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To think free birthing should be entirely banned

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StandFirm · 22/11/2025 11:13

I have come across this article earlier which made me feel so very angry at the cynical extremists who brainwashed a mum into an entirely avoidable tragedy: https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation
If I'd listened to similar cretins, I would have died in childbirth aged 19 and none of my three DCs would have been born alive or at the very least without severe disabilities. 'Pearls of wisdom' which gave me the rage include:
-ultrasounds are not safe
-women’s “bodies do not grow babies that we cannot birth”
Such ignorant perfidious lies. I hope the cult leader gets sent down for a very long time. That poor little child was robbed of a healthy body and many more actually died. I really hate the internet's ability to spawn dangerous cults entirely unchecked.

Influencers made millions pushing ‘wild’ births – now the Free Birth Society is linked to baby deaths around the world

A year-long investigation reveals how mothers lost children after being radicalised by uplifting podcast tales of births without midwives or doctors

https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation

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NeedANapAgain · 22/11/2025 14:15

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 22/11/2025 12:14

Why is your instinct to ban something that you think is dangerous but which is voluntary?

You may think you're being nice or kind but you're not. You're being demanding and controlling when you reach for legislation to ban something only a few people do (unwisely in my view but...)

Skiing is dangerous
Rock climbing, trampolining , crossing the road, swimming ... all these dangerous too and kill small numbers.

Better to address why some people can't get midwifery when they need it at a price they can afford...

Umm, maybe because a helpless infant is involved? And using your rather poor analogy, you wouldn’t think twice if you saw a woman rock climbing, trampolining or skiing…with a newborn strapped to her back?

Bigearringsbigsmile · 22/11/2025 14:14

LauraNorda · 22/11/2025 11:42

If human birth required medical intervention, humans would have been extinct millions of years ago.

Did you read the article????😲😲😲😲

StandFirm · 22/11/2025 14:12

Dontknowwhattocall13893 · 22/11/2025 14:09

Hospitals that can get so busy women in labour are turned away?
Where I am homebirths are encouraged and supported with a special midwife team that is trained and on call for that separate from those in hospital/birthing units.
It helps free up capacity for the women that need/want hospital births.

If anyone is curious why someone would consider a homebirth (I do disagree with free births) look up the scandal at Edinburgh Royal infirmary. Why would you feel safe someone even the care providers say that you aren't.
I gave birth there tje first time and if I'd listened to the triage midwives I would have had an accidental unattended birth as they did not believe I was in labour.

Honestly I don't get that logic. A bad hospital is potentially bad for you and the baby, yes, but you might stand a fighting chance of being treated if you get into trouble. There is zero chance for you at home without any medical professional with you.

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Waitingfordoggo · 22/11/2025 14:10

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 12:09

One way would be to have the “community midwives” who are sent out to home births working in the hospital.

Well no because community midwives are doing their day to day jobs- running clinics and postnatal visits etc. They can’t also work in the hospital.

Dontknowwhattocall13893 · 22/11/2025 14:09

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 12:37

Midwives who could be helping in hospitals.

Hospitals that can get so busy women in labour are turned away?
Where I am homebirths are encouraged and supported with a special midwife team that is trained and on call for that separate from those in hospital/birthing units.
It helps free up capacity for the women that need/want hospital births.

If anyone is curious why someone would consider a homebirth (I do disagree with free births) look up the scandal at Edinburgh Royal infirmary. Why would you feel safe someone even the care providers say that you aren't.
I gave birth there tje first time and if I'd listened to the triage midwives I would have had an accidental unattended birth as they did not believe I was in labour.

Coolasfeck · 22/11/2025 14:09

I’ve got zero time for women who will prioritise their desire for an magical birth experience and need for kudos from their deluded mates above the delivery of a live and healthy child, as well as their own life.

I will side eye any woman who does this as it suggests a degree of narcissism.

Housefallingdown · 22/11/2025 14:07

Mapletree1985 · 22/11/2025 13:54

Adults must be free to choose even if those choices harm them. Women's bodies must never be controlled or policed.

But there isn’t a choice to wear a seatbelt or not, for example, even if you’re an adult. And in cases of poor mental health people can be committed against their will if they are considered a risk to themselves or others.

Do you think these practices should change?

Havetonamechangeforthis001 · 22/11/2025 14:02

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/11/2025 13:40

Dangerous nonsense. Throughout history women have, at least, been attended by other women.

Hardly dangerous nonsense to say we are designed to give birth un assisted 🤣 it's a fact. Hundreds and thousands of women have given birth unassisted over the years. Hundreds of women conceal births and give birth in secret without any help.

I'm not saying I'd want to do it, I'd be too scared. And I'm not saying I think other people should either. But it isn't dangerous nonsense to say women can and have given birth naturally without assistance. It's a fact

Donttellempike · 22/11/2025 14:01

SumUp · 22/11/2025 13:56

The law should be clamping down on harmful medical misinformation. There are already precedents for this with the Cancer act, which tackles people / companies peddling quack cancer cures.

more info here
https://news.cancerresearchuk.org/2016/02/19/the-1939-cancer-act/

The principles of informed consent should be upheld. Women should continue to have agency over what happens to their own bodies.

Completely this. I wonder how many people know that during the birthing process, the baby is able to withstand 10 minutes of oxygen deprivation. After that, irreversible white matter damage occurs in a predictable pattern

At 20 minutes the baby dies.

Housefallingdown · 22/11/2025 13:59

puppymaddness · 22/11/2025 12:45

so you think women should be forced to undergo invasive medical procedures without their consent.
Excellent.

Not what was said.

Philandbill · 22/11/2025 13:57

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 13:51

if she has the means to pay for it.

it’s not solely about the cost of that one birth. It’s about everything else - midwives there instead of at hospital. The ambulances if needed (which has to be one for mum, one for baby), the impact if it goes wrong.

Have you looked at the Birthplace Study research? Or are you just sounding off with your viewpoint again?

SumUp · 22/11/2025 13:56

The law should be clamping down on harmful medical misinformation. There are already precedents for this with the Cancer act, which tackles people / companies peddling quack cancer cures.

more info here
https://news.cancerresearchuk.org/2016/02/19/the-1939-cancer-act/

The principles of informed consent should be upheld. Women should continue to have agency over what happens to their own bodies.

The 1939 Cancer Act: What is it, what does it do, and is it ‘suppressing the cure’?

We take a closer look at the contents of the Cancer Act as it now stands, how it has changed, and how it still works to protect patients and the public.

https://news.cancerresearchuk.org/2016/02/19/the-1939-cancer-act/

blankittyblank · 22/11/2025 13:56

crazylizardsss · 22/11/2025 13:02

The majority of deaths in childbirth happen during hospital births.

Obviously!! 😂

Mapletree1985 · 22/11/2025 13:54

StandFirm · 22/11/2025 11:13

I have come across this article earlier which made me feel so very angry at the cynical extremists who brainwashed a mum into an entirely avoidable tragedy: https://www.theguardian.com/world/ng-interactive/2025/nov/22/free-birth-society-linked-to-babies-deaths-investigation
If I'd listened to similar cretins, I would have died in childbirth aged 19 and none of my three DCs would have been born alive or at the very least without severe disabilities. 'Pearls of wisdom' which gave me the rage include:
-ultrasounds are not safe
-women’s “bodies do not grow babies that we cannot birth”
Such ignorant perfidious lies. I hope the cult leader gets sent down for a very long time. That poor little child was robbed of a healthy body and many more actually died. I really hate the internet's ability to spawn dangerous cults entirely unchecked.

Adults must be free to choose even if those choices harm them. Women's bodies must never be controlled or policed.

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 13:51

Philandbill · 22/11/2025 13:49

@Thingsaretight The research here is interesting. Look at the birthplace study from 2011. Home births are much cheaper than even a SVB in hospital. Planned home births save the NHS money even when an NHS midwife attends. If a woman wants a home birth and she is low risk she should be able to have one.

if she has the means to pay for it.

it’s not solely about the cost of that one birth. It’s about everything else - midwives there instead of at hospital. The ambulances if needed (which has to be one for mum, one for baby), the impact if it goes wrong.

Philandbill · 22/11/2025 13:49

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 12:44

It’s not.

it’s not one midwife to one woman on labour and delivery. It’s one to one in a home birth. You could increase the number of midwives on the wards by banning home births or making them so that they’re unsupported by the NHS.

@Thingsaretight The research here is interesting. Look at the birthplace study from 2011. Home births are much cheaper than even a SVB in hospital. Planned home births save the NHS money even when an NHS midwife attends. If a woman wants a home birth and she is low risk she should be able to have one.

SapphireSeptember · 22/11/2025 13:46

LauraNorda · 22/11/2025 11:42

If human birth required medical intervention, humans would have been extinct millions of years ago.

And countless women and their babies died in the meantime, or suffered birth trauma that effected them for the rest of their lives.

I don't think either me or DS would have survived without medical intervention. I was told his head was too big to fit through the birth canal while I was in the recovery room after having an elective c section. (Elective because I had pre eclampsia and the only other option I had was induction and I didn't want that.) If I'd have waited to go into labour naturally I would have been risking my life, and DS was 11lbs already, so I dread to think how big he'd have been had he been in there any longer.

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 13:45

Also just because you’re told “consider it”, doesn’t mean it’ll happen. My sister was told to consider it after a 45 minute labour from start to finish.

Had she listened, both her and her baby would be dead.

manineed · 22/11/2025 13:43

Mrstiffet · 22/11/2025 12:24

Someone once said it’s fine if you have no health conditions, bmi and age are under 25 and you’ve given birth before with no problems.

Well with my second child I was all those things and still needed an emergency c section thank god I was in a hospital

But statistically if it’s a subsequent baby and low risk factors then there is no additional risk with a home birth. You will always have people saying ‘well I was in that category and still needed xyz’ but it isn’t reflected in the statistics that show equal outcomes in hospital vs home for that group.

I agree that a lot of women (first time mothers or those with additional risk factors) need to carefully consider the fact there are better outcomes at hospital, but I still accept the facts/statistics for certain groups show that home birth is not at all risky for them.

Funnily enough I know of three NHS midwives locally who all opted for home births for their own babies.

SurferRona · 22/11/2025 13:41

LauraNorda · 22/11/2025 11:42

If human birth required medical intervention, humans would have been extinct millions of years ago.

Yes….tho maybe not quite extinct @LauraNorda? just fewer women around…. labouring women died at very high levels. Centuries after caesareans were discovered could save mother and baby even so late as C18th:. Maternal mortality was high in 18th-century England, with estimates of the rate ranging from 5 to 29 per 1,000 live births, and a lifetime risk of death for married women around 1 in 18. Causes included infections like puerperal fever, complications from obstructed or difficult births, and hemorrhage. Factors like multiple pregnancies, which were more common without contraception, and a lack of understanding of hygiene contributed to the risk. To take your logic further, why medically intervene on anything then, for anyone? Operations to set broken bones? They can eventually heal over; Antibiotics? Some infections will just self-limit; Removal of tumours? Some just go away on their own.

Havetonamechangeforthis001 · 22/11/2025 13:40

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 13:38

So are you saying that women who need interventions have failed at what they’re naturally designed to do?

Well you can read..... did I say that? Or are you just looking for an argument? Who said anything about failing or succeeding? Not me..... if you have any sort of inner feelings of people being inadequate about having interventions that's on you isn't it. I didn't say a single thing about it nor did I hint at it ... nor do I feel that way. I could of had several interventions for all you know?

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/11/2025 13:40

Havetonamechangeforthis001 · 22/11/2025 13:36

I'd never be brave enough to free birth, I want medical people to help me if need be 😅

However, we are designed to free birth. It's a natural thing we can do, just like most other animals 🤷‍♀️

It should never be made a criminal act and I doubt it ever will, because it's what we are naturally designed to do. In fact, lots of animals go off by themselves to give birth.

Dangerous nonsense. Throughout history women have, at least, been attended by other women.

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/11/2025 13:39

crazylizardsss · 22/11/2025 13:02

The majority of deaths in childbirth happen during hospital births.

Because the majority of births happen in hospital. The majority of adult deaths are probably in hospital. They are there because the are already ill, the hospital isn't causing it.

Thingsaretight · 22/11/2025 13:38

Havetonamechangeforthis001 · 22/11/2025 13:36

I'd never be brave enough to free birth, I want medical people to help me if need be 😅

However, we are designed to free birth. It's a natural thing we can do, just like most other animals 🤷‍♀️

It should never be made a criminal act and I doubt it ever will, because it's what we are naturally designed to do. In fact, lots of animals go off by themselves to give birth.

So are you saying that women who need interventions have failed at what they’re naturally designed to do?

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/11/2025 13:36

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 22/11/2025 13:29

How would a ban work?
Would they face criminal prosecution?
Who would investigate it?

I free birthed my last child, accidentally. How would you separate women who did this on purpose with those who have no intention of having this type of birth?

This is why a ban wouldn't work. I know a few women this has happened to but it wasn't their intention.