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Nursery Don’t Let Kids Outside Because it’s Cold

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FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 18:47

And I think it’s ridiculous.

its not a particularly spacious place as it is (inner city) but they have climbing equipment and bikes, a sandpit etc outside. ‘garden time’ is easily my son’s favourite part of the day. He’s 4 and just missed going to school this year so he’s feeling pretty frustrated as it is but he’s been livid this week that his outdoor fun has been curtailed.

Anyway, apparently it’s been ‘too cold’ this week to be outside even in a short burst. I pointed out that my son has mittens, a thick winter coat, woolly hat, boots and an extra jumper if needed, and one of the staff said that not all of the children do so it’s ’not very fair’ to have some out but not others. In fact they seemed a bit surprised that I wanted him to be outside in ‘these low temperatures’.

AIBU to think that a) it’s the staff not wanting to go out and be cold and b) they can’t be arsed to put hats/coats/gloves on the small children that can’t do it themselves.

Because I really can’t think of a valid reason not to let children outside, I know it’s been chilly and yeah I get staying in while it was raining for a bit yesterday but apart from that, we live in the south of England- and there’s no need to keep kids cooped up inside just because it happens to be winter.

Son only attends 3 days a week but they’re full days. When he’s with me we go out to the big parks, scoot everywhere, climb trees, out on waterproofs to be out in the puddles etc. I really notice a shift in his behaviour when he’s not had fresh air and active outdoor time. I don’t drive either so sometimes we just need to get from A to B whatever the weather.

Any other nurseries have this ridiculous policy? Would you agree with it if they did?

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RubySquid · 21/11/2025 09:03

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:21

No he's just autistic and hates being cold. Lots of people have varied sensory issues and they are often so severe, they classify as disabling them. Some of those people are entitled to PIP to overcome some of the barriers they have to things like work and socialising. Using his PIP to get an uber so he doesn't have to face the distress the cold causes him is sort of why he has it.

Or using the PIP to get clothing that's suitable is another option

FanofLeaves · 21/11/2025 08:57

Well the response was that it was deemed too cold all day yesterday to go out at all as the temperatures only climbed to 2 degrees (actually wrong as it hovered between 3-4 between 11am and 2pm) and the day before (Wednesday) it was ‘raining all day’ (again totally false as it did rain in the morning but was dry as a bone all afternoon)

‘the above temperatures make it too cold for some of the children to be outside comfortably’

I mean honestly 🤦🏻‍♀️ just change the word ‘children’ to ‘staff’ in the above sentence and I reckon that’s the long and short of it.

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YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:25

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/11/2025 08:23

If your son has a disability then adjustments would be made for him at nursery but that doesn't mean all the other children shouldn't be able to follow Early Years Guidelines and have free flow inside and out.

No it wasn't always the case due to ratio. I had to insist with him that he could stay inside when ratio allowed.

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/11/2025 08:23

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:21

No he's just autistic and hates being cold. Lots of people have varied sensory issues and they are often so severe, they classify as disabling them. Some of those people are entitled to PIP to overcome some of the barriers they have to things like work and socialising. Using his PIP to get an uber so he doesn't have to face the distress the cold causes him is sort of why he has it.

If your son has a disability then adjustments would be made for him at nursery but that doesn't mean all the other children shouldn't be able to follow Early Years Guidelines and have free flow inside and out.

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:21

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No he's just autistic and hates being cold. Lots of people have varied sensory issues and they are often so severe, they classify as disabling them. Some of those people are entitled to PIP to overcome some of the barriers they have to things like work and socialising. Using his PIP to get an uber so he doesn't have to face the distress the cold causes him is sort of why he has it.

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:19

RubySquid · 21/11/2025 08:18

Many work is outside. Even if he does get a " sit on arse in warm office" job then he's actually got to get there. It might be cold

Presume no outdoor sports would ever be played either. Including skiing ( has to be freezing for that)

You see very few people from my son's background skiing 🤣.

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YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:18

RubySquid · 21/11/2025 08:15

And when they are ay secondary school? Not going to need to be outside then. Even if mummy drops them off at the gate in the range Rover they will still be sent into the playground there

What when they are an adult? Surely they can't just sit indoors Heaven forbid they have a job that involves working outside, precious little lambs won't know what hit them. Even if he gets a cushty little desk job he'd have to get to work and back.

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Oh i see you edited. He can perhaps drive or get an uber (PIP).

Coffeeandbooks88 · 21/11/2025 08:18

My son was out yesterday in the snow at his school nursery. We are inner city too. They are meant to be outside for a bit of time each day.

RubySquid · 21/11/2025 08:18

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:16

Why would your job have to involve working outside?

Many work is outside. Even if he does get a " sit on arse in warm office" job then he's actually got to get there. It might be cold

Presume no outdoor sports would ever be played either. Including skiing ( has to be freezing for that)

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 08:16

RubySquid · 21/11/2025 08:15

And when they are ay secondary school? Not going to need to be outside then. Even if mummy drops them off at the gate in the range Rover they will still be sent into the playground there

What when they are an adult? Surely they can't just sit indoors Heaven forbid they have a job that involves working outside, precious little lambs won't know what hit them. Even if he gets a cushty little desk job he'd have to get to work and back.

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Why would your job have to involve working outside?

RubySquid · 21/11/2025 08:15

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 07:58

No my kids dont have to get used to being outside in freezing weather. Why would they? And no i wouldnt want to force my autistic child to wear clothes that make him feel sick just so I can get him accustomed to being outside in freezing cold weather. He has no plans to be a farmer or anything like that. He'd want a desk job in the warm.

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And when they are ay secondary school? Not going to need to be outside then. Even if mummy drops them off at the gate in the range Rover they will still be sent into the playground there

What when they are an adult? Surely they can't just sit indoors Heaven forbid they have a job that involves working outside, precious little lambs won't know what hit them. Even if he gets a cushty little desk job he'd have to get to work and back.

Allisgoodtoday · 21/11/2025 08:01

I agree with you OP, children should be outdoors - properly dressed for the weather of course - it's so much healthier.

When I lived in Scandinavia (well above the arctic circle) even kindergarten children (3 and 4 year olds included) were out and about. They had snow suits, boots, hats and mittens and were out in the snow....it wasn't considered a problem unless the temperature dropped below -25 degrees. Babies slept outside in prams too, very much wrapped up and warm but outside.

The whole population grew up to be very much more 'outdoorsy' and definitely healthier. There was no such thing as the "winter cold" and adults/children didn't have endless coughs and colds during the colder months. The idea of a 'rainy playtime' indoors didn't exist either - they'd have laughed at this.

So much better in my opinion!

ADHDHDHDHD · 21/11/2025 08:00

Surely it’s obvious? The staff can’t be arsed to put coats hats gloves on themselves! And then get the children kitted up. They don’t see the point and don’t actually care about outside time for the children.

a tricky conversation is needed with the nursery manager. The children need to be outside!

YourFirmLimeHam · 21/11/2025 07:58

Natsku · 21/11/2025 03:19

That's why its even more important to take children out in all weathers from a young age, so they get used to the cold and the wet and all sorts and toughen up a bit. In my country its unworkable for a child to not go outside because they don't like the cold so they all have to get used to it. And they all manage to keep gloves and hats on, even the ones with sensory issues, probably because its non-debatable - they have to have their hats and gloves on and would have got used to them since they were tiny babies.

No my kids dont have to get used to being outside in freezing weather. Why would they? And no i wouldnt want to force my autistic child to wear clothes that make him feel sick just so I can get him accustomed to being outside in freezing cold weather. He has no plans to be a farmer or anything like that. He'd want a desk job in the warm.

Simplelifeneeded · 21/11/2025 07:57

My sons nursery have been out playing all week. Ds won't wear a hat or gloves but that hasn't stopped them taking him outside to play.

FanofLeaves · 21/11/2025 07:51

Natsku · 21/11/2025 03:22

Maybe you could contact the nursery OP and ask if they would welcome donations of warm outside gear, so that those who aren't properly dressed by their parents can still go outside. See what they say then, might give an indication as to whether its really about the children or about the staff.

This is a good idea thank you. I’ll await a response from the first email and suggest this.

The staff are generally good but certainly have been making a drama about how COLD and FREEZING it is when I’ve dropped off or picked up this week. We have a 30 min scoot/walk to nursery (although we do hop on the bus occasionally if we see it coming and it’s not busy) and a lot of fuss was made over my son’s red cheeks and the fact that he’d been out in the cold to arrive at nursery 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

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CaptainMyCaptain · 21/11/2025 06:49

Ahwig · 20/11/2025 20:18

My mum used to put me outside in my pram in the snow . Ok it was the 60’s but I was wrapped up very snuggly. I didn’t actually put my son in the snow in the pram but we definitely went out in it a lot.

They still do that in Iceland and leave babies in prams outside cafes in the snow.

Natsku · 21/11/2025 03:22

Maybe you could contact the nursery OP and ask if they would welcome donations of warm outside gear, so that those who aren't properly dressed by their parents can still go outside. See what they say then, might give an indication as to whether its really about the children or about the staff.

Natsku · 21/11/2025 03:19

YourFirmLimeHam · 20/11/2025 19:23

Some of my kids always hated the cold and didn't want to go out but were made to quite often due to ratios etc. My youngest hates gloves (sensory issues), but also hates being cold. Others just hate being cold and don't feel comfortable running around wrapped up. Probably milder sensory issues.

That's why its even more important to take children out in all weathers from a young age, so they get used to the cold and the wet and all sorts and toughen up a bit. In my country its unworkable for a child to not go outside because they don't like the cold so they all have to get used to it. And they all manage to keep gloves and hats on, even the ones with sensory issues, probably because its non-debatable - they have to have their hats and gloves on and would have got used to them since they were tiny babies.

coxesorangepippin · 21/11/2025 02:06

Yanbu

We live in Canada and unless it's below minus 10, the kids are outdoors.

Eenameenadeeka · 21/11/2025 01:07

Yeah I'd really struggle with this as well my boys absolutely have to get outside every day. I agree it sounds like the teachers just don't want to. They need to have a supply of coats for those who didn't bring one, that's what ours has.

Mysterian · 20/11/2025 23:13

I'm a very outdoor person who works in a nursery. We took our babies out for a short while until they started getting red fingers. The slide was put out the way due to icy conditions at the top. We have a canopy we stay under in rain (unless very light), and only stay indoors if very windy due to the garden being next to a building with a slate roof.

It's warmer when it's colder. Why didn't we put gloves on? Because unless they're proper waterproof things they get wet and lose more heat than no gloves at all. When the temperature drops below freezing the water turns to ice and stops getting the children wet. Very cold snow will brush off you. It's the wet snow that really gets you cold.

Ilovemychocolate · 20/11/2025 23:00

FanofLeaves · 20/11/2025 22:37

Sadly even though I’ve looked at moving him there really aren’t any better options nearby. The one that has a huge outdoor provision locally is a long waiting list job and would cost double what we pay now.

Have asked in email to manager if it’s to be expected going forwards that the children simply don’t go out if it’s deemed ‘too cold’ and at what specific temperature this is actioned at, since it’s only November and winter will last for months yet!

I’m definitely considering outside space and how much time they get to spend in it very carefully for reception year though.

It’s absolutely an Ofsted requirement for outside play.
Challenge them on it!

Ilovemychocolate · 20/11/2025 22:59

Elizabethseymour · 20/11/2025 21:35

I would hate to be a nursery worker on minimum wage expected to be out in the snow. The paths around me have been deadly today.
It’s one of the reasons a family member left the profession. She had thermals and great coat. But struggled to stay warm.

Well she was right to leave .
Ofsted expect outdoor play unless dangerous.