. And yet, you blame Labour for the current state of affairs? How?

Apileofballyhoo · 27/11/2025 02:46

thewintergarden · 26/11/2025 19:52

No , it really doesn't. I make £57k a year and my friend doing 16 hours on UC has the same income coming in as I do after tax . And she has cheaper (social) housing whereas I private rent

I'd love to see the figures on that.

Friendlygingercat · 27/11/2025 01:52

If people cannot do salary sacrifice then they are going to change their behaviour. One method is reduce their hours and therefore the amount that goes tinto tax. They will look at how many hours they need to work in order to meet their financial obligations. In many cases swapping from 5 to 4 days a week will leave them little worse off because they will pay less tax. Ive seen the calculations done here on MN. They can then spend more time with their family rather than work for the tax man. Or use the extra time to find some cash in hand work.

JHound · 27/11/2025 00:23

AnneShirleyBlythe · 26/11/2025 23:25

You have misunderstood todays pension changes. Contributing up to £60,000 tax free still stands. However if you are in a salary sacrifice scheme rather than net pay scheme your employer will now pay NI contributions on amounts over £2000 pa.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cd9zx8z5d1no

Employers AND employees will have to pay NI over 2k.

There'll be extra National Insurance costs for employers, lower take-home salaries potentially and then there's the administration costs of any change in pension policy.
"Employers may just think the administration costs of changing this isn't worth it and scrap the whole thing," she added.
"Overall, I'd say this is a net-negative in terms of getting the UK saving more."
Others in the pensions industry suggested the removal of the tax break could lead to companies reducing planned pay rises and contributing less to pensions overall.
"Expect to see employers reining in their contributions," said Alex Foster, a Partner at Blick Rothenberg.

That is moronic and disincentivises people from putting more into their pensions.

oviraptor21 · 27/11/2025 00:20

Gilead · 26/11/2025 21:48

@SpoonBaloon Pip forms are not available on line. And they are bloody traumatic to fill in.

@Hoardasurass you have no idea what it took for that woman to speak out on Question Time. Your assumptions are just as bad as staff telling me in hospital that I don’t seem autistic.
I can barely have a conversation with people outside my circle, but if I need to I can talk to pharmacies and hospitals about diagnosing and prescribing for autistic people.

Some people can apply for PIP online but it is currently restricted according to postcode. Our area was doing this but seems to have stopped. After making the initial enquiry to start a claim, the claimant would be sent a link to use to make the online claim. The paper version is over 40 pages long

CrossChecking · 26/11/2025 23:46

I think that the UK is stuck in an austerity mindset. There is just constant talk about what to take away and from who and very little talk about what and who to invest in. The UK isn't going to become prosperous again by taking from the poorest and most vulnerable.

All this austerity mindset has done is lead to chronic under funding of education, healthcare, infrastructure which hurts longterm productivity and competitiveness. It's has worsened poverty, weakened social mobility, and created health and educational disadvantages. Created political instability, allowing populist movements to rise. It leads to 'brain drain' and weakens universities and innovation downgrading future economic prospects.

Imo people are looking at the wrong issues entirely by constantly looking at who to take from next instead of looking and who to invest in.

nomas · 26/11/2025 23:45

SisterTeatime · 26/11/2025 23:43

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here. People cough up, they don’t have to be happy about it when their own standard of living is dropping like a stone.

Exactly. Not only do we have the daily slog, we now need to be mindful of everyone else's feelings as well.

SisterTeatime · 26/11/2025 23:43

nomas · 26/11/2025 23:33

Good post. Why does everyone need to be jumping and down with joy at funding others? It’s something that just happens, it doesn’t need joyous affirmation.

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here. People cough up, they don’t have to be happy about it when their own standard of living is dropping like a stone.

nomas · 26/11/2025 23:38

AnneShirleyBlythe · 26/11/2025 23:25

You have misunderstood todays pension changes. Contributing up to £60,000 tax free still stands. However if you are in a salary sacrifice scheme rather than net pay scheme your employer will now pay NI contributions on amounts over £2000 pa.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cd9zx8z5d1no

Which will cost the employee in the end, @JHound is right, it’s disinincentivising ordinary people from saving into a pension via salary sacrifice. Many people use salary sacrifice,

TinyHousemouse · 26/11/2025 23:37

I dunno. DH has had a brain tumour, a mini stroke, has PTSD and still works full time. I’ve had cancer, and a lifetime of MH issues including ED, depression and anxiety and I have also always worked full time. We have one DD, I can’t have any more because of the cancer but even if we could we wouldn’t because we don’t feel we could afford it despite both of us being higher rate tax payers and what MN would probably consider as well off. I have seen people not working on what seems to be less significant trauma than we have been through (my cancer and his stroke happened in my maternity leave) and I KNOW it’s wrong but I can’t help myself sometimes thinking “I’m working so hard, I’ve been ill, I’m still suffering the after effects of it, yet x’s mum from nursery does fuck all because of her “mental health” and gets free childcare yet here’s me struggling into
work and paying for my childcare and hers as well”. I know it’s not right to think this way and I couldn’t possibly know what’s going on in other people’s lives but when I’m tired, and I feel guilty that I’ve missed DD’s bedtime because I’m in a meeting, I can’t help it. I can’t be the only one. I await flaming, maybe I deserve it, I just don’t know anymore.

nomas · 26/11/2025 23:33

Celestialmoods · 26/11/2025 17:36

I don’t think people have become more selfish. It’s not selfish to want a decent standard of living for your own family before paying for others to have more. People can’t afford to be generous, unless they’re doing it with other people’s money. It’s very easy to claim that you are a selfless and generous person who would never begrudge others taking what you have earned when you are in the position of receiving free money from the state.

Good post. Why does everyone need to be jumping and down with joy at funding others? It’s something that just happens, it doesn’t need joyous affirmation.

Hoardasurass · 26/11/2025 23:30

Gilead · 26/11/2025 21:48

@SpoonBaloon Pip forms are not available on line. And they are bloody traumatic to fill in.

@Hoardasurass you have no idea what it took for that woman to speak out on Question Time. Your assumptions are just as bad as staff telling me in hospital that I don’t seem autistic.
I can barely have a conversation with people outside my circle, but if I need to I can talk to pharmacies and hospitals about diagnosing and prescribing for autistic people.

As an autistic woman I'm well aware of the misinformation about asd and the unhelpful comments from people towards myself who like you doesn't appear autistic and my ds who I've been told atleast he looks autistic (whatever that means) and I've also battled anxiety for as long as I can remember. Now as I also have dyslexia and hypermobility filling out all the forms for my ds really is the stuff of nightmares, but on no way shape or form is it traumatic and that woman was clearly taking the piss. I suggest you watch the episode and her facial expression she clearly swings between smugness and outrage and back again, its quite informative and is exactly why people are getting fed up with it
Do you know what really pisses me off about people like her its that she wont suffer when they do away with the system completely no it'll be my ds and the other severely disabled kids in his special school who wont have the help they need to survive, and with the assisted dieing bill going through parliament right now we are 1 step away from Canada where when you cant get the financial support you need to live the shuttle you off to a dr who literally kills you. Look up MAID laws in Canada and the numbers of poor disabled people who are killing themselves because they cant afford to live

dottiehens · 26/11/2025 23:27

MrsMurphyIWish · 26/11/2025 19:47

My son is in receipt of DLA, he has an EHCP. DH and I are teachers and we live in a deprived area - we do see see people abusing the system and it 1. angers us as we work full time and can’t devote the time to DS that he needs and 2. We are worried because he will need a welfare state in the future that I don’t think will be there.

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I hope you absolutely report this people cheating the benefits system. You must.

AnneShirleyBlythe · 26/11/2025 23:25

JHound · 26/11/2025 20:49

There is nothing wrong with putting money into pensions to avoid a higher tax rate or wanting avoid the 62% tax trap between 100-120k. Those on that are harder living uber wealthy lives.

There is currently a cap on what people can sacrifice into pensions tax tree. Reducing that to TWO THOUSAND pounds is moronic. They are forcing more people to be dependent on the state instead of taking charge of their own lives.

People should he putting thousands into their pension. We currently have a huge pensions shortfall with fewer people having enough for retirement. Why on earth are you applauding that being worse? This also impacts those putting into their pension at a “normal” rate and disincentivises employer contributions. Making more dependent on the state pension.

(and people pay tax when they end up drawing their pension).

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You have misunderstood todays pension changes. Contributing up to £60,000 tax free still stands. However if you are in a salary sacrifice scheme rather than net pay scheme your employer will now pay NI contributions on amounts over £2000 pa.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cd9zx8z5d1no

A couple sit at a large table in front of a laptop with a calculator and notebooks. They look to be going over a budgets and finances. The man is dressed in a dark t-shirt while the woman has a long-sleeved striped top.

Salary sacrifice: Pension tax break reduced by chancellor

Some pension savers face a hit to the amount of money they can put into their pension without paying national insurance.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cd9zx8z5d1no

oviraptor21 · 26/11/2025 23:20

Gilead · 26/11/2025 20:36

@thewintergarden Nobody on benefits can buy a 50 grand BMW and this is exactly how the bad press starts and continues. There are no ‘free cars’. No discounted cars, motability is a charity who lease cars. Sometimes you can pay a non returnable deposit to get a larger car. For wheelchair Accessible vehicles there is almost always a hefty deposit and if you have a particularly large chair , a Mercedes van can be the only available option. I manage with a smaller car and hoist but if all cars are going to have a three thousand deposit, I will be housebound, again.

Yes they can.
PIP is not a means tested benefit so someone can be earning a decent wage and getting PIP as well (perfectly fair) but it doesn't sit well if they are using the PIP to subsidise a luxury car.