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Mother in Law has been stalking and harassing me

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TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 07/10/2025 22:51

Am I being unreasonable?

For months I have had a series of missed calls from a mobile number. I usually block any spam calls or my phone blocks them automatically. I will also Google numbers and if they are obviously spam I will block them. This number was not obviously spam

For reference I work in a building with little to no signal. I have tried to dial this number back when I get out of work as it was not obviously a spam number. It has never answered! I have sent numerous texts after calls asking who it was and threatening to report them.

Today I had a medical appointment and so I was at home but in the shower. The number called and I messaged it. I told.my husband went to my appointment and thought not much further about it today (because I temporarily lost my vision due to medical appointment). Tonight, I realised my husband had messaged me asking for the number so I sent it to him.

He has replied saying it is his mother!

I know she can read texts.
I have a different mobile number saved for her.
Why would she never mention it or have given me her new mobile number?

For months I thought it may have been one of any number of people I have had to take disciplinary action with. Due to the line of work I am in that is a common occurrence.

I cannot believe the number belongs to my mother in law and has effectively made me feel stalked and harassed for an excessive number of months.

AIBU?

I am angry, hurt confused and upset. My husband has brushed it off.

OP posts:
TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 07/10/2025 22:59

I have had persistent and monthly calls. Every single message asking who it was has gone unanswered. Every single call back has gone unanswered. It has made me feel like someone I have taken action with has some how got my number. I was on the brink of reporting it and my husband asked for the number. Why would she never mention she swapped her number or say "you haven't answered my calls?" Or respond to texts or simply say she gor a new number. It isn’t like she doesn't know my number clearly she didn't tell me she had a new number.

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terriblemuriel2 · 07/10/2025 22:59

I wouldn’t call it stalking but it is weird that she hasn’t answered the phone or replied to your texts. I’d have a word with her in person before you jump to more sinister assumptions though.

BellissimoGecko · 07/10/2025 22:57

How many calls are we talking? Unless it’s hundreds, I’d have thought that reporting them was a bit off.

Awkward. How do you usually get on with your MIL?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/10/2025 22:57

In what way is this stalking?

TeddySchnauzer · 07/10/2025 22:55

Huh? How on earth is she ‘stalking’ you by simply calling from a different number than that which you have saved for her?! Talk about hyperbole, my god.