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So annoyed with my neighbours what should I do when I see them?

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geekygardener · 27/10/2025 13:36

Every week I’m taking in parcels for a neighbour. I don’t mind the occasional one, but it can fluctuate between a couple a week to a few daily. They order a lot of stuff and are never in to receive it. I don’t know why they don’t order it to their family who live on the next street or to one of their work places. This has been going on for a number of years.
I wouldn’t mind if I’m in just pottering at home, but I often work from home and my office is next to my front door. This means delivery drivers can see I’m in sat at my desk. They will continue to knock and wait even if I don’t initially answer because I’m in a meeting or call. People on the other end of my calls can clearly hear the knocking and dog barking, so I have to cut off. It’s unprofessional, especially because I take calls from people in distress. It’s unfair to cut them off.

I have told multiple delivery drivers that I am working and can no longer take in parcels for neighbours but that seems to have made little difference.
I work nights too and I’m woken up at least three times a week by deliveries for the same neighbours and it really affects my mood.

Today I was resting after a night shift and knocking woke me. Teen dd opened the door but then came running up telling me it was a large delivery for the neighbours and the delivery driver said he needed an adult to take it. Plus it was too large and heavy for dd to take in alone. This is not the first time we have taken in packages that have been large and heavy. I had one neighbour’s wardrobe and bedside table blocking my hallway for over a week while they were on holiday.
I just lost my temper because of being woken and I gabbed the parcel said “fine” and slammed the door. The delivery driver looked shocked, I do feel guilty about that but I was just fed up. I then just sat back down and no more than 2 minutes later another delivery driver knocked with another parcel for neighbours. Dd answered again and shouted out to me that he required an adult again, I couldn’t believe it. It was a different delivery company and driver but I shouted back for her to tell them no. They handed it to her anyway and she brought it to the hallway.

I can honestly say if it was the odd occasion that’s fine and I’d be a good neighbour and take them in happily. But this is multiple times a week, often multiple times a day and is disturbing my work and rest,

I did mention it to neighbour, who is the main culprit, he just laughs and says he understands it’s annoying, but it keeps happening.

Im now left with a large heavy box in my tiny hallway. I also feel like I can’t relax because soon neighbour will come knocking on my door to collect it. So if I wanted to go back to sleep I would be woken again. I looked across and the neighbour is actually in ! Both cars are there and I can see the son playing outside. They just couldn’t be bothered to answer the door.

I have told dd not to answer the door again because she can’t deal with deliveries, which upset her a bit.

Anyway, I hate confrontation but I feel like this is taking the mick.

OP posts:
GardenGaff · 27/10/2025 13:41

Amazon sell door stickers that say “we do not accept parcels for the neighbours”.

As for the parcels you’ve currently got in your house, leave them outside your door. Raining? Aww too bad, they’ll just have to get wet.

Wishiwasatailor · 27/10/2025 13:41

52isjustanumber · 27/10/2025 13:39

I'd put the parcels on their doorstep and when they ask why tell them that you will not be taking in any parcels ever again. It's their problem not yours.

Or tell the delivery drivers to leave it on the doorstep

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 27/10/2025 13:41

It’s that simple. Then ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 27/10/2025 13:41

Hello,

Due to remote working demands I am no longer able to take in any parcels that are not for this address.

Thanks.

Geeky Gardener.

FuzzyWolf · 27/10/2025 13:41

Agree about the sign. Just say “please do not disturb as I work from home and am unable to take in any parcels for my neighbours”.

52isjustanumber · 27/10/2025 13:39

I'd put the parcels on their doorstep and when they ask why tell them that you will not be taking in any parcels ever again. It's their problem not yours.

MidnightPatrol · 27/10/2025 13:37

I’d put up a sign on your door saying you will not take parcels for other houses.

Then I would knock and say what you’ve said here - it’s too much, you work nights and it’s distributing your sleep
etc.