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To think free birthing should be entirely banned

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StandFirm · 22/11/2025 11:13

I have come across this article earlier which made me feel so very angry at the cynical extremists who brainwashed a mum into an entirely avoidable tragedy: https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation
If I'd listened to similar cretins, I would have died in childbirth aged 19 and none of my three DCs would have been born alive or at the very least without severe disabilities. 'Pearls of wisdom' which gave me the rage include:
-ultrasounds are not safe
-women’s “bodies do not grow babies that we cannot birth”
Such ignorant perfidious lies. I hope the cult leader gets sent down for a very long time. That poor little child was robbed of a healthy body and many more actually died. I really hate the internet's ability to spawn dangerous cults entirely unchecked.

Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world

A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors

https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation

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Ilovecakey · 24/11/2025 14:55

phantomofthepopera · 23/11/2025 13:44

He did used to visit them, but he was a bit of waster by all accounts, and a heavy drinker. The wider family were all back in Ireland and Scotland.

One of the saddest parts of all was that the boys and girls were split up and put in separate orphanages and didn’t see each other again until they were adults except for in church, where they could wave to each other but weren’t allowed to speak to each other. 😢

That really is so sad.

Ilovecakey · 24/11/2025 14:30

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 23/11/2025 11:43

To explain what I thought was fairly simple to understand ...

The OP or PP said that the practice should be banned because we should be thinking about the vulnerable child (or similar words).

The argument for abortion is that its not a vulnerable child, just a foetus or a clump of cells (as is a full-term baby, or an adult).

There's a hypocrisy there. When pro-lifers talk about that foetus as a child/person they are derided.

And I was pointing out that in both cases the mother takes an action that resulted in the baby dying in the womb and then being evacuated.

You say abortion is not allowed at full-term but effectively that's what these women did.

And my major point is that it seems arbitrary to argue for protecting the child against the mother in one situation, but the mother against the child in the other.

Once abortion existed to protect the life of the mother. Now it's used to select a preferred sex, killing female babies in the process (which reeks of misogyny to me).

I can see the logic of supporting the primacy of the unborn child and arguing for a ban on both freebirth and abortion.

Similarly I can see the logic of allowing both freebirth and abortion.

But why would anyone argue to ban freebirthing but support abortion? There's no rationale for it.

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Well yes there is because abortion is not allowed past 24 weeks as at that point the baby could survive outside the mother although with a lot of help needed. Not saying I agree with abortion either but someone having an abortion at 6 weeks is very different to someone having one past 30 weeks when by then they coukd just wait a few weeks and give birth to a healthy baby.
You say abortion is what they effectively did but they didnt as abortion is when you intentionally kill the baby. They didnt set out for the baby to die even if their decisions might have led to it it wasn't their intention.

ImWearingPantaloons · 24/11/2025 13:35

I find it interesting to note that since this article was published, the instagram pages of both ES and YNC have gone very quiet.

Gossipisgood · 24/11/2025 13:19

I think all Mums to be should have the choice how they want to give birth. However, I do think all Mums should be more educated on what can go wrong during birth & encourage them to seek advice from their midwife if they have any concerns or questions. I definitely think Mums should have a choice of treatment & give consent to what they do & don't want done during their birthing experiences. Doing a C Section to suit the medical Team & not the Mum is wrong as is doing procedures like an episiotomy without consent. Mums should be in control & if she or her baby are in danger then they need the options available to them asap. It's also very important for birthing partners to be aware of what the Mum wants before the birth starts so they can speak up for them if they're not able to decide because they're having to be anaesthetised etc. I'm sure a lot of women have had a wonderful free birth experience but to promote it as the only way it should be is wrong on so many levels.

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 13:17

In general, much more should be done to contain the spread of disinformation, especially medical.

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StandFirm · 24/11/2025 13:17

RisenWhine · 24/11/2025 13:11

I don’t think it should be banned. But I do think if a woman wants to free-birth, or even home birth, they need to sign a waiver that they are aware of the risks and will not seek compensation/blame NHS services if things go tits up.

women considered high risk who are advised against free or home births should sign a form to say they are being negligent and if anything goes wrong they risk being investigated by SS.

When I say banned, I've clarified earlier that I don't want to criminalise mums - but something along the lines you suggest if the free birth is a truly independent decision OR if there is a malicious influence in their lives such as a guru or cult-like community (even just online), I would focus on prosecuting them/the organisation.

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Supperlite · 24/11/2025 13:15

No, free birthing should not be banned. There’s no way to enforce it. I was in labour and the local hospital was on divert so I was faced with an hour’s drive to the next hospital. I thought it would be safer to have the baby at home rather than on the side of the motorway. In the end I was accepted to my local hospital (just in the nick of time!). In your proposed scenario I would have been committing a crime for trying to keep my baby and I safe by staying home.

The issue is the medical misinformation and general ignorance. It boggles my mind that some women think that childbirth is anything other than extremely dangerous for both mother and baby.

RisenWhine · 24/11/2025 13:11

I don’t think it should be banned. But I do think if a woman wants to free-birth, or even home birth, they need to sign a waiver that they are aware of the risks and will not seek compensation/blame NHS services if things go tits up.

women considered high risk who are advised against free or home births should sign a form to say they are being negligent and if anything goes wrong they risk being investigated by SS.

TheIceBear · 24/11/2025 13:07

I don’t think free birthing itself should be banned but these people peddling disinformation should be banned for sure it’s disgusting what they are getting away with. I would never have a free birth the idea horrifies me . I think it would be against human rights to ban people from doing it though.

RubySquid · 24/11/2025 11:01

StartingFreshFor2026 · 24/11/2025 10:58

I do agree with this, but I also sincerely believe if obstetric care was made much better then only an even tinier proportion of pregnant women would choose to attempt freebirth.

It still shouldn't be 'banned'. Nothing good comes of banning stuff like this.

This is the Cruz of the matter. Excellent post

StartingFreshFor2026 · 24/11/2025 10:58

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 10:42

The answer to obstetrics care not being good enough is surely not no care at all!

I do agree with this, but I also sincerely believe if obstetric care was made much better then only an even tinier proportion of pregnant women would choose to attempt freebirth.

It still shouldn't be 'banned'. Nothing good comes of banning stuff like this.

StartingFreshFor2026 · 24/11/2025 10:55

ForPlumReader · 24/11/2025 10:39

That's a ludicrous thing to say. You could attach the same logic to anyone who drives a car, takes part is sport, etc etc.

It also sort of suggests the medical emergency itself is the fault of the mother choosing to freebirth, which is highly unlikely. Many of the obstetric emergencies that occur do so regardless of where you're birthing (e.g. baby in distress, cord prolapse, postpartum haemorrhage). So while an argument can be made that it's better to be close to life saving facilities, in the majority of cases the emergency would happen wherever the birth occurs so 'should not necessarily expect to flip back to the NHS because your free birth hasn’t progressed as hoped' is completely ludicrous.

Also, would we really turn away dying mothers and babies because the mother made a risky choice for her birth?? How would you account for accidental freebirths?

I still think freebirthing is risky and not a good decision but some of the rhetoric around it is silly and callous.

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 10:42

The answer to obstetrics care not being good enough is surely not no care at all!

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ForPlumReader · 24/11/2025 10:39

KuanKaKu · 23/11/2025 22:30

Being aware of a family who chose to free birth and ended up needing emergency medical intervention, putting much more pressure on health services than an NHS based labour and delivery would have. My opinion is if you’re choosing a free birth you’re also choosing risk and so should not necessarily expect to flip back to the NHS because your free birth hasn’t progressed as hoped, it’s not fair on highly stretched services to go against the grain and then just expect to rejoin the mainstream because you need to.

That's a ludicrous thing to say. You could attach the same logic to anyone who drives a car, takes part is sport, etc etc.

StandFirm · 24/11/2025 10:36

sunshinestar1986 · 24/11/2025 08:01

Read about the risks of intervention like i said. Having intervention causes most of the problems to begin with,no intervention, less issues.
Also, you do need to have a bit of common sense, and a plan ready to have hospital transfer if needed.
But being in hospital isn't the best environment for giving birth ironically unless its actually a life and death situation, and birth isn't supposed to be a life and death situation.
Also, read up about the stats for black and brown women, are they also safer in hospital?
Please 🙄

Birth of my first born was certainly a life or death situation for me. We're talking minutes here. It was traumatic. I hated the thought of a c-section the second and third time around but my instinct was to be a close to the operating theatre as I could physically be!

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StartingFreshFor2026 · 24/11/2025 09:51

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:12

I was prepared to lock myself in the bathroom and refuse to come out. I knew I could call a paramedic as a backup. Looking back, that's obviously very silly, but it's a reflection of just how traumatised I was by the previous hospital birth. There was no way I was letting another obstetrician get within 10 feet of me.

I had a seriously dehumanising experience with my first hospital birth (and postnatal time). I am grateful that we're both still alive but it came at such an enormous cost. My child is only still alive because myself and my husband advocated for him constantly throughout. A decade later I still get nightmares about it. I can understand why some women would never go back to a hospital birth.

JH0404 · 24/11/2025 09:44

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:30

The problem we've got, to put it bluntly, is that that exact scenario can and does happen in hospital with trained medics attending.

Babies suffer unnecessary irreversible brain damage in hospital with medical staff attending. The NHS pays out millions of pounds a year in damages to families where this has occurred. So it shouldn't be at all surprising that some women don't view hospitals as a safe haven, or trust doctors, or are willing to put the health of their baby in the hands of a stranger they've only just met and know nothing about, even if he is an obstetrician.

I don’t know the exact statistics, however I’m prepared to bet that the risk of not having a medically supervised birth is significantly higher than otherwise. If the worst happens in hospital there are records, debriefs and investigations and accountability. I bet the cult weirdo’s who essentially harmed the baby in the article got off scot free and are still advocating their insanity.

Laurmolonlabe · 24/11/2025 09:34

No you are not being unreasonable- if an individual wants to put themselves at risk that is their choice, but in the case of birth the child has to be considered.
In a country with free healthcare the burden such individuals are putting on the system and other taxpayers has to be considered also.
As to you not being able to grow a baby you can't birth hundreds of years of statistics and maternal and child deaths call this out as a dammed lie- it is perfectly natural for one in five of labouring mothers to die within 2 weeks of the labour, and somewhat greater proportion of the babies, these are not good odds.

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:30

JH0404 · 24/11/2025 09:25

What have I just read! A baby being asphyxiated to the point of irreversible brain damage while a bunch of thick idiots tell the mother ‘you are a queen’ and ‘you are safe’!!!! While this could have been prevented if there was a medically trained clinician present. Yes you might survive and even have a good birth on your own or with whichever lunatics you choose to accompany you, but you might not, how is it ever worth the risk???

The problem we've got, to put it bluntly, is that that exact scenario can and does happen in hospital with trained medics attending.

Babies suffer unnecessary irreversible brain damage in hospital with medical staff attending. The NHS pays out millions of pounds a year in damages to families where this has occurred. So it shouldn't be at all surprising that some women don't view hospitals as a safe haven, or trust doctors, or are willing to put the health of their baby in the hands of a stranger they've only just met and know nothing about, even if he is an obstetrician.

JH0404 · 24/11/2025 09:25

What have I just read! A baby being asphyxiated to the point of irreversible brain damage while a bunch of thick idiots tell the mother ‘you are a queen’ and ‘you are safe’!!!! While this could have been prevented if there was a medically trained clinician present. Yes you might survive and even have a good birth on your own or with whichever lunatics you choose to accompany you, but you might not, how is it ever worth the risk???

sunkissedandwarm · 24/11/2025 09:20

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:12

I was prepared to lock myself in the bathroom and refuse to come out. I knew I could call a paramedic as a backup. Looking back, that's obviously very silly, but it's a reflection of just how traumatised I was by the previous hospital birth. There was no way I was letting another obstetrician get within 10 feet of me.

I understand. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Your feelings aren't silly either. You feel how you feel, and that's okay.

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:18

Delatron · 23/11/2025 18:07

It’s an NCT narrative that births are ‘over medicalised’ and the ‘cascade of intervention’ bollocks that they shove down your throat. That having an epidural is the end of the world and must be avoided at all cost. Just breathe the baby out

In our group all of us who fell for the NCT narrative and bloody Ina May rubbish all had bad outcomes such
as long labours, c-sections,
forceps.

The one girl who ignored this and had an epidural early, had a lovely sleep, then woke up and had a nice birth. Plus she wasn’t exhausted.

If I had my time again (with two back to back babies) I would have ditched trying to be bloody active and the water birth and had the epidural as soon as I could. And relaxed.

Why are home births so low in France? Is it because the hospitals are better? Or maybe they don’t have all the NCT brainwashing nonsense.

To be fair, home births are very very low in the UK. In reality hardly anyone does it. I have, but I don't know anyone else who has. I know one person who tried but in the end went to hospital for pain relief (not in an emergency) because her labour was very long. I am in an area with higher than average home birthing and it's a measly 7%.

I don't understand why it makes women who haven't and would never have one so angry. No-one is trying to make you do it. You'd prefer a hospital environment? Great! It's freely available for you on the NHS. Have at it.

crazylizardsss · 24/11/2025 09:12

sunkissedandwarm · 23/11/2025 23:59

If I'd been in labour and been told there was no midwife and I had to come in, I'd have seriously considered just staying at home. Luckily, I had continuity of care and midwives lined up.

I was prepared to lock myself in the bathroom and refuse to come out. I knew I could call a paramedic as a backup. Looking back, that's obviously very silly, but it's a reflection of just how traumatised I was by the previous hospital birth. There was no way I was letting another obstetrician get within 10 feet of me.

Housefallingdown · 24/11/2025 09:06

sunshinestar1986 · 24/11/2025 07:58

Because intervention is what caused most of them in the first place.
Induction causes most issues, and they are not even needed.
What exactly was the reason for my Induction?
A week post dates 🙄
Look into the risks of induction and then come back.
Most are unnecessary.
Also, most home births have the calm environment that a birthing woman needs. Sometimes you do need to go to hospital, that’s not the issue but let's not ignore the facts, home births and even free births have better outcomes.
Look specifically into hospital stats then come back.

Can you link the stats that say free births have better outcomes than hospital births please? I can’t find anything reputable that says this.

Home births attended by midwives, with hospital transfers available when necessary, are fine for low-risk pregnancies. But remember that the fact that hospitals take all the high-risk mothers in the first place in itself skews the stats.

I agree that over-intervention is an issue that should be addressed though. There is certainly room for improvement. However, in general, giving birth is now much safer than it was and this is because of the increased medical care available before, during and after birth.

angela1952 · 24/11/2025 08:52

localnotail · 24/11/2025 07:47

I agree with this - that is a very strange comment@sunshinestar1986, I dont understand how these examples would have worked better without any medical intervention? Like, the lady with eclampsia would have died at home, but at least at the hospital she had a chance (obviously not taken due to negligence). Birth injury also happens in complicated births, so your friend's son probably would have not been alive at all. Medicine is not perfect and there is always a human factor but giving birth in anti-sanitary conditions without any medical help present is mad. Might as well go give birth in a field, like in the olden days.

My DIL had pre-eclamsia which was picked up at her antenatal check ups and ended up having an emergency caesarian at 32 weeks, her consultant told her she was very likely to have it again during her next pregnancy and would definitely need another section.
Despite this, during her second pregnancy her midwives kept telling her she was down for a normal vaginal delivery. Of course she was very ill towards the end of her pregnancy, I was staying with her at home because we all felt that she should not be alone during the day, and was taking her to hospital daily for a BP check - why not a community midwife coming to visit her?
At 34 weeks they had to admit her, to a large antenatal ward with just one midwife who was two hours over her normal shift with no replacement in sight and no doctor in attendance for the three hours we waited there. Fortunately a doctor did appear then and she had her CS immediately. Problems in hospital are often due to long-term lack of money which has led to insufficient staff and possibly insufficient training.
However she was better off in hospital, even with these problems. Things can go wrong anywhere, often due to staff mistakes coupled to simple mischance, but if she had been at home (and had received no antenatal care) she would quite definitely have died.

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