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To finish with him because of his dog?

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FarageAndAWay · 25/11/2025 16:48

Boyfriend has a dog, it’s huge and a bit mental. When I go around to his it literally bounces off each wall on the way to me - flys at me barking and mouthing, instantly runs off with my shoes etc

Then the entire evening is dictated by the dog - it goes mental barking at the slightest noise outside, aimlessly wanders around the room whining, parks itself inbetween us and then suddenly loses its head and starts jumping all over one of us (normally me). Drinks get knocked over, you can’t relax as dog is constantly trampling all over the sofa etc

I hate going. I love dogs but this one is just too much, it gets excited over the slightest thing - it’s that bad that if she finally settles I sit there desperately needing a wee because I daren’t get up because if I do, dog will jump to attention and start going mental again.

He asked me if I’d stay there overnight in a few weeks to look after dog whilst he’s away with work and I agreed but now I don’t know if I can handle it, and I don’t know if I can handle said dog’s presence at all anymore - it stresses me out

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FuzzyWolf · 25/11/2025 16:59

I would explain this to him so he is aware but yes, you can break up with him for any reason you like.

If you aren’t going to look after his dog, at least do the decent thing and tell him with enough time to find someone who can.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 25/11/2025 16:58

Have you articulated any of this to him?

Quitelikeit · 25/11/2025 16:56

Just say you are busy

CruCru · 25/11/2025 16:55

You are allowed to break up with your boyfriend for any reason you like. I once went off a man because he pronounced the “l” in “folks”. Having a disruptive dog doesn’t work for you and that is fine.

But break up with him now. Don’t leave him with no one to look after his dog immediately before an important work trip.

RetainersinSpainnotontheplane · 25/11/2025 16:55

I am a dog person, absolutely adore them. Don’t even mind if they go a bit crackers when I turn up somewhere and leap all over me.

I wouldn’t put up with that though. Not in the slightest. Someone who has a dog who can’t be arsed to put in the effort to train is a big red flag to me. What else can’t he be arsed to put in the effort for?!

MangaKanga · 25/11/2025 16:55

I'd be concerned he was instantly viewing me as a free dog care provider rather than continuing with whatever arrangements he'd have made otherwise.

That type of man generally forgets how to do his own laundry and cook for himself once you move in, too. You end up doing all the unpaid shit gruntwork. And dealing with an untrained dog- no thanks.

I say that as a huge dog lover

OneOfEachPlease · 25/11/2025 16:54

Say no to looking after the dog, I don’t think that’s fair on you or the dog!

I think you need to tell him that you like him but you don’t want to hang out at his because of the dog. Either he’ll decide in favour of his untrained dog or he’ll try and train it. It’s very early on so it’s fine to walk away over something like this.

hivizzz · 25/11/2025 16:54

This sounds tough. I love dogs and have two high-energy ones myself, and while they can be a bit annoying sometimes, it’s nothing like what you’re describing.

is the dog getting enough exercise? I think tha would be a logical place to start.

ShesTheAlbatross · 25/11/2025 16:52

Admittedly I am not a dog person. But I’d have ended it after the first time meeting such a badly trained dog.