AIBU to be considering moving home from the USA to the UK

Absolutely! Wylfa Nuclear Power Station is currently being decommisioned but is expecting the new mini nuclear reactors. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c051y3d7myzo Lovely round there.

And Dounreay in NE Scotland is still being decommissioned (a cousin used to work there) Also beautiful. Bit far from Surrey, mind you.

But as Maine currently has no operational nuclear reactors and neither does Surrey, possibly your husband's skills will be more locally transferrable anyway if you move back, assuming he isn't currently decommissioning this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maine_Yankee_Nuclear_Power_Plant?

God I would hate it if a whole family moved continents just to appease me. Your mum sounds awful. What if you move for her and all 4 of you are unhappy / poorer then it’s her fault.

I love living in the UK and I don’t want to go to the US at the moment, but I would 100% stay where you are. You have committed to the US and built a good life there, it would be very different over here. I do feel for your Mum, it is hard I think if your children move abroad but I hope she is proud of you and is just having a bad patch.

I think the assumption is that when OP says the fam likes to shoot, they're not aiming at tin cans.

She didn't say that though.

Isn't nuclear power also on the decline?

Personally I think you should stay in the USA. You could have a similar lifestyle living in the south west. Hinckley point in Somerset is a huge nuclear power.plant so your husband would easily get a job there is imagine. Lovely Houses in that area are within your budget too, and you can get to Surrey via motorway links quite easily. Bristol airport isn't too far away

But..

Given the state of the UK right now, I would stay where you are. You are in a nice part of the USA.

Personally I think you should stay in the USA. You could have a similar lifestyle living in the south west. Hinckley point in Somerset is a huge nuclear power.plant so your husband would easily get a job there is imagine. Lovely Houses in that area are within your budget too, and you can get to Surrey via motorway links quite easily. Bristol airport isn't too far away

But..

Given the state of the UK right now, I would stay where you are. You are in a nice part of the USA.

I did the opposite - my husband and I immigrated from the states to the uk about 20 years ago and our children were born here. We have the only grandchildren for all 4 grandparents so had some pressure - particularly from my in-laws - to move back when we had our 2 kids. We ignored them as we have the life we want here. You sound totally settled there so would say you should stay. You won’t replicate that lifestyle anywhere here and you’ll just be resentful.

I really don’t think it’s reasonable uprooting a stable family of 4 from anywhere to anywhere because of one person missing them. Especially not when that one person “won’t” do true same herself.

You haven’t once used the word “home” in relation to the UK.

I wouldn’t consider sending a child of mine to school in the US- terrifies me

Can your Mum visit you? My sister lived in California for 10+ years and my parents visited for 3 weeks a year. She moved back to the UK partly to be closer to her and her husband's families but that's not the only reason. How old is your Mum?

In your case I would stay in the US but try and visit the UK more often. If you are not working them hopefully that is easier than if you were restricted to annual holidays.

My parents are in Australia and although we are looking to move in the next few years, there are many reasons we might not be able to. So i am planning to spend approx 3 months a year (scattered over 2 -3 visits) in Australia. My Dcs are older though.

You'd be absolutely mad to even consider moving back to the UK with the government we have here at the moment and what they're doing to the economy.

Enjoy the USA (where women actually have far more rights than in the UK - where transvestites are still found in many public women's toilets)

Personally, I would not want to live in the US right now. But it seems like there isn’t any reason for you to move to the UK because you don’t sound like you want to at all.

So don’t!

Stay where you are. You won’t get the type of lifestyle you currently have in the U.K.

Will you possibly have US tax liability problems if you move here, given that you’re US citizens?

You're in a beautiful part of the US. I think moving back would be a huge mistake, as it would uproot your children.

Stay where you are. We have enough people over here killing the wildlife.

Why would wild animals be affected if OP moves to Anglesey?

The uk has changed a lot in 12 years.
Open borders, legal migration as well as illegal is destroying the country
The government is being very clever though in getting people to focus on "the boats" whilst flooding the country with cheap labour and the families attached to them.
Youngsters have little opportunities. Even the ones with degrees, as the government wants the cheap labour from countries like India.
Nothing will change in the uk until someone organises a whole uk national strike where all workers walk out until the government listens and it's pays to work.
The majority of workers would be better off and happier joining the 9 million others out of work and on benefits.

No way would I move from USA to this shit show in uk now.

I’ll swap with you ?

Why do you feel like safety is an issue in the UK?

On behalf of the wild animals on Anglesey, please don’t.

You have a good life in the US. It sounds idyllic. Many would give their eye teeth for that quality of life. A lot of Surrey is expensive for housing - a house and garden sufficient for a family of four. But it's a variable county, depending on specific location and other factors. It's not impossible with your 500k plus a mortgage: loan rates are at historically fairly low level, mortgages are more flexible now, with longer terms and higher upper age limits for paying off a loan, and a deposit of 40% of purchase price usually enables a borrower to get a more favourable loan rate; you could also work so that would increase how much you could borrow (or how quickly you could pay off the mortgage) and your choice of location and size and quality of house.

Alternatively, keep your good life and your mother - and father? - visit you regularly (at least once a year) in the US to get to know your children. And you visit her / them in the UK once a year. And keep in touch online in between. I know a family who do this and are willing to travel both ways. The mother is family oriented and knows the children well and the children know and love her. As the children get older, they will be able to visit the UK and have longer stays with the grandparents on their own.