To not clean up DH’s sick

You need to divorce him. He has no respect for you or your children and by staying married to this vile pig you are setting a terrible example to your daughter.

The being sick isn’t a dealbreaker for me, the projecting, lack of remorse and nasty behaviour is. It sounds like this isn’t a one off and it’s the last straw. YANBU.

Cancel the holiday and start divorce proceedings.
Tell you DC you will organise another holiday for just the 3 of you.

Also, book for a cleaning company to come in and do a deep clean and make him pay.

Christ, what an utter PIG.

What a disgusting man child.

I'd be sending him this thread and packing his bags.

He needs to know how vile he is.

he has no respect for you, puking everywhere and then thinking you should clean it up is beyond unpleasant. Go out with your child as others have suggested and hope that he has cleared it up when you get back and then tell him this is totally unacceptable and ask how he intends to change and behave like a partner and a parent

Your daughter will be far happier having her holiday cancelled/postponed and not having to put up with and witness your husbands abusive behaviour to you and to her instead of carrying on this nightmare even longer. Ring women’s aid and educate yourself on what keeping your children in this situation does to them - they often end up with abusive partners themselves because they have grown up thinking this is acceptable because mum stays with dad!

Get child maintenance off him. Two DC, 20% of his net salary minimum.

And he can contribute toward holidays, uniforms, school trips.

kick the fucker out and then call women’s aid and register for the group sessions to learn about domestic abuse and how to not put yourself and your children through this again x

If you’re at the point of being repulsed then 100% it’s over.

Pissing and puking. Ruining couches and mattresses. That’s just rank. I get the disgust.

Glad you have a FT job. Time to see a solicitor?

Blimey that's shocking. I agree tell the school the truth about the homework.

I'd be gone.

We've never been sick anywhere except the bathroom even when we've had gastroenteritis. Not only was he sick everywhere he was then vile to you.

I wouldn't have this. He's telling you what your place is.

I would not be going on holiday with him. He can go and take the children if they want to go. You could stay home and start getting organised for divorce.

You have reached that point where you have had enough. There is no point even trying to talk about it with him.

Get legal advice re getting him out safely.

He sounds vile.

You will be well rid of him eventually hopefully. Don't waste what's left of your life on him.

I think grown adults should clean up their own vomit.

Can you start the divorce process on-line? Tomorrow go to the bank and draw out half of what is in the joint account. Get your ducks in a row.

Also, hire a professional cleaning company to do an emergency deep clean while you and DD are staying in a hotel away from the stench. Pay for all this from his half of the joint account.

Good luck.

He sounds repulsive, both for this, for failing to clean up properly, and for his attitude towards you. You and your kids deserve better.

I would say that this, plus this morning and the fact he's done it before, are all signs that this is somebody with an issue with alcohol. Over the years, all the people (men and women btw) I've known who did stuff like this, turned out to have alcohol issues which at some point, caused the disintegration of their personal and working lives. When we were in our 20s, we'd be like, 'oh what are they like' after these type of incidents, but now I look back, it was definitely a warning sign of people who just have no off switch for alcohol. Its easily dismissed in the UK because alcohol is such a large part of our culture, but what you are describing is not a healthy relationship with alcohol. Could he stop drinking do you think? The partner of somebody I knew always denied they had an issue. Said they could stop anytime they liked. Just didn't want to. After one incident, they said they would have some alcohol free weeks. But then there was always a reason why this week wasn't the right week. After about 3 months, they admitted/realised that they couldn't actually go a week without alcohol, and that that was a problem, they went to see somebody to do something about it. Wishing you luck.

How did you/he clean the vomit from the mattress? Did you give it a good soak and scrub with a wet cloth? Shake N Vac type things can just mask the smell.

He cleans up. If it’s not done when you get home book into a hotel.

You could always play the long game, stand back and let him drink himself to death.
Might not take long if you can also facilitate any other unhealthy habits that he might be prone to.

I second this.

Yuck, what a moron. Did you really not want to do better than trash like that

I'd say that the huge income disparity is a big part of why this man feels he can do whatever he likes, he feels he owns op because he is the one providing most of the money.