To consider Only Fans

This is what I was going to suggest. (I have read all your posts @Daydreamnotbeliever , but not all replies).

Set up costs are minimal (I understand that that is a stretch atm though), and it could be a family business, run by all the adults in your home. It might also be a good way of improving your son's long term earning prospects if he's ok with animals and he's not able to work full time. If your son is ND and does not have any sensory issues which mean animals are a no-no, then time with pets (even other people's) could be really positive for him/his nervous system.

@Daydreamnotbeliever You have achieved too much under incredibly difficult conditions to think about risking it by turning your FWB into your pimp on OF. I don't know what line of work you are in, but consider whether or not the OF/pump route (which sounds more risk than reward tbf) would put you at risk of losing your job or being barred from your profession.

Like many other PPs, while I can understand and admire your desire to support your kids to have the 'ideal' (or idealised?), uni experience, but you simply cannot afford it. They already have it a million miles easier than you did/do, so they need to step up a bit before you drown under their weight. It would be a lot worse for them if you burnout totally and lose your job!

So, like many have suggested, go through your income/outgoings as a family - all your kids need to be involved - and see what can be cut or moved. Then work out how EACH of you is going to contribute. This excercise in itself will be far more useful longterm for your kids than realising that their mum felt she had to prostitute herself on OF to pay their way. Trust your young adults to help you make it work, they are not little children anymore (even though they will always be your 'babies').

There is a lot of good money saving and making advice on Martin Lewis' MSE website. There is also a forum on there where people will give constructive feedback on your budget etc.

Good luck! I'm sure you and your young adults can turn this around!

Yeah, please take note of what @taxguru says - this friend could well be planning to exploit you.

Since you're dismissing most of the suggestions, it sounds like you need to look at bank work for a second job. That would be more money and less time intensive than the sheer amount of content you'd need to create to make ANYTHING on only fans. Health and social care is probably your best bet for bank work.

Also your adult children need to do more. Whether that's work more themselves or support you in a second job. Do they get student loans? Or are you funding literally everything except what they make on a couple of evenings?

To be brutally honest, I think your "friend" is taking you for a mug. He'll be in control of the content and will be able to post things (maybe on other porn sites) that you don't know about and have no control over. He may also be doing it for his own "fun" rather than for your benefit. As many others have said, "simple" content without face and doing pretty "normal" basic things doesn't pay much money - people will only pay to see your face and to watch you doing more and more extreme things. I fear you're going to get suckered in, at the start your content will be faceless and anomymous and pretty vanilla but then when the money doesn't flow, your "friend" will suggest more and more outside your comfort zone. Please don't do it and find other ways to earn a bit of money. How about a few odd shelf stacking shifts at a supermarket, or bar work, etc?? I'd also suggest starting to withdraw from your relationship with this friend.

The time you spend making content could be spent cleaning, stacking shelves, tutoring, ironing etc.
why don’t you post a list of expenses and income and we can try and save you money if earning more isn’t possible?

i want them to enjoy uni and their free time, make friendships and mistakes, and get the best grades they can.

They can still enjoy uni, free time, make friendships, get good grades and also pull their weight. I was a poor student who worked long hours in a bar, and have also taught lots of students who need to juggle. Some worked substantial hours and still got a good 2.1, some even better.

What some did was cut their hours in the final two months, living off credit - because they were going to be able to pay it back soon.

Could they try part-time nannying - covering the school run? £10-£15 an hour and less tiring than bar work.

They have plenty of time, they just need to manage it more tightly. You can't carry them.

You can cut your food bills - move onto porridge, potatoes, lentils etc where the priority is nutrients not enjoyment. Aim to cut £100 a month. Yes, I know it's not fun, but it will make a difference.

Students can suspend for a year and work/save - think creatively.

They can also look at part-time status; or extensions (submitting a dissertation in August for example) on the basis of the stress caused by supporting an elder sibling/burned-out parent.

I'm suggesting this not for moral reasons but because your idea just won't work.

Try again with PIP. I know it's a tricky process but he should be getting it.

The younger ones won't be at college forever. Just hold on.

The pet hotel is a good idea.

Pet sitting is something you and your young adult kids could all do to bring in extra cash. They could take uni work with them to do.

This issue is, once your videos or pictures are on the internet, you cant take them back. They are there. Even if you close the account, your videos and pictures could be sitting anywhere, copied, downloaded and shared. This will hamg over for you for eternity.
The other issue is that most peeople make peanuts, research what it actually takes to have a successful account, how many hours and years to build up. Most people make hardly anything.
Professional content creators are making a lot, but its the same as youtube or instagram. A successful account can make a lot of money but most people are not making that. I woukd suggest somrthing like tiktok to start making non sexual content. See if you enjoy making content on a daily basis and like doing all the other stuff around growing an online account.
None of them are overnight unless you go viral, even than can be short lived.

I feel for you OP, I think when you are in your situation that seeing the woods for trees can be so difficult, PP have given some great advice about other options, I would look into all of those ideas before you basically prostitute yourself on the internet, which I do think will come back to bite you in the future

As to the unpleasant posters you seem to have attracted, ignore them!, nasty pieces of work.

Amazon customer services, fully remote. Although the first page suggests full time, if you click through there are part time, flexible hours including seasonal.

Could any of your DC’s do this too?

https://www.jobsatamazon.co.uk/customer-service/virtual

This can’t be real. Imagine the kids friends seeing this, your neighbours, people at work. Wow

Either the older kids work more to supporting your house, or they move out and support themselves. They aren't babies anymore OP.

As far as your arrangement goes - the guy sounds like a twat and definitely not someone you should feel safe with.

In terms of degree/sector, - there's some pretty smart people on here who can generally make suggestions of other relevant jobs that would work with your skillset - What's your degree and what sort of role are you in now?

You’re unlikely to make any money on OF, sorry to say but unless you’re inclined to do increasingly degrading things you just wont be able to compete with every other person on there…..
Dependinh on how many bedrooms you have and if you are a home owner I would get 2 of your children to share to free up a bedroom, not ideal as adults or if that’s not a possibility get rid of your lounge/sitting room, turn it into a bedroom and take in a lodger. You can rent a room and earn 7,500 tax free so I would be doing this route rather then relying on something as bizzare as only fans.
A family member rents a room in a family house Mon Eve to Fri Morning and then commutes back home for weekends so you’d have the house to yourselves over the weekend if you could find someone needing similar.

Exactly. So many people who need care.

O F won't make you money anyway, as well as everything else

I understand dad has no contact. But there are such things as court orders for him to pay out his share of contribution. If he bunked off 10 years ago and not paid a penny since, they’ll be a hell of a back payment for 3 kids.
youdo know you are letting men off the hook here.
the man who should be supporting your kids isnt
so you want to ask another man to take 50% cut of you humiliating yourself on line
so other grubby men can wank off to your images and videos at no risk to themselves

blimey, you can’t do much more to be a complete door mat on the alter of male entitlement

@Daydreamnotbeliever would you consider signing up with a care agency?

My parents have a couple of carers who are doing the evening shift on top of a job, they do 2 hours when they can, I was at school with one of them, she has teens and needs the exyra

The agencies really really need someone and with a lot of clients it helping them after an evening meal or prepare for bed.

I'm just wondering if you've considered tutoring? So many people out there are looking for people to tutor their children. Some people do this online via zoom either 1-1 or small groups which is a cheaper option to offer out to clients as well. If you have a degree then you will have a specialist subject to share, you could potentially tap into the home education market which is growing at the moment. I read on a local Facebook group the other day that someone was paying £44 an hour for their home ed child to have 1-1 tutoring, I'm sure this would be far more lucrative than only fans.

Flexible as in you pick up the work whenever you want to, there are no set hours and I've never run out of work to do.

As an aside, I was at a conference yesterday for small businesses, the majority single person like mine.

There was a social media session. They said you have to post on SM at least six times A DAY, to make any impact. But preferably more. Preferably more than ten times (I won't be!).

Also, the SM expert said she had "monetised" (I think that means allowed ads) her Facebook by going pro, and she gets about £80pm through that. And she has THOUSANDS of followers. (That's not her job, by the way, it was just an additional thing she was suggesting people do, for the reach rather than the money.)

I just thought it was a useful comparison to how much work you'd need to do to get OF income.

Op have you tried looking at AI data trainer jobs? They're totally flexible, home based and you can earn a really decent wage. I work for Data Annotation and earn about 30USD an hour. You need to do a pretty gruelling application process and it requires brainpower but it's been an absolute lifesaver for me and my family.

What a nasy comment!
She works 60 hrs per week, then shops, cooks and cleans.
Were you bullied as a child?

on Instagram Im seeing lots of content creators visiting car boot sales or charity shops , and then put up stuff on eBay , FB, Or they get offers through their page straight away, not talent there , no showing face or identity ,
just knowing what sells and tbh I’m shocked at what is considered collectibles nowadays , things like 80s and 90s fisher price toys.

You sound like a lovely parent OP!

But if things are this stretched then it is time to sit down as a family and see what your adult kids can contribute towards bills and groceries. You shouldn’t have to shoulder this all yourself x

OP, you are not doing your DC any favours by protecting them from the realities of life. Life is hard, but understanding that rent, utilities and food have to be paid for won't harm them in any way. It's a crucial life lesson. (My parents taught me and my siblings the value of money - and how to manage it - from a very young age and I couldn't be happier that they did.) Tell your DC that you are considering doing OF because you can't make ends meet and see how they react. My guess is, if they're the decent kids you say they are, they will want to work more to share the financial load. (Oh, and why can't they make friends and have fun at work, just as they do at uni'?)
OF is categorically not the answer to your financial problems OP - your adult children contributing more for the household expenses is.