I don't like how people tend to speak to their children

Thank you! 🥇 Night night folks!

Aye, it just seemed to have it all!

Anyone who admits they dont have kids & yet comes to tell parents they don't like how they parent and they can do it much better with chocolate is on a wind up tho.

Anyway, you keep shouting at your kids if you like. It makes them upset and unhappy and so you get upset and unhappy - it’s an ever decreasing circle. Break the cycle and treat your kids with respect and understanding - trust me, you will be far happier!

After the children are morbidly obese from all the chocolate bribes, how do you persuade them to take Ozempic?

Shouting and commanding kids has become so normal that many think it “works.” Sure, it gets short term results, but it teaches fear, not respect.

But you just said that you wouldn't speak to them in a way you wouldn't speak to adults. But also said you speak to them in no uncertain terms. Rather implying your firm with them and insisting that they do something.

So that means you would speak to adults in the same manner.

But now you wouldn't...?

But it's good for you that you're a perfect parent that has never once snapped at your children, never made a mistake in tone, never once shown any signs of frustration, never ever made a mistake. Well done. Gold medal.

Try being a single mum to five under ten. Never mind 'speaking shortly' or 'issuing directives', you're heading for sainthood if you just don't lose your utter shit at least twice a day.

The shoe is just an example. I could have been “wash up now”

Sorry but I don’t understand the rest of your comment.

Lol… clutching at straws there. I’ll tell DC to please put their shoes on because we’re going to school now. No, I don’t talk to my mum that way, because she doesn’t need asking to put her shoes on and she doesn’t go to school!

they're normally drop a bomb and run though...

What an interesting 'what three words' username to accompany a post bound to annoy.

No kids? Knows it all? Chocolate bribes?
Marvellous.

I smell bullshit

Oh, so you obviously tell other adults to do things in no uncertain terms then, yes? You're authoritative with your colleagues...your mum... Your husband...

Nice...

Like I say, I’ve told them to do things in no uncertain terms, but no, I’ve never spoken to them in a way that I wouldn’t speak to other adults. I wouldn’t yell or be rude to another adult and I don’t do that to DC either.

OP has said she doesn't have kids ,and her magical method of getting kids to comply is to bribe them with chocolate.

JFC OP, you don’t need to tell us you don’t have a child, that’s very apparent.

So you put your kids shoes in a bag… how will they walk to school? And how will you persuade them to leave the house? Do you genuinely think us parents are here just criticising school all the time and that’s why kids don’t want their shoes on?!

This is hilarious! It’s so obvious you don’t have children of your own 😆 How old are you OP? Your kids are going to end up very overweight with bad teeth if you’re going to bribe them with chocolate every time you want them to do something.

Sorry to disappoint, but no - they’re not!

So....you've NEVER ONCE snapped, made mistakes in words or tomez spoken in a less than wonderful manner, never once lost your patience?

Every interaction with your children has been perfect and beyond criticism?

🤨

do You have kids op?
because when it’s 7am, you’ve asked them 6-7 times to do something, they’ve point blank not listened. Bearing in mind you started nicely by saying something like ‘ honey, it’s time to put your shoes on …. It’s now 20 minutes later and your almost late for school drop off… you bet your bottom dollar that gentle parenting is going out the window and they suddenly listen when you lose your preverbial shit, to then turn around and ask why your so mad. Parenting ain’t for the weak.

If "demand" means "make them do things they don't want to then errr, I've genuinely no idea how that's possible.

If I let my daughter do exactly what she wants:

• regularly late to school/ nursery
• go out without shoes/ coat
• run into road due to not holding hands
• dirty due to no bath
• possibly dead due to not demanding she spit out choking hazards

I mean seriously. I get down to eye level, I speak calmly respectfully I apologise when I make mistakes, I leave time for independence, I give autonomy where possible but sometimes things need doing.

When my husband is faffing and we risk missing our booked train, I demand he leave the house too. No shame.

I've got my son better drilled than my husband in this regard.

If I say we're going out he runs around packing the pram with drinks and snacks, and brings me out shoes and jackets.

I WISH my husband were that efficient.

So you believe they should be spoken to like adults and have autonomy but say they’re not adults and can’t have any demands put on them. Your entire argument is full of flaws and contradictions. If I were to have bribed my DC when they were younger with chocolate every time I needed them to do something then they’d have quickly realised they just need to not do anything and they’ll get bribes. Kids need boundaries specifically because they’re not capable of being adults yet and making all sort of decisions for themselves. Otherwise they wouldn’t need to live with their parents for so long to survive. Sure there’s times when they can and should have input but there’s plenty of times where they just need to be told. The same goes for adults in many cases.

Lol your kids must be the size of a house.

Aldi don't do home delivery. It's more expensive to shop at the other supermarket and have them deliver.