Husband going through bin for cat food

Those cat food sachets are quite small portions. Please tell me your poor cat doesn’t have to exist on one of those a day, as that is not enough. Get the vet to talk to your DH and tell him how much food a cat needs.

God mine are same weight and get 1.5 pouches twice a day each as well as free access to nuts vet says nothing about their weight they are in very good health
one supplements her food too with numerous rabbits and mice every week 🙈

Wow my small female cat eats a small tin morning and evening and a handful of kibble for lunch. My big male cat has a tin and a pouch morning and evening and sometimes eats a bit of kibble for lunch. At weekends I cook them a chicken breast between them.

Unlikely the cat will eat it

I would dump him on the grounds of underfeeding/neglecting the needs of the poor cat.

If I gave our cats that much, they'd be huge. They get half of 85g or 70g morning and evening and a bowl of Hills Science kibble between them - not a huge serving.

They are 4.2 and 4.8 kg and the vet lightly growls about their weight every time. They are naturally quote small cats.

An average sized cat would need 3 sachets a day of 85g cat food or 2 sachets of 100g and a bit of kibble

Use tins. So much easier, plus they are recyclable

Is he mentally unwell?

That's not an unreasonable attitude, if he's going to worry that much about each morsel then he can feed the cat himself. 😄

I'd really love to know how you're getting on OP and your lovely cat too 😊

It is not wasting cat food, it is ensuring the poor cat has had enough to eat

@mrsgumpy I don't know how you're dealing with this, I'd have lost my temper long ago - and I'm generally very placid & conflict-avoidant.

He's lucky you don't have my Dcat. If she's not fed at the right time snd in the correct quantity (not too little), she bolts her food and then vomits it all up somewhere inconvenient to clean.

We ended up switching to frozen deliveries of food. The pouch size is determined by her weight, so we know it's the right amount. She’d always had supermarket food, but kept being sick (no underlying health issues according to the vet). We eventually found a brand that mostly worked for her (puking reduced by about 40%), but all the local supermarkets had supply problems with it. The brand we are with now has proved reliable, and she doesn't throw up any more unless her devoted slaves cock up on the timing. If the kids delay her meal I always point out her stomach is way smaller than theirs, so she gets fed first. I don't expect it to be eaten immediately, she grazes, but it's all gone before her next meal.

I'd be so tempted to serve your husband half his meals and put the rest in the fridge quoting his own reasons back at him, but it would no doubt cause more problems for you.

If he isn't an absolute wonder in every other respect (actually even if he is) I'd be considering divorce in your situation.

Buy a fresh cat food subscription that costs a lot of money. I swear, I would be spiteful. Can you cook a whole chicken and break it up and give the cat that as well?

Why are you "asking" him anything? Just take the sachet out of his hands if necessary or open a fresh one and feed the cat what he needs. If DH kicks off just say I'm not arguing with you about this so you can kick off to the empty air for all I care.

Just adding to my prev post. He could be allowed to fill up on cheap cream crackers if he didn't want to beg. But no water!

For heavens sake Mrs G. Woman Up and feed that poor cat properly and whilst you are at it, kick that miserable, tight, controlling b hard up his backside. This is totally ridiculous and time to seriously consider if you can stand this sort of behaviour for life.

I can only imagine that if you gave him half a frozen ready meal ( which we all know wouldn't sate anybodies hunger) and told him not to be wasteful, the rest is for later and each spoonful must be begged for individually...we would be looking a very angry reaction from him?

It feels so ridiculous to write all this. I am a professional woman arguing repeatedly with her DH about a cat. I don't know why we cannot just give the cat a full sachet of food in the morning

Yes, @mrsgumpy , it IS ridiculous. So don't 'ask him if we can feed the cat more'. You tell him that starving your cat is animal cruelty and you WILL be feeding him/her properly.

Switch to Katkin or Untamed or Marro to really piss him off.

What a miserable cruel bastard he is. Poor cat.

He is abusive and controlling and I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg. The pieces of soap from his grannies house is absolutely disgusting but he thinks this is normal behaviour. He's never going to change.

Would you like to borrow my cat? He goes insane and attacks if he’s not fed the right food at the right time to his own schedule
A few beatings and your husband might learn his lesson…
(but in seriousness, what a nobhead, I’m sorry you and cat are dealing with this).