I don't like how people tend to speak to their children

So you bribed him with chocolate coins? If you bribed an adult, you would be breaking the law.

How many kids do you have?

You can put their shoes in a bag to take with them if they decide they want to wear them at school. The local authority would probably try to throw you in jail if your child didn't go to school so I would just try to be really positive about school with things to look forward to and persuasive, and even bribery. To be honest I don't have my own child but I spend a lot of time with a friend and their child who is really difficult and I managed to get them out of the house to places

You can put their shoes in a bag to take with them if they decide they want to wear them at school. The local authority would probably try to throw you in jail if your child didn't go to school so I would just try to be really positive about school with things to look forward to and persuasive, and even bribery. To be honest I don't have my own child but I spend a lot of time with a friend and their child who is really difficult and I managed to get them out of the house to places

I believe children should be spoken to as you would speak any other adult person. Yes you would not tell an adult to put their shoes on. If you ask nicely and they don't do it then they don't want to do it. If you are having screen battles dont give your child a personal ipad or console in the first place? Maybe look at the root reasons that a child doesnt want to do something or would prefer to do something else. You would not stand there and demand an adult eats their dinner if they dont like it? Should be free to choose what they want to eat. I think parents are the ones making things more difficult than they have to be. I have been reading about mental health and you need to listen to your own cues and energy levels, letting children listen to themselves and what they want to do is how they learn to do that. Maybe they need some time out. I persuaded a friends 6 year old to get in the car by offering him chocolate coins, and she could not understand how I had done it because she usually battled with him. Intimidating your children and scaring them into compliance which is what you are doing by shouting at them is wrong apart from in a life threatening or dangerous situation like being in the road, there are few reasons you would need to demand your child do anything and I think this will be one of the things that are looked at in the future about what was wrong with parenting in this generation.

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I’ll admit you had me until the chocolate coins bit. You overplayed your hand.

If he didn't want to go then he would have said. The issue was that he was taking a long time to get in the car, but offering him something he wanted made getting into the car a goal to strive towards to get his reward.

Fairly sure if another adult spoke to you the way that you speak to your children you would not like it. 'put your shoes on now' 'go to bed now' 'get in the car now' many other examples, or changing your tone of voice to be different than if you were speaking to another adult. Why do parents do this.

I believe children should be spoken to as you would speak any other adult person. Yes you would not tell an adult to put their shoes on. If you ask nicely and they don't do it then they don't want to do it. If you are having screen battles dont give your child a personal ipad or console in the first place? Maybe look at the root reasons that a child doesnt want to do something or would prefer to do something else. You would not stand there and demand an adult eats their dinner if they dont like it? Should be free to choose what they want to eat. I think parents are the ones making things more difficult than they have to be. I have been reading about mental health and you need to listen to your own cues and energy levels, letting children listen to themselves and what they want to do is how they learn to do that. Maybe they need some time out. I persuaded a friends 6 year old to get in the car by offering him chocolate coins, and she could not understand how I had done it because she usually battled with him. Intimidating your children and scaring them into compliance which is what you are doing by shouting at them is wrong apart from in a life threatening or dangerous situation like being in the road, there are few reasons you would need to demand your child do anything and I think this will be one of the things that are looked at in the future about what was wrong with parenting in this generation.

I believe children should be spoken to as you would speak any other adult person. Yes you would not tell an adult to put their shoes on. If you ask nicely and they don't do it then they don't want to do it. If you are having screen battles dont give your child a personal ipad or console in the first place? Maybe look at the root reasons that a child doesnt want to do something or would prefer to do something else. You would not stand there and demand an adult eats their dinner if they dont like it? Should be free to choose what they want to eat. I think parents are the ones making things more difficult than they have to be. I have been reading about mental health and you need to listen to your own cues and energy levels, letting children listen to themselves and what they want to do is how they learn to do that. Maybe they need some time out. I persuaded a friends 6 year old to get in the car by offering him chocolate coins, and she could not understand how I had done it because she usually battled with him. Intimidating your children and scaring them into compliance which is what you are doing by shouting at them is wrong apart from in a life threatening or dangerous situation like being in the road, there are few reasons you would need to demand your child do anything and I think this will be one of the things that are looked at in the future about what was wrong with parenting in this generation.