Is this acceptable in the workplace?

in what way is saying that a long queue is like a long queue sexual and misogny?

I genuinely want to know as I just can’t see it.

While it wouldn’t bother me I can see how people might think it’s inappropriate to make a reference to something sexual in the work place but no one has explained in what way this comment was discriminatory to women or hateful to them.

Why opt for the personal attack?

Why not just answer the question?

Which role he assigned the OP in his simile when asked for the time line for the deliverable?

It’s people like you who give women a bad name and mean that real sexism and misogyny is easily dismissed.

This ^ was you dismissing the comment as within the bounds of professional conduct not sexist nor misogyny.

So which role is the OP assigned in his simile?

The prostitute being abused?

Or abuser engaged in the abuse of the prostitute?

That IS real sexism and misogyny. How can you (and the rest of the 15%) not see that this at best, is the thin end of the wedge and at worst is him being on his “best behaviour” so goodness knows what he’s like inside the workplace.
He needs calling out on this. Don’t you have safeguarding training in your workplace? I mine, that would be a sample of completely unacceptable behaviour.
Thise of you who think this is okay; how would you feel if your sons and partners said that to you? In my opinion, if you’d laugh it off, you have a problem with self-esteem.

Well done on calling him out. What an idiot. Talking about sex at work is always inappropriate and will make many feel uncomfortable.

Oh, I did read about her - on Mumsnet! I didn't remember her name.

My goodness, it definitely was an inappropriate comment but the poo emoji takes the biscuit imo.

Unpleasant, unprofessional and immature.

I wouldn't want him sacked but he should be reprimanded. The guy needs to grow up.

I completely disagree with this.

It's the broken window theory. Not calling out comments like this is how we normalise misogyny - and we absolutely should not be normalising it.

I'm not saying this is sackable behaviour, but it is something that he should be pulled up on - and preferably by a man so you aren't seen as the "hysterical woman who can't take a joke"

You called him out on it. He knows he overstepped. No need to take it further unless he makes further (or has a history of making) unprofessional comments.

I agree. It was just a dumb comment.

Referring to porn is not appropriate for work, but someone who thinks using the poo emoji at work is appropriate is probably too immature to ever admit that.

OK workplace cultures can differ, but in the places I have worked any sex reference on a work chat would be considered inappropriate and unprofessional. I certainly don't want to see or hear that kind of thing at work.

Good luck with that! Will have the same jocking effect in friendly work environment and you don't have to post specifics about some random porn stuff.
He is the one wrong.

I'm slightly confused on the timeline.

He said the thing about Bonnie Blue.
You didn't know who that was.
Did a colleague then say it was inappropriate? Or are you referring to yourself after you looked it up?
You called him out publicly
He sent you a poo emoji (privately or to the whole chat?)
Others have messaged you privately to say they agree with you, but haven't joined you in calling him out publicly?
He's now on annual leave

Yes, it was inappropriate, unprofessional. But it also sounds like you might have gone to lengths to catch him out. Is there more history there?

Yes me too !! 😂😂😂

In view of this I would screenshot it and raise it with my line manager -as example of as a issues

1. inappropriate unprofessional sexual reference
2. immature unprofessional response to feedback
3. unable to address as on leave
4. if he was asked for timeline about work - difficult to work with as didn’t give you one and went off

This is very obviously inappropriate

It's unprofessional to even admit you know who Bonnie Blue is!

I think that's a bit ridiculous. There's all sorts of things I wouldn't bring up at work, but I wouldn't feign wide-eyed innocence if they were referred to.

If the job that needed doing was photographing the company's annual sexy calendar, fake tanning Sydney Sweeney's legs or similar then the comment would be crass and inappropriate because it was the suggestion people would be desperate to do something under the guise of work

If the job is just an easy job which everyone wants to do... you can understand it more

Why lie to us?

I agree with this. This response is more problematic for me than the original comment, especially given his relative seniority.

She is a porn star who slept with over 1000 men in one day

OP I'm C-Suite and I can quarantee that with every takeover I get a dickwad trying to undermine me.
I do the M & A for my female founders and along comes M'laddo to show me how it's really done.
One told me about his Victoria's secret orgy. I licked my lips and said he must be gifted! He was out of my office in the speed of light.

Your colleague is an arse and if he repeats it I'd have a tendency to say you wouldn't know, personally you don't pay for sex!
I've been called prickly, ball breaker, a battleship. I actually don't care. I'm 59 so retiring shortly but boy these guys are such knobends. Their mothers must be so proud.

I honestly haven't heard of her, I don't want to google in case it's something objectionable and will be in my search history. I gather from the comments she is a porn actress or something similar in which case it was an unacceptable comment.

People are so uptight it was a joke. Laugh don't laugh whatever but does it really need this much thought and energy put into it

Me too! Let's say it was an appropriate joke from a decent bloke. Having understood that what he said was offensive to someone (even if he's too dim to understand why) a normal person would have excused himself. Sending the poo emoji is not only very immature but also shows a total lack of respect for the OP. This would make me take things to HR @Middleware .