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Daydreamnotbeliever · 15/11/2025 10:44

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

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Fatcatsinspats · 15/11/2025 10:50

I think it’s unlikely you will make much money. It’s a crowded market unless you have a niche. Some women spend quite a lot on costumes and sets so there may be an initial outlay. The company behind Only Fans also report the earnings to HMRC so you will have to pay tax.

Why aren’t your kids at uni working and contributing?

IAxolotlQuestions · 15/11/2025 10:50

If you are desperate - then yes, But OF has lost its shine really, and you’ll be unlikely to make any money unless you show your face and are pretty shameless. Unless you can tap into a particular kink that still lets you wear a mask.

And then someone you know will find out and you’ll be known as the local prostitute and your pics and recording will be passed round for gossip.

I’m sorry you’re struggling, but if there’s any way to avoid it at all, I would.

Frankly, I’d probably turn to physical sex work in preference (managed by a man I trusted implicitly who needs to look very scary), because video is forever these days and the internet never forgets.

MannersAreAll · 15/11/2025 10:50

You'll not make a lot of money from a faceless Only Fans. There are so many people with their faces out there you'd have to find an extreme niche to be able to make anything like the money you want from faceless work.

Also if your fuck buddy friend is doing all your editing then that means he'll have complete control of all your images and where they end up. That's a huge lot of trust to put in someone.

PInkyStarfish · 15/11/2025 10:49

Diddling yourself on camera for the titillation of strangers or even people you may know who come across your content (pun intended) is something that you can’t take back, once you’ve done it, it’s out there.

Do you really want to degrade yourself in this way?

Daydreamnotbeliever · 15/11/2025 10:49

MyAmusedOpalCrab · 15/11/2025 10:49

I think this is a bit of a cop out tbh. Get a higher paying job.

My wage is actually higher than average for my degree.

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MyAmusedOpalCrab · 15/11/2025 10:49

I think this is a bit of a cop out tbh. Get a higher paying job.

CraftyNavySeal · 15/11/2025 10:49

YABU. The average OF account makes something like £200 total.

If you already had a big social media following with people who want to see your content then maybe. What is probably going to happen is that your friends and neighbours will see you at it and you will only make a few quid.

ScarlettOYara · 15/11/2025 10:48

Why are you funding your uni aged kids? They've surely got student loans and part time jobs?

therole · 15/11/2025 10:47

what comes to mind first is I defo wouldn’t tell the kids OP