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To be a bit stunned by Lily Allen’s new album

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AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 11:33

Oooofff. I mean it might as well be called Fuck You David Harbour, You Cheating Bastard. Safe to say she’s set a new bar for diaristic songwriting. I feel so sad for her, I know she’s not everyone’s favourite person but it’s always been clear that all she wanted was to love and be loved and she seemed so happy with him- he popped up on her podcast with Miquita Oliver a few times and seemed so genuine in the way he spoke about her… for it to all collapse in such spectacularly public and hideous fashion must have been awful to endure, so I don’t blame her for working through it by going back to what she does best but still… blimey. I feel like I’ve been spying in their bedroom or something after listening to it!

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Melonmango70 · 24/10/2025 13:10

AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:55

Why shouldn’t abortion be used as contraception? She can have as many as she bloody likes.

Are you for real?!

GreenFriedTomato · 24/10/2025 13:07

chaosmaker · 24/10/2025 12:53

It's still better than having kids you don't want or need.

I don't think it was about her having had abortions. That's nothing to be ashamed of. It was the bragging/laughing about it.

LifeSurvior · 24/10/2025 13:06

AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:55

Why shouldn’t abortion be used as contraception? She can have as many as she bloody likes.

Because its not bloody advised as a method of contraception!

Contraception is supposed to actively stop you getting pregnant not have operations, procedures or medicine AFTER you are pregnant, thats a completely different area of healthcare.

No medical practitioner would advise to a woman, yes go ahead we recommended using abortion as your contraception🙄

StoneColdAlibi · 24/10/2025 13:05

TheatricalLife · 24/10/2025 12:33

In that respect, you could say the same for David Harbour who has bipolar disorder though. I'm certainly not sticking up for him, but if Lily has excuses for her terrible behaviour, so can other people. She's just lucky that nobody else has been arsed to write an album listing all the shit she has done (yet).

She doesn’t need someone else to write about it, she has. Her book and last album both address her shit behaviour during addiction.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 24/10/2025 13:04

Bambamhoohoo · 24/10/2025 12:51

LA has always been open about her journey and struggles. We only know about her treatment of her ex husband because she told us. It’s not like she’s an arsehole who goes around wrecking havoc and never dealing with it.

she’s a damaged person who had a horrible upbringing and is open about that. I have a lot of time for her and can’t wait to hear the new album

I'm sure the prostitutes she uses (and encourages others to use) had wonderful childhoods and have a lot time for her, too.

ClarissR · 24/10/2025 12:59

Poor kids, hasn’t she got daughters who’ll be old enough to understand her new songs?

Bambamhoohoo · 24/10/2025 12:59

The thing about LA is the media and general public seemed to be determined not to apply any nuance or understanding to her statements. The abortion one being a perfect example. She lets thoughts and statements out to the world with little media training etc then then they are interrogated with all the intelligence you’d expect from a hardened NOTW journalist from the 90s

Halloweenisrathernice · 24/10/2025 12:56

AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:15

Wasn’t she pretty deep into her drug/alcohol addiction at the time?

Wait? She cheated on her ex with sex workers ? Male or female?( not that it matters ). She isn't that nice a person is she ? Her ex's aren't very nice either eh ?

AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:55

Toseland · 24/10/2025 12:37

I've not forgiven her for claiming she "didn't know how many abortions she'd had" and laughing about it; not because I'm anti-abortion, but because it shouldn't be used as contraception and she is in an influential position for young women.

Why shouldn’t abortion be used as contraception? She can have as many as she bloody likes.

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AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:54

JudgeBread · 24/10/2025 12:42

Does David Harbour also get a pass then because he's bipolar and has also struggled with alcoholism and suicidal ideation?

Saying that there is an explanation for someone’s actions isn’t the same as giving them a pass

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plushcarpet · 24/10/2025 12:54

YouCantProveIt · 24/10/2025 12:42

She used sex workers to cheat on her first husband.

Her second husband used sex workers with her consent per her album. Per her album what she was upset about is he had sex with someone who wasn't a sex worker.

So her compliant is - it is fine to use sex workers in our marriage. But have feelings for another person and I will sing all about it.

Not a nice person.

Grim.

chaosmaker · 24/10/2025 12:53

Toseland · 24/10/2025 12:37

I've not forgiven her for claiming she "didn't know how many abortions she'd had" and laughing about it; not because I'm anti-abortion, but because it shouldn't be used as contraception and she is in an influential position for young women.

It's still better than having kids you don't want or need.

Bambamhoohoo · 24/10/2025 12:51

LA has always been open about her journey and struggles. We only know about her treatment of her ex husband because she told us. It’s not like she’s an arsehole who goes around wrecking havoc and never dealing with it.

she’s a damaged person who had a horrible upbringing and is open about that. I have a lot of time for her and can’t wait to hear the new album

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 24/10/2025 12:51

Her new boobs are quite good though... no plans to listen to her music. She can't sing.

Happyjoe · 24/10/2025 12:49

I gave her dad a lift once, he was very hungover. Was all a bit surreal as not a taxi driver.

Horrible though to have private life played out in public, but that's the fame game - can't turn it off when it suits you.

Winterrobin3 · 24/10/2025 12:46

Omg
Lilly Allen has done a new album...that's fantastic,I've wished she would for years .I love everything she's done ,and her videos are always fab to
Can't wait to listen to it

GreenFriedTomato · 24/10/2025 12:45

I've never had thoughts about her either way.
That podcast where she laughed and bragged about how many abortions she'd had made me feel sick though

YouCantProveIt · 24/10/2025 12:42

She used sex workers to cheat on her first husband.

Her second husband used sex workers with her consent per her album. Per her album what she was upset about is he had sex with someone who wasn't a sex worker.

So her compliant is - it is fine to use sex workers in our marriage. But have feelings for another person and I will sing all about it.

Not a nice person.

TallulahBetty · 24/10/2025 12:42

DarlingJo · 24/10/2025 12:04

I would say I actively dislike Lily. And I wanted to like her, I listended to their podcast thinking now I'm older, and a bit wiser I might see her in a different light, but I just don't. However, you can dislike someone and acknowledge that they've been treated fucking horribly by the most vile men. She seems to have more than her fair share of that. I'm going to check out her album now.

Exactly how I feel. I can't stand her, but she has been done dirty.

JudgeBread · 24/10/2025 12:42

AngeloMysterioso · 24/10/2025 12:24

It doesn’t at all, but would explain some of her poor decision making

Does David Harbour also get a pass then because he's bipolar and has also struggled with alcoholism and suicidal ideation?

bluevelvetcurtains · 24/10/2025 12:38

TheatricalLife · 24/10/2025 12:33

In that respect, you could say the same for David Harbour who has bipolar disorder though. I'm certainly not sticking up for him, but if Lily has excuses for her terrible behaviour, so can other people. She's just lucky that nobody else has been arsed to write an album listing all the shit she has done (yet).

I agree. I cant stand the bloke but if you are saying its ok because Lily had MH problems, then the same applies to him......... 🤷‍♀️

EmmaHarte · 24/10/2025 12:37

If you get chance, listen to her audiobook My Thoughts Exactly. It’s quite a revelation!

Toseland · 24/10/2025 12:37

I've not forgiven her for claiming she "didn't know how many abortions she'd had" and laughing about it; not because I'm anti-abortion, but because it shouldn't be used as contraception and she is in an influential position for young women.

ClockworkGoose · 24/10/2025 12:37

Stunned at Lilly Allen going to extraordinary lengths to get attention? Not really, no.

Lottapianos · 24/10/2025 12:34

Not a fan of hers, but I watched a video a couple of years ago of her and David showing a camera crew around their house in New York. I thought he came across as a complete dick. I'm glad she's not with him anymore, from the sounds of it the marriage was a pretty messed up experience