Husband going through bin for cat food

I wouldn’t be able to live squeezing out the last dab toothpaste but I’m good at it but you’re being controlled by a miser. Scrooge is it. Ridiculous and don’t put up with it.

You’re getting a sachet eked out too, aren’t you?

The cat is your spirit animal in all this. Try to be more concerned about yourself because this is no way to live.

Fml that behaviour would give me the ick. I USED to be married to one like that. Use dry food ( my cat loves applaws) then there's no palaver and no stinky sachets. It's less packaging waste and I believe, better for their little teeth.

He is tightfisted and mean and cares more about the money in his own pocket than the health and happiness of your poor little cat.

I would find it difficult to like let alone live with somebody like this.

I'd get rid ! Of the husband but keep the cat - he is unbelievably tight and mean, to leave your cat to go hungry.

I’d put the sachet at the bottom of the outside bin and let him hunt for it every day. Would be rather enjoyable when it rained.

Yep

How long is the dry food being left uneaten for before it’s tossed?

im going to suggest that bastard is too damn tight so the same dry food is left day in day out. No wonder the cat doesn't eat it. It will have dust and fly eggs on it. You need to throw it out if uneaten.

You need to tell him that this tightness is ridiculous and youre done with it and start feeding the cat properly.

how can you let this continue? The cats crying FFS. You need to sort it. Now. Get him told. 12 sachets cost under a fiver here. Not dear. The cat should have at least two a day.

Id make him his dinner as usual and then split it between the two of you. Say a lasagne or something. So it’s obvious it’s a half portion.

When he says he’s still hungry offer him dry bread. If he says WTF just say now you know what the cat feels like, still hungry or eat bread (or cat biscuits for the cat), oh and btw it’s been lying out all day so the breads a bit crispy but I’m sure it’ll be fine….

See how he likes it. Ridiculous behaviour. I don’t know how you can put up with it tbh.

You should tell him in no uncertain terms that it is two sachets a day plus biscuits, and that if he continues to starve the cat you will report him to the RSPCA.

The cat gets dried food also and as I said above the question as to whether it is eating enough is answered by whether it is a healthy weight/losing/gaining. Not what someone else's cat eats or a packet says.

Definitely look for jelly food. Whiskers Poultry in Jelly slides out whole.

I am worried abour cat! My sachets say 3 or 4 a day. I feed 3 plus various improving snacks (dental, hairball) and cat still wails tragically for a fourth. If your sachets say similar then DH is starving the poor creature!

Tbf my cats gets one wet food sachet a day, split in half morn and evening, and dry food available at all times? I think that's pretty standard but if you feel your cat needs more then they need more!

Might be a rogue idea but could you order a bulk load of cat food (amazon maybe) and say you got a good deal on it, so kitty cat doesn't have rationed food?

Are you finances joined? Is there a chance you're in financial difficulty and unaware?

How cheap can he get, does he like the cat.

They can’t go in normal recycling - do you use terra cycle ?

Have you not tried meat in jelly? It come out in one lump - my cats eat the whole lot. so no waste

It is far less icky

If the cat is a healthy weight and remaining so it is being fed the right amount.

If the cat is overweight or gaining unhealthily it is being overfed.

If the cat is underweight or losing weight unhealthily it is being underfed.

Your husband is a cruel arsehole. I would give him the choice of a properly fed cat or divorce. This thread has made me so sad.

I agree your cat might be underfed. DCat has an annual checkup, which records her weight as well as other stuff. I use that to base her food on, as I'd probably overfeed otherwise. At 4kg (standard sized cat, and pure muscle) she gets 2 pouches per day, plus very occasional snacks of cheese (has to be quality cheddar or won't touch it) or cooked meat from our dinner (little bugger adores my spicy cooking, the more heat, the more she likes).

Her food is 100% meat though, which is filling. Our cat is practically voiceless, so if she cries it means she is very hungry (rare) or unhappy. We get the occasional happy 'eep' in greeting, but it's unusual for her. I know other people have quite 'talkative cats by comparison. I hate the idea your cat might be hungry.

There doesn't need to be a debate about how much the cat needs feeding, you can work that out, the information for the brand vs your cat's weight and age will be out there.

Work that out, then start to give your cat that amount of food, so if that's two pouches, then feed it two pouches, and let him scrat about in the bin as much as he likes. Not your problem. I really wouldn't join in by leaving the pouches to one side for his inspection and sign off, don't play the game.

Once that's sorted you should have some head space clear to work out if you want to spend the rest of this one short life with a man who underfeeds a cat and fishes used cat food packaging out of the bin so he can scrape them out with a spoon. You're a long time dead OP.

Oh love, no.

No “and so it goes.”

NO.

This life is so, so short. The days may seem long but then one day, you’re crossing the street and you’ll never even see the bus that hits you. And up until that moment, THIS will have been your life.

You are not required to put up with anything for any reason. If it’s diagnosed OCD, even that doesn’t make this acceptable - there is nothing that makes “rationing” a cat’s food throughout the day any better. And I suspect he probably does it to you too, in a way, when you mentioned no treats or “extravagances.”

Give yourself the very non-extravagant gift of a lifetime free of this shittery. Regardless of your age, it’s never too late for you and Dcat to start a new life together where you can both have as much of whatever you like to eat at any time.

Please. Think about it before dismissing it as impossible. Maybe you’d have to get your ducks in a row, but freedom is worth it.

Love yourself as much as you love your cat. You don’t want your cat to have to put up with your husband’s shite, and you shouldn’t have to either.