Why do men cheat? Lily Allen & David Harbour edition

Cheat? They blurred the line by allowing her DH have sex with other woman.
When you play with fire someone gets burnt.
Even if you're paying.
Pair of idiots.
I feel sorry for the DC, not the overindulgence of this pair of attention seekers.

Emotionally abusive husband. Made me feel shameful for having sexual needs. Treated me like a child.whats happening in the marriage was the cause but with two children, mortgage etc divorce not on the table right now

Or you could be a grown up and leave

What a stupid post. He didn't wake up one day to find he was suddenly married to her. They would have met, dated then both decided to get married. It doesn't just happen. Presumably he loved her at that point

In the specific case, Harbour & Allen, it sounds like No Way should any of us be commenting. There are too many things being said yet truth is unclear, about what they agreed would be reasonable within their own marriage.

If Allen wants to say whatever to seek support from her personal buddies that's her perogative.

Many songs are based on grains of truths but are far from strictly truthful, there's been lots of artistic license usually if only to make verses rhyme or express a sentiment rather than tell an accurate story. So interpretting DH+LA marriage thru what songs she wrote (or on her album, anyway) wouldn't lead to an accurate picture of their actual situation. That's Putting aside that LA can only tell her side of the story and probably omitted aspects that don't fit with creating the emotion she wants song to evoke.... or that are simply too embarrassing !!

Songs are best interpretted as art not life,

They got married after maybe a year, and she took her two young daughters to live abroad with him in that time - after having had affairs, including with another married man.

It's not exactly a good template case for "why do men cheat?"

I'm not saying it was her fault he cheated, but the situation isn't awash with sensible people.

Unmarried/single women?

These types are all so whacked out on substances I genuinely doubt they know what they are doing and wuth whom.

Uninteresting people.

She's got a huge ego and a lot of issues.

He's got a huge ego and a lot of issues.

They had an open relationship apparently but he took it "too far".

How nasty

Yes, sometimes. Anyway I’m talking about their marriage was doomed to fail. Not specifically why he cheated. Plenty of people have already commented on the many reasons people cheat. But if you’re married to a nut job and the marriage is over then you may as well cheat. See Lily Allen. See Alice Evens.

I think the answer can be varying reasons but for many men it is simply the old why do dogs lick their bollocks thing.

So blame a woman for a man’s behaviour.

This. It was only a matter of time before it ended one way or another. No one was surprised. Train wreck.

It does not follow that the woman they are sleeping with is cheating on anybody.

People cheat for a whole myriad of reasons. There is really no one-size fits all.

I know (of) one man who is a serial cheat, everyone acknowledges he's pretty scuzzy. He just can't seem to keep it in his pants.

I have two good friends who are the most perfectly matched couple you'll ever meet. They met each other years ago while they were both in relationships (albeit not married) with other people. They are open about the fact that their relationship started in poor circumstances and that they didn't act as they should have done.

Some people cheat because they're bored, some because they feel undesired or unfulfilled in their relationship, some because they're addicted to the rush or the attention, some because they genuinely love the other man / woman, some because they're opportunists, some because they're bloody stupid and don't think.

Ew.

In todays episode of “A Woman is Always to Blame”.

Zero impulse control and lack of respect for their partner.

Cheryl Cole?😂😂😂😂

Jesus Christ OP , it reads from something like out of a movie ..
I thought he cheated out with friends one night & that was it ..
That sounds horrific ..
Your husband attacking you 😔 , & ending up in jail …
And you guys had such a lovely life..
I hope you find happiness again OP ❤️

I think in this particular case it is not that black and white.

It seems she cheated on her first husband and had an open marriage with her second.

I always think that open relationships will always end up in tears.

I do like her but I do think she seems to me to be rather troubled in general and she does not make the best decisions when it comes to healthy relationships.

In general I think people cheat because they want an ego boost, are bored in their relationship or simply think they can get away with it and have little respect for their partner. I think famous/wealthy people will also have people attracted to them because of their status so they have more opportunities to cheat as well.

@Missj25I’m in my 40s and he is nearly 50, this girl is in her late 20s. He tried to come back numerous times which I probably think flamed her anger of me.

She has no job so spends her day stalking people on social media. She even called my parents on Facebook messenger doing sex noises to them. She’s just not right at all.

She found my threads on here too which is why I constantly changed my username. I’m sick of mental health constantly being used to excuse behaviour, imo I think she needs locking up

This happened 2016/17 and even in the summer she was seen sat outside my house in her car, I don’t even know her! I have never done a single thing to her but she despises the ground I walk on. My ex DH said it’s because she’s very jealous and was worried he would come back to me. Believe me he tried numerous times over the years but as much as it broke my heart, I would never ever get back with him

@Missj25This is very outing but I don’t care at this point. The prostitute he cheated on me with started message my children. That’s how I found out he had cheated, I chucked him out and believe it or not he began a relationship with her. It turns out she had severe mental health issues and she started stalking my family and I.

My exDH attacked me and ended up in jail, which increased his prostitutes anger towards myself and all of my family. She ended up with a conviction but served no jail time.

When he was released I was given a restraining order against him, so he couldn’t hurt me but he hurt me financially instead. The OW then constantly called social services on me, called the rspca (I had no animals) called taxis, pizzas and everything else you could think of.

I left my job because she was calling up to 100 times a day, for no reason at all. I had never even met her, never spoken to her or anything. She was just crazy.

They split up and she’s left me alone now and is doing it to him, she’s terrorising him.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you ..x
How come everything went so awful? , I know that cheating is terrible obviously but whst happened ?

The woman the Daily Mail alleges he cheated with looks a lot like his ex. Regardless, they weren’t right for each other but it’s a shame for her children.