Does your partner attend medical appointments with you?

Usually not. I had to attend all my cancer appointments in covid by myself. I'm about to be probably diagnosed with it again next week so he is coming with me. The last time I had so many questions after I'd left the room and was totally confused. I want him there to hear it himself rather than me have to recall it later.

Well as a retired dental nurse it was more uncommon a single person coming in, most will sit and chat together etc

Yes my husband and I accompany each other to all appointments. I thought that was normal? I see lots of couples in waiting rooms.

Standard appointments, no. Antenatal appointments, yes. Anything either of us were particularly worried about or was serious, yes.

Dentist usually yes because we book for the same time - we managed to get an NHS dentist but it’s an hour from us so we save on the journey costs.

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No, unless we won't be allowed to drive home afterwards for whatever reason.

Aside from expecting bad news or some sort of disability, I do think it's odd and some sort of co-dependant issues. Years ago I had to do DV training and an abuser often insists on attending medical appointments with his partner.
It causes unnecessary overcrowding in hospitals, last time I was in A&E with ds there were so many extended families in with adult patients who had minor injuries. It's like a free day out for them.

If it was serious (results of a diagnosis etc,c) then yes .I am single so this would be an ideal !
Anything else , no - controlling IMO
When pregnant , ex. Couldn’t even get time off for scans . A friend came with me
Dentist , I couldn’t afford so irrelevant

No, the majority I’ll go to myself. Dh will come if it’s I need treatment which means I’ll be unable to drive (eg drops in eyes at opticians), but not for routine appointments.

I’ve worked in receptions before, and have definantly seen some controlling partners. I’d hate going to my dh’s dental appointments, going to my own is bad enough!

In our 20 years together, he's only attended with me once, which was for something mental health related and I wanted him there for support. I've fortunately not had anything else bad enough to warrant him coming with me.
I've accompanied him twice - one of which was an MRI that he was very nervous about, and one to be his ears so he didnt miss some important information (he's partially deaf).

dh likes me to go to all his doctor appointments - basically anything where there is discussion of symptoms or treatment. He has a tendency to ramble on so I can keep him focused & make sure he does not forget stuff. Plus I think 2 heads is always better than one for absorbing and interpreting what is said. Blood tests and the like he will go on his own or I might just drive him but not go into the appointment.

Only time dh come to appointments was maternity ones like the scans and fetal medicine ones.
For my colondoscopy he just collected me.
Gp I go on my own.

Not for minor appointments, but we have both been for situations where the other has wanted support.

Just our antenatal scans which I know not everyone does. But we had a stillbirth birth and NICU loss [twins] late third trimester, we lost both of our sons and I was alone when they called another doctor in when they realised my first twin had died. So I said never again.

Other appointments, just myself but I think anyone who needs support, theres nothing wrong with it

In the absence of any additional need, that is unusual.

My dh certainly doesn't, nor I with him, except the one time I was meeting the oncologist to tell me about my Cancer, when he came.

DP comes to the dentist with me, I developed a horrendous dental phobia in my mid-20s and absolutely fall to pieces as soon as they ask me to open my mouth I can get through a checkup if I’ve got his hand there to break squeeze!

The only other time I have had him at appointments is when I was on the 2WW pathway for suspected thyroid cancer and absolutely petrified as I was pregnant at the time.

Absolutely not, although he offered to come into one appt last year when I was very upset.

I've had 6 surgeries and all the associated follow up appointments and he drops me at the door and collects me when I've been discharged!

There's no value in him sitting in my hospital room or in an appt with thr consultant.

No. Partly because someone has to be around to take care of DS, partly because I enjoy the peace. When I was diagnosed with cancer the nurse apologised that she had to give me the news when I was alone. It hadn’t even occurred to me to take anyone with me to the clinic tbh. Even when other people drove me to appointments I still saw HCP alone.

I am with you there, I also go (but very first thing when the shop opens on a weekday if possible, it's slightly less hellish 😂)

My husband comes with me quite a bit but there are reasons. I had a really bad dentist as a child that traumatised me so badly that now I get sedated for appointments, so have to have someone with me. I'm also currently dealing with cancer and a very bad fall, so he wants to come to many appointments with me. He doesn't come if it's just down the road for a regular doctors appointment or vaccination or physio appointment though.

@thatkeenshakerI like Aldi, that's the only reason, they don't deliver. Otherwise I absolutely wouldn't be in a supermarket I promise.

Is it a controlling thing? Or dependency thing?

Not normal. Most adults can live independently. Do neither work?