Husband going through bin for cat food

I doubt the cat is starving seeing that it’s the OP who feeds the cat in the am and give it the whole packet.

Well the cat's life will be short if it's being denied the correct nutrition..
Personally I'd stash tins of dcat food and feed him proper meals..
I hope you don't feed dh. He can scrape food from the ndn's bins.

I would tell my dh the cat is healthy on what I am feeding it. It is not getting fatter, it is not lazy, it needs more food than you would give it. If I look at you and what I think is man who would slowly starve a cat, I feel repulsed by this. I would like you to feed the cat on Thursdays, the WHOLE sachet in the morning and then a WHOLE sachet in the evening, and look in the mirror and say I would never starve our cat. Consider it much much much cheaper than marriage counseling, which is the alternative.

because it is repulsive. I hope you have a job and your own money!

Exactly my thoughts.

Why don’t you act like a responsible adult and give it the correct amount of food instead of tiptoeing round your dick of a husband?
The poor cat is starving. It is cruel and you should be ashamed of yourself.

I suspect this is the tip of a very large iceberg. And the cat meowing is a constant reminder, which is why it is jarring.

I see women with OCD who can ruin their own lives. But I see men with OCD (a couple in real life) who ruin the lives of the people around them, primarily women.

As others have said, it should be easy to check how much food the cat needs by reading the packet. If he is underfeeding the cat then you absolutely must put your foot down and insist the cat is properly fed. Which means you are in charge of feeding the cat and he doesn’t get involved at all.

This whole thing is really very concerning though. It sounds very controlling. Are you trapped in an abusive relationship? We don’t have much to go on, but it sounds as if you could be.

It would make me miserable to be married to someone like that.

He sounds unhinged. Is he controlling in other ways?

Yes this. Poor thing hungrily meowing around the house asking for the rest of its food! As PP said, the pouches usually have the required portion size needed so why does he think he can do his own thing and make the cat miserable!

It shocks me how blasé you seem about him deliberately starving your cat. Half a sachet in the morning and half at night is not enough. Why don't you just feed the cat the correct amount it requires and ignore your husband? I couldn't live with a man like this. YABU to continue to put up with this loser of a man starving your poor cat.

What size is the cat and the sachets? Unless it’s a tiny cat it sounds like he’s being underfed.

This level of meanness would have me leaving him and that’s a fact. Do you not get the ick from that ? How is he in other parts of life ? Is he always this mean

I would find this absolutely intolerable - simply unbearable. It’s not just about the catfood, it’s SO disgustingly tight-fisted, is he selfish and
mean in other ways. And it’s also about undermining and insulting you about how you feed your cat. Honestly I could not cope with this. I’m getting furious on your behalf thinking of him bin diving for some car food juice residue. Vomit.

What a prince he is! Men this type give me the monumental ick and make my fanny dry up

Don’t put the empty packets in the bin - leave them on the side for your DH to fully empty. I’m guessing that there is a significant amount left in the packet.

Your other option is to feed decent cat food, that doesn’t smell disgusting and is in fact better for the cat

When you've torn the top off squeeze the sides of the pouch in a bit and then tip straight into the bowl upside down- I do this rather than squeezing from the bottom and find it comes out much easier!

How can you not despise him OP ?,

Unhinged and cruel to tease the cat

It’s active outside because it’s hunting for full sachets of felix.

YANBU. You are right and your DH is severely underestimating how much food the cat needs.

Sorry but I don't think this particular DH will be happy unless he continues to control the poor cat's food intake to the Nth degree.

Jesus how tiny is your cat?

Most brands recommend 2 or 3 pouches per day for a 3kg cat (smallest they list), with one pouch being equivalent to around 16g of biscuits.

Doesn’t it say on the side of the box how much the cat should be having every day? Apologies if someone already said this!

I have the best tip EVER for this. . (Regarding the cat food, the husband I can’t help with ). Put the cat food sachets in the fridge. (Or freezer). Then squeeze into the plate or bowl. There’s no waste whatsoever it soon warms up and cat is happy. And husband will be happy too!!