Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think free birthing should be entirely banned

558 replies

StandFirm · 22/11/2025 11:13

I have come across this article earlier which made me feel so very angry at the cynical extremists who brainwashed a mum into an entirely avoidable tragedy: https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation
If I'd listened to similar cretins, I would have died in childbirth aged 19 and none of my three DCs would have been born alive or at the very least without severe disabilities. 'Pearls of wisdom' which gave me the rage include:
-ultrasounds are not safe
-women’s “bodies do not grow babies that we cannot birth”
Such ignorant perfidious lies. I hope the cult leader gets sent down for a very long time. That poor little child was robbed of a healthy body and many more actually died. I really hate the internet's ability to spawn dangerous cults entirely unchecked.

Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world

A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors

https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation

OP posts:
Thread gallery
6
sunshinestar1986 · 24/11/2025 08:01

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 07:34

Some of these tragedies or all could've been prevented had these babies been born at home.
How? No treatment is available at home. A bad hospital might miss things and not do away with the risks entirely but with an unassisted home birth, you are entirely on your own if a problem arises.

Read about the risks of intervention like i said. Having intervention causes most of the problems to begin with,no intervention, less issues.
Also, you do need to have a bit of common sense, and a plan ready to have hospital transfer if needed.
But being in hospital isn't the best environment for giving birth ironically unless its actually a life and death situation, and birth isn't supposed to be a life and death situation.
Also, read up about the stats for black and brown women, are they also safer in hospital?
Please 🙄

sunshinestar1986 · 24/11/2025 07:58

localnotail · 24/11/2025 07:47

I agree with this - that is a very strange comment@sunshinestar1986, I dont understand how these examples would have worked better without any medical intervention? Like, the lady with eclampsia would have died at home, but at least at the hospital she had a chance (obviously not taken due to negligence). Birth injury also happens in complicated births, so your friend's son probably would have not been alive at all. Medicine is not perfect and there is always a human factor but giving birth in anti-sanitary conditions without any medical help present is mad. Might as well go give birth in a field, like in the olden days.

Because intervention is what caused most of them in the first place.
Induction causes most issues, and they are not even needed.
What exactly was the reason for my Induction?
A week post dates 🙄
Look into the risks of induction and then come back.
Most are unnecessary.
Also, most home births have the calm environment that a birthing woman needs. Sometimes you do need to go to hospital, that’s not the issue but let's not ignore the facts, home births and even free births have better outcomes.
Look specifically into hospital stats then come back.

localnotail · 24/11/2025 07:47

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 07:34

Some of these tragedies or all could've been prevented had these babies been born at home.
How? No treatment is available at home. A bad hospital might miss things and not do away with the risks entirely but with an unassisted home birth, you are entirely on your own if a problem arises.

I agree with this - that is a very strange comment@sunshinestar1986, I dont understand how these examples would have worked better without any medical intervention? Like, the lady with eclampsia would have died at home, but at least at the hospital she had a chance (obviously not taken due to negligence). Birth injury also happens in complicated births, so your friend's son probably would have not been alive at all. Medicine is not perfect and there is always a human factor but giving birth in anti-sanitary conditions without any medical help present is mad. Might as well go give birth in a field, like in the olden days.

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 07:34

sunshinestar1986 · 23/11/2025 19:51

Banned?
I suppose you also don't know that babies and women die in hospitals? At a higher rate than at home or free births.
My own niece nearly died at hospital because she was released home and she had some of the placenta still stuck inside her, she bled out so much at home and when we got her to hospital, they tried to send her home saying we can't see anything wrong, and bleeding seems to have stopped, then we insisted on an ultrasound, where they saw the piece of placenta that had an active blood source.
Next baby she wants a home birth!

And my neighbour died 15 years ago, she had twins, she kept complaining of an headache, doctors just said it was normal, they didn't even bother to check her blood pressure, she had eclampsia and died!
Another lady i know, her baby died, my friends daughter, her son has disabilities due to a birth injury.
These are all hospital births.
Some of these tragedies or all could've been prevented had these babies been born at home.
How is that you don't know about the terrible hospital stats?
It usually starts with intervention, induction, c section and negative outcomes.
Do your research before your self righteous outrage 🙄

Some of these tragedies or all could've been prevented had these babies been born at home.
How? No treatment is available at home. A bad hospital might miss things and not do away with the risks entirely but with an unassisted home birth, you are entirely on your own if a problem arises.

OP posts:
TempestTost · 24/11/2025 00:36

The number of people who attempt to freebirth is actually quite small.

The best way to reduce it, imo, would be to make maternity care better. Most women I know who are seriously considering giving birth outside of a setting with a qualified midwife or doctor have been shittily treated in maternity care. Whether that is poor medical care or being treated like shit as a person.

In my experience a lot of vets give their birthing patients more appropriate care than hospitals give women.

sunkissedandwarm · 23/11/2025 23:59

mivona · 23/11/2025 22:49

Rather than trying to control what other people choose, why not address why women are choosing to run this risk to avoid the trauma of escalating interventions so common with hospital births?

Women want not just continuity of care. They want continunity of CARER, building a relationship of trust during the pregnancy so that they can feel well supported during the birth.

Many women want to have home births, plan for home births, and then are denied that choice because "you'll have to come in, as we have no midwife to send to you".

I'd rather put my energy into making things better, rather than exerting control.

If I'd been in labour and been told there was no midwife and I had to come in, I'd have seriously considered just staying at home. Luckily, I had continuity of care and midwives lined up.

sunkissedandwarm · 23/11/2025 23:57

KuanKaKu · 23/11/2025 22:30

Being aware of a family who chose to free birth and ended up needing emergency medical intervention, putting much more pressure on health services than an NHS based labour and delivery would have. My opinion is if you’re choosing a free birth you’re also choosing risk and so should not necessarily expect to flip back to the NHS because your free birth hasn’t progressed as hoped, it’s not fair on highly stretched services to go against the grain and then just expect to rejoin the mainstream because you need to.

That's just silly. You can apply that to anyone who chooses to birth at all. You choose to have a baby, so it's not fair to expect the NHS to fund it, especially if you need NICU or some other expensive thing by that token.

No-one should play sports, go on adventures, drive a car, cross the road.

It costs the NHS far more for low risk women to choose to birth in a hospital. Maybe home birth should be the default and you save the NHS money by only going to hospital if you need to?

Lovecatssowonderfullypretty · 23/11/2025 23:54

Ilovecakey · 23/11/2025 10:48

I dont think free birth should be criminalised but your argument dorsnt make sense as abortion is not allowed at full term.

It absolutely is in certain circumstances, such as baby having severe, non compatible with life, conditions.

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 22:54

@mivona Agreed. We had initially booked our home birth on the NHS but they pulled these in Covid due to needed all midwives on wards. I paid a private IM.

mivona · 23/11/2025 22:49

Rather than trying to control what other people choose, why not address why women are choosing to run this risk to avoid the trauma of escalating interventions so common with hospital births?

Women want not just continuity of care. They want continunity of CARER, building a relationship of trust during the pregnancy so that they can feel well supported during the birth.

Many women want to have home births, plan for home births, and then are denied that choice because "you'll have to come in, as we have no midwife to send to you".

I'd rather put my energy into making things better, rather than exerting control.

KuanKaKu · 23/11/2025 22:30

StandFirm · 22/11/2025 11:13

I have come across this article earlier which made me feel so very angry at the cynical extremists who brainwashed a mum into an entirely avoidable tragedy: https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation
If I'd listened to similar cretins, I would have died in childbirth aged 19 and none of my three DCs would have been born alive or at the very least without severe disabilities. 'Pearls of wisdom' which gave me the rage include:
-ultrasounds are not safe
-women’s “bodies do not grow babies that we cannot birth”
Such ignorant perfidious lies. I hope the cult leader gets sent down for a very long time. That poor little child was robbed of a healthy body and many more actually died. I really hate the internet's ability to spawn dangerous cults entirely unchecked.

Being aware of a family who chose to free birth and ended up needing emergency medical intervention, putting much more pressure on health services than an NHS based labour and delivery would have. My opinion is if you’re choosing a free birth you’re also choosing risk and so should not necessarily expect to flip back to the NHS because your free birth hasn’t progressed as hoped, it’s not fair on highly stretched services to go against the grain and then just expect to rejoin the mainstream because you need to.

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 22:29

@Philandbill Mine too. My home birth was at the height of Covid. I was told if I wanted my husband to be present for the birth of his first and last child in hospital, I would be forced to have fingers inside me by a midwife. Absolutely not.

strongermummy · 23/11/2025 22:28

The whole point about free birth is it is outside the realms of rules and legislation . free birth wil still happen even if you ban it.
however thst way madness lies
you cannot legislate for stupidity.
if people believe they are better off without ultra sounds then they wish to live in the dark ages. And yes. Plenty of women and babies died in that era.

I would have preferred a home birth. Not a free birth. However. At that time it was tricky to find a midwife to commit to being your midwife at home. Therefore the whole reason to choose it for me - continuity of care with someone I trusted - didn’t work. However. It would have been much less stressful for my 2nd birth. Especially as it was so ridiculously fast.

home birth is often considered safer, for certain families, and when I lived on the south coast it was very much encouraged by the local NHS for that very reason.

however. Birthing at home with a midwife is not free birth and I cannot imagine many families choosing free birthing in an equitable world.

Philandbill · 23/11/2025 22:21

crazylizardsss · 23/11/2025 20:38

I can't believe I have to say this, but having a baby at home is not about fecking candles. Will people stop banging on about bloody candles. Not only is it utterly patronising, it totally misses the point.

It is about a minimally stressful environment, avoiding the stress of trying to get to the hospital whilst in labour, about supporting the mental health of a woman who may well have had a very traumatic hospital birth previously, about being able to give birth somewhere that you know is clean and hygienic, giving yourself the best chance of avoiding the cascade of intervention which so often goes hand in hand with giving birth in hospital. When I had my second child at home, I had to have consultant agreement. The midwife came to our house beforehand to check that the house was suitable for a home birth, that it was clean, that we had easy access to the hospital should we need it, that we knew who to call and when, and what would happen. They made sure we knew what would happen if a hospital transfer was needed and that I understood I could go to the hospital at any time for any reason. It was far, far more support than I got with the hospital birth the first time round. It was three hours from start to finish, no intervention, no tearing, no stitches, no trauma.

And no effing candles and music, FFS.

This. It's the story of DD2's birth as well. Also not a candle in sight, just me working (labouring) to birth my baby with the encouragement, monitoring and support of a sensible and competent midwife and my lovely DH.

LeavesOnTrees · 23/11/2025 22:04

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 21:47

@LeavesOnTrees As a pro home-birther I do feel many (although of course, not all) births are over-medicalised.
It is simply incorrect to argue that the natural process of birth is always inherently dangerous or risky as the 1800s statistic supports.

I'm not against home births either. They generally involve a qualified midwife who knows what's she's doing.

If something goes wrong, which it quite often does, then following the Free birth mantra of rejecting all medical help absolutely puts the mother and baby's lives in danger

I'm against criminalising it though and women need accurate information and free choice.

My post was just pointing out that a 5% death rate (although apparently it's more like 1-2% ) may not sound much but in terms of overall maternity death numbers it's huge.

I think this is more a US problem anyway. From what i understand their maternity care is very medicalised, with high caesarian rates and consultant led. Their health insurance system leads women to have to consider finances as part of their birth choices. The NHS has other problems (mainly lack of funding).

I actually gave birth in France, where home births aren't a thing but it's very midwife lead in the hospital. Basically, you give birth with the midwife and your birthing partner and they only call the obstetrician if needed.

They are massively into their epidurals unlike in the UK.

sunkissedandwarm · 23/11/2025 22:04

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 21:47

@LeavesOnTrees As a pro home-birther I do feel many (although of course, not all) births are over-medicalised.
It is simply incorrect to argue that the natural process of birth is always inherently dangerous or risky as the 1800s statistic supports.

I agree with you and for sure interventions can cause complications that wouldn't occur if it had just been left alone. But it is equally wrong to say that birth is never dangerous or never goes wrong. To home birth at all costs is a problem, though may come down to a philosophical argument about freedom to reject intervention no matter what the cost.

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 21:47

@LeavesOnTrees As a pro home-birther I do feel many (although of course, not all) births are over-medicalised.
It is simply incorrect to argue that the natural process of birth is always inherently dangerous or risky as the 1800s statistic supports.

LeavesOnTrees · 23/11/2025 21:43

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 21:24

@LeavesOnTrees In the 1800s. Pre scanning etc. Pre modern medicine. Pre pretty much anything we have by today's standards.

Is this in reference to maternal death rates ?

These interventions are what the free birth movement is against.
They argue in favour of rejecting all medical attention during pregnancy and birth and letting nature take its course.

Women in the 1800s had midwives and some medical attention.

Pinkieandthebraintakeovertheworld · 23/11/2025 21:30

RubySquid · 23/11/2025 21:21

And what if you don't agree? Will they arrest you and do it anyway against your will

No. But they definitely present it as the plan rather than an option, with an explanation as to why that’s the plan. And you have to sign normal medical paperwork before any procedures to show you agree you’ve spoken to the drs and midwives and understand the risks/benefits of whatever the procedure is. If you don’t agree they’d probably try to talk you out of waiting past 42 weeks because the risk of still birth increases considerably. But no one’s going to be arresting you for going against medical advice in France.

Mrsnothingthanks · 23/11/2025 21:24

@LeavesOnTrees In the 1800s. Pre scanning etc. Pre modern medicine. Pre pretty much anything we have by today's standards.

RubySquid · 23/11/2025 21:21

Pinkieandthebraintakeovertheworld · 23/11/2025 21:18

current policy in France is to induce at 41+4 if labour hasn’t started naturally. Which means if induction fails they would be doing a C-Section at 42 weeks.

And what if you don't agree? Will they arrest you and do it anyway against your will

Pinkieandthebraintakeovertheworld · 23/11/2025 21:18

sunshinestar1986 · 23/11/2025 19:59

You don't know that actually.
It's possible that being in hospital caused everything to begin and hey, they also saved you
Amazing.
Usually things starts with unnecessary intervention.
Like in my case, they said I needed an induction due to post dates, they insisted at 41 weeks that I needed my baby out.
I had a violent reaction to the pessary, I went from not at all ready to give birth, to fully dilated in just an hour,
Baby got stuck, shoulder dystocia.
Now imagine, they simply waited until 42 weeks?
Or even 43 (in France thats acceptable)
Perhaps that would never have happened? Perhaps I would've started labour naturally.
You see what I mean?
Let's no jump to thinking that medical intervention was at all neccassary.
Same goes for bleeding out,having an induction makes that more likely, simply being in hospital makes negative outcomes more likely.
Even ur story doesn't sound like an amazing outcome, an amazing outcome would've been a normal labour and delivery.

current policy in France is to induce at 41+4 if labour hasn’t started naturally. Which means if induction fails they would be doing a C-Section at 42 weeks.

InSlovakiaTheCapitalOfCourseIsBratislava · 23/11/2025 21:07

MarvellousMonsters · 23/11/2025 20:48

It’s not down to massaged statistics, no. And there are maternal and infant injuries in hospital that are caused by unnecessary intervention, intervention that wouldn’t have happened if mum had stayed at home. The majority of the ‘it’s a good job we were in hospital because XYZ happened and I/my baby could’ve died’ stories are often the result of hospital practices, like lithotomy, rigid timing of length of labour…. And so on.

Though it’s a sliding doors moment. No one ever knows how it might have gone otherwise

sunkissedandwarm · 23/11/2025 20:58

You can't ban it. You either push it further underground or women will find a way. If I'd wanted a free birth I'd have planned a home birth with a midwife and 'oops, the baby just suddenly came so fast!' In fact, that happened on three occasions and the midwife wasn't there until well into second stage, since it took me by surprise. Not a candle in sight.

I would never choose to free birth because stuff happens, but love the idea. While I trusted my body, medical intervention does have it's place. My last home birth involved lights and sirens and blood transfusions and ICU for me.

SouthLondonMum22 · 23/11/2025 20:50

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 23/11/2025 20:20

Completely disagree. I believe the baby should have just as many rights as the mother at this point, most importantly the right to enter the world with the best chance of being healthy.

In that case, laws would have to change. Including also banning pregnant women from drinking, smoking etc.

Swipe left for the next trending thread