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To be upset that my partner 'almost pulled'

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FierceForester90 · 02/11/2025 12:27

I have been in a relationship wuth a guy for just over 2 years. Its not the easiest as we are long distance and we are both going through divorces while trying to sell our houses.
On Friday night he went out with friends, he messaged yesterday morning to say he had been out until 5am. I jokingly asked if he had pulled and his response was:
'No but I almost did, got dancing with a very attractive lady. I think she would have kissed me had I let her but I thought better of it as my mates were there. Didn't even get her number'
AIBU to feel upset by this? I asked if that was the only reason and he then said 'OK no it wasn't' but by that point I was quite angry. I said that had he kissed her and swapped numbers that would have showed the intention to form a connection and his only response was 'but I didn't do it did I'.
I don't understand if he just worded the message badly but he seems angry at me for being upset about it. Am I being unreasonable? Its made me feel quite hurt and disrespected.

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shhblackbag · 02/11/2025 12:36

If my 'partner' said that, I'd honestly assume the relationship was over, and I'd been friendzoned. I wouldn't consider myself in a relationship any longer.

themerchentofvenus · 02/11/2025 12:34

So stop messaging and wondering if you have misinterpreted what he has said and speak to him like a grown up?

Vaninees · 02/11/2025 12:34

He answered your question. Talk to him as if you have an open relationship…. See what he reveals!

Shininglightshiningbright · 02/11/2025 12:33

You have no idea what he actually did with this woman.
Generally cheats minimise their behaviour.
I would expect you are only getting a sanitised version of what happened .

MindyMcready · 02/11/2025 12:31

Tell him to fuck right off.

Brightbluesomething · 02/11/2025 12:31

He has no respect for you and is behaving like he’s single, because in his head he is. Leave and find yourself someone emotionally mature enough to know that none of this is ok.

PreMenstrualAwful · 02/11/2025 12:29

The intention was there despite not kissing her or getting her number.

Jellybunny56 · 02/11/2025 12:29

Are you actually in a relationship, or not?

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