To not clean up DH’s sick

Bin him OP.
He sounds abusive, lazy and selfish....to call you a 'fucking prick' and not care that he has ruined the house like that.
You even having to debate whether he or you should clean it up tells me he is used to being allowed to disrespect you.
This is no environment for your poor kids.
He clearly has a drinking problem and needs to deal with it.
Any decent partner would likely not behave like that in the first place and if they were sick like that would be mortified and taking full responsibility to clear it up.

This ^

This the unforgivable thing is his attitude and I wouldn’t get over that at all

I am not disagreeing with the sentiment that he should do it himself, my concern would be that if you go out for the day and he doesn't, it's going to stain badly and smell, especially if you are going to leaving the house unaired for a week or so.

Drinking too much and being sick - I can't be too prissy about it as I have done the same in the past, but somehow I always managed to get it into a container of some description if there was no loo available (word of warning - check that the spare carrier bag in the glove compartment doesn't have those little holes in the bottom).

Fair enough 😅🙈

Make sure to take photographs. You’ll need evidence to support your contention post divorce that he has an alcohol problem and is unfit to be in solo charge of children.

He hasn’t been sick like this for a long time but has had incidents when hes been drunk which has lead to us nearly splitting up numerous times. I feel to blame as if I had split last time this wouldn’t of happened and my DD wouldn’t be upset!

Listen to your instincts. If he's reached 51 years old and still hasn't mastered knowing how much he can drink or gained the emotional maturity to be apologetic and proactive at cleaning when he fucks up, it's not going to get better. None of this is your fault, so don't feel guilty for your DD, you've tried to give him a chance to change his behaviour and it's him who's chosen to put alcohol before his family.

I can't deal with sick, I'd have to burn down the house.

I couldn’t be married to someone who gaslit me and didn’t take responsibility. That’s without the sick….your poor DC.

Ok sometimes you drink too much and you're sick. But that doesn't make it right he's being nasty to you now. Why is he doing that? Is this what he is normally like?

This is an exact replica of my morning. My partner went out last night and got home at god knows what time. First time I knew he was home was when he ran out of bed into the bathroom to squeal like a stuck pig as he puked his guts up! This was followed by excessive moaning and groaning until he had to go back to finish the job 20mins later. He stayed in there until he’d cleaned his own mess up and the bathroom was actually spotless when I got up. Your partner should 100% be cleaning his own mess without complaint and be apologising for disturbing you both.

I’d clear out if someone was ill but alcohol is on them. I might wake them to do it TBH.

How awful OP!
I don’t say this to be cruel but think about how this looks for your poor daughter, our kids learn so much about what to aim for with their future relationships from their parents. It must have been awful for her waking to hearing him like that. The fact he’s being so bloody contrary today too and not mortified and full of apologies is dreadful.

A grown man drinking so much that he throws up is not ideal, but sometimes you over do it and as long as it is not a frequent thing, fine.

But he is being an asshole about it. Leave him to it. He can clean it up, you can go on about your day. He doesn't have to get nasty

ex shat everywhere when pissed. He did clean it up BUT his attitude… he blamed absolutely everything and everyone rather than take responsibility… it was him in a nutshell … in the end his affair wasn’t even his fault. Pathetic. He is showing you how he views the world.

If it was ‘just’ being sick, I’d be annoyed but forgive it, IF it was a one off and he was truly sorry and contrite and cleaned everything up himself. We all misjudge our limits sometimes. As none of that seems to be true, and his complete lack of respect for you seems to be a bit overwhelming, I’d be seriously questioning the future of my relationship. Sorry op.

He was swearing at you?! Is your relationship normally good?

I would tell him to clean it up - and then seek therapy as to why you have accepted such behaviour for so long.

Clearly you’re an awful wife and for his good you should leave him, and put in a claim to the CMA.

Jeez. It takes some nerve to throw up from booze all over the living room and then blame it on someone else. As you say he has form and you regret not leaving last time, I would suggest strongly that this time you do separate. He sounds like an alcoholic and emotionally abusive.

Pretty disgusting but I think you have a bigger issue here.
The way he talks and behaves, he doesn’t have any respect for you

You last post shows what he thinks of you. I don’t think I could get over that.

Is he Dd's bio father or a new husband?

So its your fault!? Wow. Not acceptable.

The only prick in your house is your twat of an H. As PP said, stay out and let him deal with it. Remind him (via text) where the cleaning materials are

Do. Not. Clean. It.

Leave him to do it and go out all day.