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To think this is a shocking waste of taxpayer’s money??

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Ticklyoctopus · 14/11/2025 13:44

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c9v12dwddmwo.amp

Not the boy having some form of placement or help of course, but 300k for a little over 4 months! I’m sure this will be ‘controversial’ but I think we need to seriously rethink how much can be spent on just 1 person, unless (for example) they need round the clock nursing care to stay alive and specialist medical equipment of course.

A tall brown building with the lettering "Liverpool Civil & Family Court"

Council pays 'astronomical' £289k for teen's 17-week placement - BBC News

Liverpool Family Court heard local authorities are "at the mercy" of the private sector.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c9v12dwddmwo.amp

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Anyahyacinth · 06/07/2026 18:02

Jamesblonde2 · 06/07/2026 15:05

The day a money tree is invented, this can all be paid for, until then the money needs to go to the rest of the population and they need to face the music on moving to institutions.

That cost is completely disproportionate.

.and every time there is a scandal about someone being killed by poor care or discovered to be capable of living well with additional support you'll just think "oh well"
Then when that attitude moves to the elderly or premature babies you'll think "oh well"
Then when it touches you or your family you'll realise you were part of monstrous eugenics
Life extending drugs for any illness too costly "oh well"
It's a slippy slope of immorality

Pistachiocake · 06/07/2026 16:13

rasnnz · 14/11/2025 14:05

This is how taxpayers' money is going to get spent now. It is so far beyond unsustainable. Essentially private companies are going to charge ££££££ for such services and the council/govt are just going to cough up without much critical thought.

I've name changed to put this, but I know of a private school that has literally just closed due to VAT and subsequent pupil number decline. The people in charge have hatched a plan to get mega money instead of operating the private school. They are going to make it in to a sort of special school, which is private and they are going to be collecting between 50,000 to 100,000 per child per year from the council as the parents will not be charged.

This is just a new way for the government to hemorrhage money and for private individuals to benefit to the tune of millions. I absolutely don't deny that children with SEN are in dire need of help (my own ds has autism). But the help does not need to be into 6 figures for a few weeks for one child.

Not when the government has effectively wrecked/closed schools that helped SEND pupils!
And I have no skin in the game. No one in my family goes to private schools. But I was very against the government closing them for those who need them.

Kirbert2 · 06/07/2026 15:55

Jamesblonde2 · 06/07/2026 15:05

The day a money tree is invented, this can all be paid for, until then the money needs to go to the rest of the population and they need to face the music on moving to institutions.

That cost is completely disproportionate.

Institutions were expensive. It's a reason why care in the community was introduced.

Like it or not, people with high care needs are going to cost money. Be it with institutionalised care or care in the community style care.

plasticplate · 06/07/2026 15:10

Bobibbsleigh · 06/07/2026 14:31

Yes - my friend ( who is a senior commissioner for the ICB) says if we stopped paying out for those 0.2 % of the population with extreme needs we would have enough money to fund all the other health needs of the local population. I know it sounds awful to say, but up until very recent history- nature meant these people with very high challenging behaviours didn’t survive to adulthood (or were highly medicated / in institutions). I know institutions weren’t great but cheaper than these huge individual costs to people whom mostly are distressed a lot of the harm & mostly cause harm to others/self & property on a continual basis all their life. My commissioner friend said they were cutting back on other CAHMs/LD services for the majority to fund these few minority (15 million yearly cost for 12 ppl just in our local city - not even the whole of the ICB patch.

Institutions were more expensive than care in the community. I am surprised all these people who claim to work in this area don't know this.
My adult son lives in a supported living placement on his own with 24/7very high staffing. This is paid for by the NHS due to the complexity of his disability related behaviours. He doesn't smash the place up and his vehicle is a mobility vehicle which he also doesn't smash up. He is thriving in his placement.

The alternative would be a hospital placement which would be more expensive and would be incredibly distressing for him. Even school as an 'institution' was very distressing for him.

Jamesblonde2 · 06/07/2026 15:05

Bobibbsleigh · 06/07/2026 14:31

Yes - my friend ( who is a senior commissioner for the ICB) says if we stopped paying out for those 0.2 % of the population with extreme needs we would have enough money to fund all the other health needs of the local population. I know it sounds awful to say, but up until very recent history- nature meant these people with very high challenging behaviours didn’t survive to adulthood (or were highly medicated / in institutions). I know institutions weren’t great but cheaper than these huge individual costs to people whom mostly are distressed a lot of the harm & mostly cause harm to others/self & property on a continual basis all their life. My commissioner friend said they were cutting back on other CAHMs/LD services for the majority to fund these few minority (15 million yearly cost for 12 ppl just in our local city - not even the whole of the ICB patch.

The day a money tree is invented, this can all be paid for, until then the money needs to go to the rest of the population and they need to face the music on moving to institutions.

That cost is completely disproportionate.

Allisnotlost1 · 06/07/2026 14:33

Bobibbsleigh · 06/07/2026 14:31

Yes - my friend ( who is a senior commissioner for the ICB) says if we stopped paying out for those 0.2 % of the population with extreme needs we would have enough money to fund all the other health needs of the local population. I know it sounds awful to say, but up until very recent history- nature meant these people with very high challenging behaviours didn’t survive to adulthood (or were highly medicated / in institutions). I know institutions weren’t great but cheaper than these huge individual costs to people whom mostly are distressed a lot of the harm & mostly cause harm to others/self & property on a continual basis all their life. My commissioner friend said they were cutting back on other CAHMs/LD services for the majority to fund these few minority (15 million yearly cost for 12 ppl just in our local city - not even the whole of the ICB patch.

JFC, you work in this sector and you’re advocating the chemical cosh and institutionalising people we haven’t figured out how to care for? They need to improve the vetting.

Bobibbsleigh · 06/07/2026 14:31

Jamesblonde2 · 06/07/2026 12:46

That’s ridiculous. What a complete waste of money for someone who will never contribute anything tangible to society.

Yes - my friend ( who is a senior commissioner for the ICB) says if we stopped paying out for those 0.2 % of the population with extreme needs we would have enough money to fund all the other health needs of the local population. I know it sounds awful to say, but up until very recent history- nature meant these people with very high challenging behaviours didn’t survive to adulthood (or were highly medicated / in institutions). I know institutions weren’t great but cheaper than these huge individual costs to people whom mostly are distressed a lot of the harm & mostly cause harm to others/self & property on a continual basis all their life. My commissioner friend said they were cutting back on other CAHMs/LD services for the majority to fund these few minority (15 million yearly cost for 12 ppl just in our local city - not even the whole of the ICB patch.

Jamesblonde2 · 06/07/2026 12:46

Bobibbsleigh · 05/07/2026 16:34

Yes I’m similar re Adults with profound Autism & LD with complex (highly challenging & aggressive) Needs. I know of a number on 1million + packages of care a year to care for them in their ‘own’ house (a house paid for by the council with a yearly 250k budget to constantly repair it and their own mini vans (they continually tear/smash apart both weekly) . I know also of 1x 17 year old Autistic girl with ED & extreme self harm whom was sent to a private MH Hospital placement on her 18th birthday costing the NHS ICB 3 million a year.

That’s ridiculous. What a complete waste of money for someone who will never contribute anything tangible to society.

Bobibbsleigh · 05/07/2026 16:39

YetiRosetti · 16/11/2025 21:25

I would feel differently about this package if it were due to disability rather than shit behaviour occasioned by a terrible upbringing

We used to be able to heavily medicate. Now we can’t. Therefore we see the extreme risky & very harmful behaviour causing harm to others.

Bobibbsleigh · 05/07/2026 16:34

NerrSnerr · 14/11/2025 14:21

That’s not unusual. I work in health that funds complex care packages. I know of young people and adults who are in long term placements or have care packages that cost £10k+ a week. I can think of 5 or 6 off the top of my head in our county alone. Still cheaper than the children who are stuck in critical care beds in children’s hospitals because they can’t find specialist placements.

Yes I’m similar re Adults with profound Autism & LD with complex (highly challenging & aggressive) Needs. I know of a number on 1million + packages of care a year to care for them in their ‘own’ house (a house paid for by the council with a yearly 250k budget to constantly repair it and their own mini vans (they continually tear/smash apart both weekly) . I know also of 1x 17 year old Autistic girl with ED & extreme self harm whom was sent to a private MH Hospital placement on her 18th birthday costing the NHS ICB 3 million a year.

NearlyDec · 18/11/2025 11:27

Ticklyoctopus · 16/11/2025 10:01

I read time and time again on mumsnet about these children who are unwell to staggering amounts. Unable to speak or ever look after themselves, getting sent in taxis to special placements that cost hundreds of thousands of pounds. Violent, smearing shit everywhere and all kinds of stuff. Attacking their siblings, mum having nervous breakdown and no life of her own.

Thats another thing where has this even come from?! I hate sounding like some kind of pearl clutching Karen, but I don’t remember a single case of this nonverbal autism when I was a kid. Now I know 3 or 4 in real life, loads more on here. Of course we had Down syndrome and things like that but this seems rampant all of a sudden. Is it just me?!

How old are you? From the 70s onwards they went to special schools and their parents were too embrasses to take them out of the house. Before that they were in insitutions.

Ticklyoctopus · 17/11/2025 12:07

YetiRosetti · 17/11/2025 11:45

Sure, but in this case it is clearly been exacerbated by the shit parenting. These children would have a better outcome if brought up in an adequate home. They have been failed. The cycle should have been broken.

How though? People on here scream blue murder about human rights abuses if we try to do anything.

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YetiRosetti · 17/11/2025 11:45

Wishiwasatailor · 16/11/2025 21:54

Tend to find that the majority of kids in SCH have a degree of LD or undiagnosed mental health disorders along with challenging home lives

Sure, but in this case it is clearly been exacerbated by the shit parenting. These children would have a better outcome if brought up in an adequate home. They have been failed. The cycle should have been broken.

YetiRosetti · 17/11/2025 11:44

pointythings · 16/11/2025 21:37

Well, this post isn't a show of complete ignorance at all...

Thank you, I’ll assume you aren’t being sarcastic because that in turn would demonstrate very significant ignorance, and indifference toward child suffering, on your part. Because some children have very significant need and there is nothing anyone can do or could have done about it. This child has been failed, and we could have done something about it. This could have been prevented. And if you don’t care about that, about stopping these situations arising in the first place, then shame on you.

Wishiwasatailor · 16/11/2025 21:54

YetiRosetti · 16/11/2025 21:25

I would feel differently about this package if it were due to disability rather than shit behaviour occasioned by a terrible upbringing

Tend to find that the majority of kids in SCH have a degree of LD or undiagnosed mental health disorders along with challenging home lives

pointythings · 16/11/2025 21:37

YetiRosetti · 16/11/2025 21:25

I would feel differently about this package if it were due to disability rather than shit behaviour occasioned by a terrible upbringing

Well, this post isn't a show of complete ignorance at all...

YetiRosetti · 16/11/2025 21:25

helpfulperson · 16/11/2025 21:00

Many of the young people with these types of packages are there because of profund autism, severe LD's etc. No amount of early intervention, supporting the family etc will solve the issues. What do we do for them?

I would feel differently about this package if it were due to disability rather than shit behaviour occasioned by a terrible upbringing

helpfulperson · 16/11/2025 21:00

attichoarder · 16/11/2025 18:20

Yes support for the families I agree, the cycle needs to be broken . There are cheaper ways of managing this and in my view we need to prevent the situation getting to this point, I know easier said than done, more intervention and more social worker involvement.

Many of the young people with these types of packages are there because of profund autism, severe LD's etc. No amount of early intervention, supporting the family etc will solve the issues. What do we do for them?

IBorAlevels · 16/11/2025 20:13

attichoarder · 16/11/2025 18:20

Yes support for the families I agree, the cycle needs to be broken . There are cheaper ways of managing this and in my view we need to prevent the situation getting to this point, I know easier said than done, more intervention and more social worker involvement.

We are struggling to recruit and retain social workers though. They frankly don't get paid enough to attract the best and brightest and suffer seeing the scenes they do on a daily basis. No one wants to go to work to be verbally abused and treated as though they want to steal someone's kids away for work as well as be the first people the press blame when they have been involved in a child protection case. I have a friend who was one for a few years and she nearly had a nervous breakdown. It's a thankless job, full of red tape and high turnover.

attichoarder · 16/11/2025 18:20

TheFallenMadonna · 16/11/2025 18:07

So for this child, criminally exploited, previously hospitalised with knife wounds, what would you do? What cheaper rehabilitation would you choose?

And why is the school the focus for early intervention? Why not the chaotic, alcoholic family?

Yes support for the families I agree, the cycle needs to be broken . There are cheaper ways of managing this and in my view we need to prevent the situation getting to this point, I know easier said than done, more intervention and more social worker involvement.

AlertCat · 16/11/2025 18:09

Ticklyoctopus · 16/11/2025 14:25

No, I don’t mean the kind of autism that flies under the radar.

I’m only reporting what I heard, but she was pretty clear that profound autism was stable and that was the measure they were using to say rates of autism generally aren’t rising. When she was asked, from her tone it was obvious that she’d been asked the question a lot and was expecting it, and she sounded tired of giving the answer. I haven’t looked into it more deeply than that.

TheFallenMadonna · 16/11/2025 18:07

attichoarder · 16/11/2025 16:35

Spending huge amounts of money for what seems to be a short-term solution is in my view a huge waste of money. Agreed there needs to be some form of rehabilitation. The problem is that earlier intervention should have happened. Schools have been unable to uphold societal norms and have been stranglehold by the agenda that’s not allowed students from an early age to set the agenda, we all live in a society and that means we have rights but also responsibilities and schools can’t enforce this due to constant requirement to accommodate the different and varied demands which is simply impossible. At the end of the day the average, quiet, well behaved children are looked over - their potential is ignored . More support in schools but also clearer expectations.

So for this child, criminally exploited, previously hospitalised with knife wounds, what would you do? What cheaper rehabilitation would you choose?

And why is the school the focus for early intervention? Why not the chaotic, alcoholic family?

attichoarder · 16/11/2025 16:35

helpfulperson · 16/11/2025 14:42

So what do you think should happen with them. Be left at home with minimal care until they kill someone? Because that is the reality of the level of violence some of these young people are capable of through no fault of their own. Often funding decisions are not lead by quality of life, or providing an education but by keeping the young person and the people around them safe from harm.

Spending huge amounts of money for what seems to be a short-term solution is in my view a huge waste of money. Agreed there needs to be some form of rehabilitation. The problem is that earlier intervention should have happened. Schools have been unable to uphold societal norms and have been stranglehold by the agenda that’s not allowed students from an early age to set the agenda, we all live in a society and that means we have rights but also responsibilities and schools can’t enforce this due to constant requirement to accommodate the different and varied demands which is simply impossible. At the end of the day the average, quiet, well behaved children are looked over - their potential is ignored . More support in schools but also clearer expectations.

SunnySideDeepDown · 16/11/2025 16:15

myglowupera · 16/11/2025 10:18

Part of prevention is financial in the home too. Which is why when I see benefit bashers I just think STFU. If there is less pressure financially in the household, then there is less risk of dysfunction and bad outcomes.

I agree, as long as the parents allow the benefits of the funds to flow through to the children.

DontDieInTheFrostPlease · 16/11/2025 15:56

Sowhat12345 · 16/11/2025 15:20

Disgraceful to spend that amount on 1 person, as it will be at the expense of others.

That seems to be a point lost on lots of people.

I mean what could the goverment do with £300,000 rather than this very short term benefit.

Build 5 council houses to house 5 families in basic 2-3 bed terraces saving the goverment probably lots of housing benefit which goes into a landlord pocket and vanishes. Real bricks and mortar would give a permanent or at least long term solution.

Get 300 people surgeries they are on a waiting list for so they can go back to paid employment and start paying tax again.

Build a care home or childrens home and start saving a ton of money on private carers at home

Get 300 people therapy for mental health so they can go back to working and contributing.

Okay I know it's not as straightforward as that but you all get what I am meaning.

This is just good business and a sensible way to run a country at any time.

When resources are limited and falling, then this thinking is utterly crucial ( I would say life and death really.....)