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Nursery Don’t Let Kids Outside Because it’s Cold

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FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 18:47

And I think it’s ridiculous.

its not a particularly spacious place as it is (inner city) but they have climbing equipment and bikes, a sandpit etc outside. ‘garden time’ is easily my son’s favourite part of the day. He’s 4 and just missed going to school this year so he’s feeling pretty frustrated as it is but he’s been livid this week that his outdoor fun has been curtailed.

Anyway, apparently it’s been ‘too cold’ this week to be outside even in a short burst. I pointed out that my son has mittens, a thick winter coat, woolly hat, boots and an extra jumper if needed, and one of the staff said that not all of the children do so it’s ’not very fair’ to have some out but not others. In fact they seemed a bit surprised that I wanted him to be outside in ‘these low temperatures’.

AIBU to think that a) it’s the staff not wanting to go out and be cold and b) they can’t be arsed to put hats/coats/gloves on the small children that can’t do it themselves.

Because I really can’t think of a valid reason not to let children outside, I know it’s been chilly and yeah I get staying in while it was raining for a bit yesterday but apart from that, we live in the south of England- and there’s no need to keep kids cooped up inside just because it happens to be winter.

Son only attends 3 days a week but they’re full days. When he’s with me we go out to the big parks, scoot everywhere, climb trees, out on waterproofs to be out in the puddles etc. I really notice a shift in his behaviour when he’s not had fresh air and active outdoor time. I don’t drive either so sometimes we just need to get from A to B whatever the weather.

Any other nurseries have this ridiculous policy? Would you agree with it if they did?

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FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 22:37

Sadly even though I’ve looked at moving him there really aren’t any better options nearby. The one that has a huge outdoor provision locally is a long waiting list job and would cost double what we pay now.

Have asked in email to manager if it’s to be expected going forwards that the children simply don’t go out if it’s deemed ‘too cold’ and at what specific temperature this is actioned at, since it’s only November and winter will last for months yet!

I’m definitely considering outside space and how much time they get to spend in it very carefully for reception year though.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/11/2025 22:21

That sounds really poor, OP.

My two would have hated that - garden time was both of their favourite part of nursery and I looked for nurseries based on their having plenty of it. I moved dc1 half way through her nursery years to somewhere with more garden time.

Yes, some parents might complain re them going out in the cold, but it’s the right thing for them to be out. Nursery should be sending reminders to bring the right kit, and if some parents don’t then, ratios permitting, maybe those kids do end up missing out. I’m sure nursery spares exist for a few who forget.

It does sound like the staff just don’t fancy it tbh but that is really poor of them.

Caterina99 · 20/11/2025 21:50

Another one with kids that were in nursery abroad - there were official temperatures for when they were allowed outside - something like above -15c (including windchill) and below 32c. Pretty low and high numbers anyway! The kids always seemed fine.

You did have to have proper winter gear for them though and they were always asking for donations of outgrown stuff

VikaOlson · 20/11/2025 21:50

Elizabethseymour · 20/11/2025 21:35

I would hate to be a nursery worker on minimum wage expected to be out in the snow. The paths around me have been deadly today.
It’s one of the reasons a family member left the profession. She had thermals and great coat. But struggled to stay warm.

Unfortunately it's just one of the basics in early years. No one enjoys changing nappies either.

Spiracles · 20/11/2025 21:40

I really couldn't get fussed about my precious little one not being outside every now and again.

FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 21:39

Elizabethseymour · 20/11/2025 21:35

I would hate to be a nursery worker on minimum wage expected to be out in the snow. The paths around me have been deadly today.
It’s one of the reasons a family member left the profession. She had thermals and great coat. But struggled to stay warm.

They aren’t on minimum wage because they’re a living wage company, although I fully agree their wages are low, I wish they were paid more.

There’s no snow. And I don’t think low pay entitles you to keep children cooped up when it’s in their best interest to be outside.

Anyway I have emailed the manager, I hope I get a response without chasing, we’ll see. They’re pretty rubbish with communication.

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Elizabethseymour · 20/11/2025 21:35

I would hate to be a nursery worker on minimum wage expected to be out in the snow. The paths around me have been deadly today.
It’s one of the reasons a family member left the profession. She had thermals and great coat. But struggled to stay warm.

VikaOlson · 20/11/2025 21:10

They're supposed to have outdoor play every day unless it's unsafe extreme weather.
I'd email the manager and just ask what their policy is as your DS would prefer to be out every day.

Notsurewhatisnormalanymore · 20/11/2025 21:06

Ridiculous.

Sartre · 20/11/2025 20:59

That’s quite odd tbh. My DC were always out at nursery in all weather. Even when it was pouring, they had a covered section with plenty of equipment and would let them out in that area. I’d query it personally.

Keepsmiling2948 · 20/11/2025 20:42

I wouldn’t be happy at all. My 2 year son is the equivalent of a human spaniel, needs outside exercise every day or starts climbing the walls.

Yes it’s a bit of a pain getting them all dressed but they should be 100% be outside. I’d understand if it was raining and cold as it’s much harder to keep warm but dry and cold there is absolutely no reason why then can’t be outside. If anything I think the fresh air is so beneficial in the season of coughs and colds.

FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 20:36

Sprogonthetyne · 20/11/2025 20:29

What's the weather like where you are? I'm in the NE, have had snow the last few days, which has melted to slush by lunchtime, then refrozen overnight. The kids have had mostly inside playtime at school and every time they've been out in the garden at home they've been cold wet and miserable within 10 minutes, then needed a complete change of cloths, which just wouldn't be practical with a class of 30 3yo's.

If you do have spare warm cloths, definitely offer them to the nursery. My kids schools have both been sending out emails asking for any outgrown wellies, coats or socks. It's the first year they've been actively asking, so I'm guessing more kids then usual are been sent without (COL?)

The coldest day was yesterday when it was -2 for a short while, and the wind was pretty biting. Short spell of sleet.

This morning has been cold but sunny, and there was a frost but no ice. In any case the play area they have is asphalt so I don’t think it would be slippery. Incidentally I looked around a primary school at lunchtime ahead of January applications and ALL the kids were out in the massive area they had, running round and having a grand old time. Annoyed me to think of my outdoor loving son not ten minutes down the road cooped up indoors yet again.

I wish the nursery would communicate if they needed wellies and other spares for the children that might not have, I’d donate in a heartbeat and I’m sure others would. Nothing we have is new anyway as we aren’t well off by any stretch but I always make sure I’ve done the Vinted and charity shop rounds to get everything he needs.

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rainbowunicorn · 20/11/2025 20:31

Thats awful. I would be looking at a different nursery. All the nurseries around here are free flow. We also have 2 outdoor nurseries in the forest where the children are outside all the time. There are a few wooden canopy, shelter things and a large hut that is used for drying off clothing but they are outside all day every day.

Ilovemychocolate · 20/11/2025 20:30

We stayed in this morning as it was Baltic, but went out this afternoon to a national trust park.
(I am a childminder)
Two children age 2, one child aged one.
Its DEFINITELY the staff being nesh!

Sprogonthetyne · 20/11/2025 20:29

What's the weather like where you are? I'm in the NE, have had snow the last few days, which has melted to slush by lunchtime, then refrozen overnight. The kids have had mostly inside playtime at school and every time they've been out in the garden at home they've been cold wet and miserable within 10 minutes, then needed a complete change of cloths, which just wouldn't be practical with a class of 30 3yo's.

If you do have spare warm cloths, definitely offer them to the nursery. My kids schools have both been sending out emails asking for any outgrown wellies, coats or socks. It's the first year they've been actively asking, so I'm guessing more kids then usual are been sent without (COL?)

LeBonBon · 20/11/2025 20:26

DD (2) is also in a nursery that is inside/outside and they have access all day if they wish. Got some lovely pictures of her in her padded full suit and hat in the snow today :)

Probably the staff just didn't want to go out which is not good enough really.

OldMaaa · 20/11/2025 20:25

Oof. That would annoy me Op. One of the reasons we chose our nursery (children in primary now so was a few years ago) was because it "free flow" so children could be outside as little or as much as they liked, whatever the weather. The adjoining preschool, that they moved up to at 3, was the same.

It's pretty poor IMO to keep kids indoors all day. Seems like laziness to me.

Bryonyberries · 20/11/2025 20:20

Ours have been out through free flow. Children whose parents haven’t provided decent clothing will have a brief run about and go back in once too cold but those with decent clothing have played out for pretty much as much as usual. Staff know to bring their own warm coats when it’s chilly.

Ahwig · 20/11/2025 20:18

My mum used to put me outside in my pram in the snow . Ok it was the 60’s but I was wrapped up very snuggly. I didn’t actually put my son in the snow in the pram but we definitely went out in it a lot.

MaggiesShadow · 20/11/2025 20:14

Do you think that there are a lot of children who don't have appropriate outdoor wear and maybe the parents can't afford to provide it? I'm just trying to think of any reasons they might be keeping them in!

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 20/11/2025 20:09

Kids here aren’t kept inside until it’s -25 or below.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 20:06

Nopenott0day · 20/11/2025 19:41

It's not even that cold! Kids in much colder places play outside.

Tbh I think it's the staff not being arsed

Exactly. The UK seems like a weird anomaly when it comes to the weather - it's like we get surprised when it gets cold in the winter.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:57

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:48

Thats my point. My kids couldn't always stay in when they wanted because of the prescription of outdoor play in all weathers coupled with ratio demands.

That's something you need to take up with OFSTED then as daily outdoor play is a legal requirement, and they have no choice but to stick with the legal ratios.

butterycroissants · 20/11/2025 19:56

Newmeagain · 20/11/2025 19:45

Yes, but people in the uk (children in particular) don’t generally have clothing appropriate for spending lots of time in the cold outdoors.

Well, that's a parenting issue, but it's not a reason for all children to be stuck inside.

OonaStubbs · 20/11/2025 19:52

Kids should be playing outside every day. It's not healthy to be inside all the time.