Trigger - peer on peer abuse
My 12yr old (Yr 8) DD has revealed that one of her female classmates has been inappropriately touching her and a number of other girls - examples are putting her hand on the inside of DD’s thigh and moving further up, licking the side of DD’s head and then DD pulled away saying eurgh, did you just lick me? the other girl’s response was to look DD up and down and state that’s not the only place I want to lick you, touching between DD’s legs - explained as a quick rub/touch, putting both hands on another girl’s breasts and saying, oh they’ve grown, and the thing that finally tipped DD and the other 4 girls into reporting the behaviour, pinning DD up against a wall in the changing rooms, with one leg up, her body pressing against DD and ‘moaning’ in DD’s ear (DD too embarrassed to say what the moaning was). This was the second time she had pinned DD like this and when DD told her to get off she wouldn’t and two other girls appeared and had to physically remove her from DD. Other girls have said to the girl’s closer friends is she always like this (re the touching) and they’ve laughed and said yes, she is…so also worrying that she might be doing it to an even larger group who are afraid to speak out.
School have put a plan in place to keep them apart but not really enforcing it, the girl doing this has been spoken with (as have her parents) but her behaviour at school since this happened is concerning in that there doesn’t seem to be any remorse, and she just keeps staring at DD as if she’s angry with her for reporting. School say they don’t assign ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’ which I get because I’d assume that something must have happened/be happening to this girl to make her behave this way, however my DD is traumatised, panicky symptoms whenever the girl speaks in class etc and I don’t know what route the school should be taking to deal with the situation. It doesn’t help that the girl is Head Girl, which is seen as a privilege but DD and other girls can’t see why she gets to keep this privilege.
Appreciate this is a bit long winded - would love some advice from any teachers out there as to what the correct procedure for the school to follow is and AIBU to think this should be taken more seriously? (I know there could be things going on behind the scenes that we can’t be told about, which I understand, of course).