To consider Only Fans

I’m a content creator. Making money on content is brutal and it takes years to get there. So many work without getting there.

But by all means do not, do not, let a man run your project for you. Either you do it and it’s totally your project or don’t do it. The fact that you’re not willing to run the project and are ready to offload it to this pump (forgive me) tells me you’re not really ready to do content. This is before the sexual bit, on which I have no experience.

What about enabling work at the weekends you can work? Often disabled adults need someone to facilitate their day care needs and it could be 2 out of 4 weekends. The money can be good especially if you could do one overnight in that weekend? Local agencies or individuals often advertise on Facebook groups. Just enough to get through over next year? Or a rugby club that needs bar staff or grounds for matches or event work? Medical staff for events if you can get first aid training all flexi pick up shifts stuff.

Think about it op. There may not be anything coming up in your field of work now. But there might be in the future. So when you’re too old for only fans and you find another job, which could even be completely unrelated to what your current line of work is and what your qualified for, if a company finds out you do or have been doing only fans in the past, then the company is likely to not employ you. I’ve also seen people lose their jobs doing something similar to only fans because it was decided they were bringing the company into disrepute. Something that is so short term as only fans can ruin your future prospects- because with advanced technology and AI, it’s extremely easy to find someone on the internet now, even if they go by another alias.
I have heard of so many cases of people losing their jobs for similar reasons.

When your face and your fanny are out on the Internet they're there for life......which is fine if things work out and you make millions. But most don't.

And all they're left with is a few quid and their fanny online which can be unearthed any day. It isn't worth it.

Also make sure your eldest is getting g everything he's entitled to.....he can contribute too.

Is there a supermarket within reach? Can you cycle? I'd target a couple of hours of evening picking packing or replenishment work at a supermarket. It'll get you the staff discount which will help you bring down your food bills alongside earning a bit extra. supermarkets are very flexible on when you work and what you do and there's more jobs this time of year as they ramp up for Christmas.
You should also look into food banks in your area. And I assume you've got the too good to go and olio apps?

Are you in a union? You could see if your Union has any financial support schemes (they often do). Or the particular sector you work in might have a 'benevolence fund' which you can apply to. Might not be a long term solution but could still be useful

I’ve absolutely barred OF for OP in my mind, but her food bills definitely jump out as one thing that’s susceptible to economic tweaking.
If there really is nothing else she can claim in terms of financial support for the household (and that must be thoroughly checked out of course, especially re the eldest) then there needs to be some dramatic changes in grocery shopping.

Community pantries and food banks might be available near her.
Though I became disenchanted with her career, originally Jack Monroe published umpteen terrific articles in The Guardian about family meals on a tight budget.
As OP works full time, perhaps her eldest could be in charge of attending at this or that supermarket for their daily price slashing, and there’s also that app offering brilliant discounts on perishable goods (cant recall its name, but someone here is bound to know)

A family meeting about this should take place, and the position made very clear. As things stand, OP cannot afford to support four adults in this house on her salary.
Groceries constitute the only expense can be reduced, and there shall be very marked changes to meals now. All three offspring must have a responsibility for some part of the economy drive.
Groceries might include essential personal care items, but anything much beyond soap, shampoo, and toothpaste can be struck off the communal budget.
(It goes without saying that any extras she funds such as Netflix, WiFi + phone/data plans, gym membership, and whatnot are transferred over to whomever requires them.)

What’s the expression, you must cut your clothes according to your cloth? Something like that.

(I’m very sorry she was left in the lurch by her divorce, and don’t understand why her ex husband has had no financial responsibility for his children all this time, but no doubt if there were any way that could happen, it’s been looked into.
Fair play to her for carrying this family on her own.
It must be so disheartening to see that your extreme efforts haven't been enough to lift her household higher than where she’s at right now, and I hope things can work out without the OF nuclear option)

@Daydreamnotbeliever Did they give you feedback as to why you didn’t progress? Was it lack of certification or experience?

If you have any medical experience the NHS (used to at least) take typists on bank.

My gut feeling is that you made it this far without doing this, and well done for that.

They are adults now and you should not be having to support them still, how would you feel if one of your children suggested starting an only fans account? You are someone’s child too and you have done amazingly well to get them to this stage but they need to be earning money now. They at least need to be saving you money, ask them to help you make your bills cheaper. Let them research and arrange that.

Good luck x

Yes it's so easy to just 'get a higher paying' job isnt it? People who work low paying jobs are just choosing to be poor 🙄

OP I won’t tell you to get a better paid job as I know it’s not that simple. But I really don’t think OF is the answer, for practical reasons as much as any. The outlay and time involved would probably negate any profit you’d make, and staying anonymous would make things even more difficult.
I’m afraid I don’t have any useful advice really but I wish you the best.

Just a word of warning. If your partner is doing all the videos and editing. He has the videos, how do you know you will remain “ faceless” throughout? Where will they stored. It’s a lot of trust to put in someone.

I feel for you OP but as others have said, no one is going to be interested in your OF account.

You can do a TEFL course pretty cheaply/quickly and teach English online. There’s still a decent market for that.

If I was one of your children and found out what you’re thinking, I would find a way to contribute more. They’re young and will manage trying to support.

Only Fans is cheap pornography making money for the people running the site, not so much for you. It is prostituting women and telling them it's empowering. It's not, it's degrading; it's prostitution. Do you really want pictures of parts of you used to titilate men who want to masturbate - because that's what they are doing? It's not much different to being physically prostituted - men are using your body to do what they like with no reference to your preferences or wishes. Look for a better job.

@Daydreamnotbeliever What is your typing speed OP?

Why won’t you ask your children to contribute more?

You don’t need masses to start with matched betting. Borrow £50 off your wannabe pimp partner. If the man doesn’t have a spare £50 don’t trust him with your pornographic content as he will likely be selling them for himself.

Your uni kids need to support themselves. It’s that simple really. I supported myself through uni. It was tough but it made me an incredibly hard and efficient worker.

I understand you not wanting your kids to struggle like you did but you can’t afford that.

I’m sure they’d rather work more than have their mum on the breadline or on Only Fans!

No I wouldn’t do OF even if anyone vaguely wanted to see a middle aged mum’s body w varicose veins!!

Your kids have jobs so they def need to fund themselves more. They live at home so no rent to pay, I know the loan is less but that’s because outgoings are less.

If you can’t earn more in your current job, can you move companies? Look for a higher paid position even if it takes a while. But more importantly your kids need to contribute to their own food/bills etc.

Your kids need to work more or get higher earning jobs. You can’t afford to support them to the extent you are, and you seem unwilling to explore any options which might actually better your situation. I guess it’s that or loans, work yourself into debt and hope your children will help you pay it off when they’ve graduated and are in full time employment.