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Nursery Don’t Let Kids Outside Because it’s Cold

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FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 18:47

And I think it’s ridiculous.

its not a particularly spacious place as it is (inner city) but they have climbing equipment and bikes, a sandpit etc outside. ‘garden time’ is easily my son’s favourite part of the day. He’s 4 and just missed going to school this year so he’s feeling pretty frustrated as it is but he’s been livid this week that his outdoor fun has been curtailed.

Anyway, apparently it’s been ‘too cold’ this week to be outside even in a short burst. I pointed out that my son has mittens, a thick winter coat, woolly hat, boots and an extra jumper if needed, and one of the staff said that not all of the children do so it’s ’not very fair’ to have some out but not others. In fact they seemed a bit surprised that I wanted him to be outside in ‘these low temperatures’.

AIBU to think that a) it’s the staff not wanting to go out and be cold and b) they can’t be arsed to put hats/coats/gloves on the small children that can’t do it themselves.

Because I really can’t think of a valid reason not to let children outside, I know it’s been chilly and yeah I get staying in while it was raining for a bit yesterday but apart from that, we live in the south of England- and there’s no need to keep kids cooped up inside just because it happens to be winter.

Son only attends 3 days a week but they’re full days. When he’s with me we go out to the big parks, scoot everywhere, climb trees, out on waterproofs to be out in the puddles etc. I really notice a shift in his behaviour when he’s not had fresh air and active outdoor time. I don’t drive either so sometimes we just need to get from A to B whatever the weather.

Any other nurseries have this ridiculous policy? Would you agree with it if they did?

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Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:49

Newmeagain · 20/11/2025 19:45

Yes, but people in the uk (children in particular) don’t generally have clothing appropriate for spending lots of time in the cold outdoors.

That's just poor parenting though

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:48

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:36

You don't have to prescribe it - if kids really want to stay in, let them, but that's not a reason to keep ALL the kids in, all day.

Thats my point. My kids couldn't always stay in when they wanted because of the prescription of outdoor play in all weathers coupled with ratio demands.

Newmeagain · 20/11/2025 19:45

Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:41

It's not even that cold! Kids in much colder places play outside.

Tbh I think it's the staff not being arsed

Yes, but people in the uk (children in particular) don’t generally have clothing appropriate for spending lots of time in the cold outdoors.

RubySquid · 20/11/2025 19:45

WiseSheep · 20/11/2025 19:25

Just to give an alternate perspective on possible reasons, my son has asthma attacks triggered by the cold. There may be needs keeping them inside rather than just poor choices.

Edited

All of them? Surely not every kid has asthma or sensory issues

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/11/2025 19:44

TidyCyan · 20/11/2025 19:28

I'm sure that when mine was there I was told OFSTED/early years framework requires daily outdoor access.

It does. When I was a school nursery teacher we had free flow in and out most of the day. It's not a new thing I was doing this the 80s and it wasn't new then.

Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:41

It's not even that cold! Kids in much colder places play outside.

Tbh I think it's the staff not being arsed

arcticpandas · 20/11/2025 19:40

@FanofLeaves They could always just take the kids with suitable clothes out. It sounds very much like the staff found it too cold so maybe they need some warmer clothing as well.
Show them this;
Early years foundation stage (EYFS) statutory framework for Childminders:
3.68 Childminders must provide access to an outdoor play area. If that is not possible, they must ensure that outdoor activities are planned and taken daily (unless circumstances make this inappropriate, for example unsafe weather conditions). Childminders must follow their legal responsibilities under the Equality Act 2010 (for example, the provisions on reasonable adjustments)."

Procrastinatrixx · 20/11/2025 19:36

The 2 nurseries my son attended both had scheduled outdoor time at least one a day (twice in summer), in all weather, even the babies. It was part of the curriculum.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:36

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:35

I think prescribing outdoor play is the wrong way to go. If there was less pressure to make sure all kids went outside, then they'd not ever be forced to go when they really felt it was too cold for them.

You don't have to prescribe it - if kids really want to stay in, let them, but that's not a reason to keep ALL the kids in, all day.

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:35

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:31

But none of that is a reason to keep all the kids cooped up inside all day. I say that as someone with autism and sensory issues myself.

I think prescribing outdoor play is the wrong way to go. If there was less pressure to make sure all kids went outside, then they'd not ever be forced to go when they really felt it was too cold for them.

MakeMineAMilkyTea · 20/11/2025 19:35

Our nursery and school kids have been out all this week. Nursery and reception not today only because it’s been icy and it’s not safe in their playground to go out due to ice.

BeenChangedForGood · 20/11/2025 19:32

I wouldn’t be happy with this at all. Very lucky that DSs nursery have outside open all day and kids are welcome to come and go as between the garden and playroom all day, other than meal times. There are waterproof suits and wellies for all children. We are asked to send in hats and gloves but the nursery also get a lovely donation of hats from a local knitting group each year which the kids also have access to.
Outdoors is only closed if there is a severe weather warning.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:31

WiseSheep · 20/11/2025 19:25

Just to give an alternate perspective on possible reasons, my son has asthma attacks triggered by the cold. There may be needs keeping them inside rather than just poor choices.

Edited

So keep the kids that have health issues inside, and let the others go out.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:31

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:23

Some of my kids always hated the cold and didn't want to go out but were made to quite often due to ratios etc. My youngest hates gloves (sensory issues), but also hates being cold. Others just hate being cold and don't feel comfortable running around wrapped up. Probably milder sensory issues.

But none of that is a reason to keep all the kids cooped up inside all day. I say that as someone with autism and sensory issues myself.

FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 19:29

I’d hope of there were more valid reasons for keeping them inside though it could have been communicated (and it still raises the question if its fair for a majority to miss out for the minority because the nursery can’t manage their needs) but the only reason I got was ‘it’s been too cold’.

I feel for the children that don’t have appropriate weather clothing if that’s the case, but I’d happily donate warm things to keep there as spares for others as I’m sure many parents would- in fact I’ve inadvertently done this already over the two years he’s been there because countless socks, jumpers gloves and hats have been lost to nursery.

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Celestialmoods · 20/11/2025 19:29

Not allowing children outside is bad practice, and if you wanted to you could probably find plenty of professional guidance that supports children being outside in all weathers. In your position, I’d find some and remind them of their obligations. If not all children would be safe to go outside because their parents have failed to provide what they need, then they can either provide it, or keep those children in. The should not be restricting the rights of children out of convenience, and because their staff don’t want to go out.

TidyCyan · 20/11/2025 19:28

I'm sure that when mine was there I was told OFSTED/early years framework requires daily outdoor access.

WiseSheep · 20/11/2025 19:25

Just to give an alternate perspective on possible reasons, my son has asthma attacks triggered by the cold. There may be needs keeping them inside rather than just poor choices.

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:23

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:20

What's sensible about keeping kids cooped up indoors just because it's cold?

Some of my kids always hated the cold and didn't want to go out but were made to quite often due to ratios etc. My youngest hates gloves (sensory issues), but also hates being cold. Others just hate being cold and don't feel comfortable running around wrapped up. Probably milder sensory issues.

RightSheSaid · 20/11/2025 19:21

That's ridiculous. It's cold but it's not that cold. It's not your fault or your kids fault that other children aren't dressed appropriately.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:20

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:10

God, I'd love if my kid's nursery were ever as sensible as this.

What's sensible about keeping kids cooped up indoors just because it's cold?

user2848502016 · 20/11/2025 19:18

When my DDs were at nursery they were out most days unless it was raining heavily.

I’d agree that it’s the staff who can’t be arsed

EmilyEmerald · 20/11/2025 19:17

He can come and play with us OP! Run a childcare setting for 4-11 year olds and we get out for atleast 30 mins every session unless it is literally a storm.

Many parents have asked if their child can stay in this week as it is too cold but it is our policy (and my belief!) That children should have a run around in the fresh air after a day at school.

EmilyEmerald · 20/11/2025 19:17

He can come and play with us OP! Run a childcare setting for 4-11 year olds and we get out for atleast 30 mins every session unless it is literally a storm.

Many parents have asked if their child can stay in this week as it is too cold but it is our policy (and my belief!) That children should have a run around in the fresh air after a day at school.

Natsku · 20/11/2025 19:14

That is not good, children need to be outside in all weathers (except for actual extremes like storms). Nursery needs to make sure parents send their children in with appropriate clothing and have some spares for the occasional forgotten item. I'm in Finland and when my children were in nursery they only kept them inside if it was colder than -15, and I thought that was a bit weak of them really, my children played outside in much colder weather than that (and napped outside in colder as babies