That the phrases "The Mrs", "The Wife", etc set my teeth on edge!

There was a TikTok trend doing that. 😂

Our Lass is the worst one for me. The men dh works with use this. Makes me shudder

I like to refer to DH as "my first husband" or "my current husband".

The other half, the old man, the husband, the fella. Women have got shit loads of names for their partner

I don't care about this at all.
My husband calls me "the missus" with his workmates (he's in a trade). He also bigs me up to them, introduces them to me whenever he gets an opportunity, talks infront of them about how proud he is of my career and the senior role I'm in, and has made it clear to them that I paid for him to retrain into his current line of work.
He's not using it in a misogynistic way and it's clear he has respect for me.

It's the 'the' that annoys me. My wife sounds personal but 'the' makes it sound like an inanimate object...the chair, the floor, the toaster.

And don't even get me started on people who refer to inanimate objects as 'she'.

I’ve said I’m ok with others using boyfriend/girlfriend to describe us if they want to. I wouldn't, and couldn’t, insist on anyone using partner to describe us in a couple sense. We choose to use partner for each other, but it’s the ‘my’ that is important, I’d hate if my partner used ‘the’. Thankfully he’s not a misogynist so he wouldn’t.

You seem to have problems with comprehension. I’m sorry that you do. As I said, partner can mean someone in an established unmarried couple, look it up. I hope you can work on your comprehension skills. 🙏

And yet, he’s still your boyfriend.

Mine calls me her indoors😂 also chain and ball, and yes in that order because he knows it pisses me off because obviously it's ball and chain,😠😂

I agree. Though "Her indoors" would make me grin.

Is that a response to me? I have been in a relationship with ‘my partner’ for almost 30 years, have children together, shared finances etc. No issue if someone calls him my boyfriend if they want to, I wouldn’t even care if he used ‘girlfriend’, but the important part, that you seem to have missed, is the using of the word ‘my’ not ‘the’. Partner can mean ‘an established unmarried couple’ though so it’s you that needs to get with it and get real.

Also, only using partner for same sex relationships is quite outdated. Lots of straight couples use it in long term relationships when they aren’t married. My female friend refers to her partner as ‘my girlfriend’ after 20 years together as she doesn’t like ‘partner’. It’s an individuals choice whether it’s partner or boyfriend or girlfriend etc, but I think using ‘my’ not ‘the’ matters to lots of people. If your partner, wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend etc doesn’t like ‘the’, you should listen and not do it.

I don’t know. I can’t see how they are sexist but I guess as a relatively new wife (4 years) I still find them endearing. Not that my husband has ever used them. But I do see that there is no male equivalent and that does raise questions 🤔

Ok but have you considered how annoying it is that people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as ‘partner’ like I’m expecting a same-sex relationship here, and no, it’s just your boyfriend. Get real.

My father referred to my mum as ‘the wife’ and me as ‘the daughter’, even to people who knew us by name. He is abusive, misogynistic and emotionally repressed.

I’m not married but my partner always says ‘my partner’ or uses my name if the person knows my name. It’s such a basic thing to do.

And me!! 😂

No

Her indoors, the missus, the leader of the opposition- not remotely misogynistic. Like women don’t have nicknames for their husbands or partners. Anachronistic at worst perhaps but they’re not underpinned by hatred or control.
Where I come from people refer to their loved ones with the prefix ‘Our…’ does that indicate possessiveness? Nope. Just familiarity and endearment.
I’d be the first to call out misogyny but this isn’t it.

Hating these expressions literally takes a nanosecond 😄

I could accept it ironically, but any man who uses it as a matter of course I find unimaginative and very dull. It's a lazy cliché for men who don't think.

DH doesn't use any of them afaik, but I don't see how 'the wife' is misogynistic. Its factual. People do sometimes refer to others they have a relationship with as 'the' whatever- the sister, the boyfriend, the bestie. I see a lot of it on social media in particular. I understand the stylistic objection but that's a different point.

'The Mrs' is incorrect in my case, and not a title I'd ever use, so I actively wouldn't want that.

Hate ‘hubbie’

My partner, my wife, the missus are all ok with me.
I don’t like it when people refer to their partner as the ‘other half’.. I think I’m just quite independent and would hate to be thought of as the other half or that I need another half. I don’t know. I don’t like it

’Her indoors’ is just revolting. Sounds like an old misogynist. Was rather hoping these old small minded men would be dying out, but looks like we might have the young replacing them.

I want to vomit when an old school friends husband on FB says 'out for drinks with this one' and there'll be a pic of the two of them...married for 30 years and he refers to her a 'this one'. 🤨😑 I mean, I get it...she's fine with it but if my DH ever said that I'd be 'er...wtf?' Hate that.

I prefer my name, I was once at my exH conference and someone came up and said oh you must be Mrs ‘his first name’ like I had no identity and didn’t care if I did.
A guy I was dating, referred to me as his woman, sounded like caveman ownership.

Misogyny has intent behind it.

It is not misogynistic just because you say it is.

According to <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.oxfordreference.com/abstract/10.1093/acref/9780195148909.001.0001/acref-9780195148909-e-699&sa=U&sqi=2&ved=2ahUKEwjHt7Llq8CQAxUQWkEAHTX5JVoQjJEMegQINxAB&usg=AOvVaw1KNZcgbdXyPvy911N5ENWe" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Oxford Reference, misogyny is the "hatred of women," which has been updated to also include "contempt for, or prejudice against women". It can also mean a dislike of women or a belief that they are not as good as men.

The constant expanding of a definition to include "things i don't like" is pathetic.

If my DP and I choose to call each other by names that you dislike it does not make us misogynist/misandrist. In the same way that when PoC use the n-word it's not racist, and women saying "damn right b*tch" to each other is not sexist.